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A couple can enter the marriage, it needs a great fate, but also need to work together.
When they first got married, they mostly wanted to live a lifetime, but in the days that followed, the feelings between them gradually changed, and the freshness disappeared. If you rely only on the sense of responsibility, you will one day endure to the limit, and at that time, you will not be far from dispersing.
In fact, a couple gradually drifting apart, there are often traces to follow, the most obvious of which is the following three signs, if more than two, then when to disperse, may be only a matter of time.
If you still don't want to give up at this time, and still feel that this marriage has a chance to save, then you must not let it deteriorate, but actively solve the problem.
One: Communication is becoming less and less, and there is no longer any concern for everything about each other
Married people, although still independent individuals, but together to form a family, it is necessary to work together for the sake of this family. At this time, communication and communication are indispensable, on the one hand, you can express yourself, on the other hand, you can discuss and solve problems together.
If there is less and less communication, and there is almost no communication between each other, then it means that two people have been separated.
When we first fell in love, we cared about everything about each other, even if the time to reply to WeChat was a little late, I would feel very mindful. But later, I didn't love anymore, and I didn't contact him for many days, and I felt that there was no wave in my heart.
Two: either quarrel or cold war, there is no longer any love between each other
Marriage is two people facing the storm of life together, such a side by side, it is inevitable that people forget the wind and snow when they are in love, and excessively yearn for freedom.
Regaining the romance of love and reminiscing about the sweet moments of love together can also inject freshening into marriage. Freedom is certainly desirable, but freedom means no worries, and it also means no dependence.
The needle has no two ends, enjoys the happiness of marriage, and naturally has to be willing to give up some freedom.
It's just that many people can't put this mentality right, and after they enter a marriage, they gradually get tired of it, either quarreling with each other or having a cold war with each other. When cold violence becomes a norm, the heart is cold, and it is difficult to warm up after the cold.
And when there is no longer any love for each other, that is, when it comes to the end.
Three: Excessive desire for freedom
The book "The Siege" has this description of marriage: people outside the city want to come in, people in the city want to go out. When we are partners with our significant other, we have deeply understood that this happiness is obtained in exchange for some freedom.
Married people can't get drunk late at night and go home and fall asleep. Once you return late, the other half will definitely call many times, which is disciplined and happy. Because when you come home drunk, someone will make honey water for you and cover your clothes and quilts.
When you are single, you crave this intimate thoughtfulness. Married, but tired of this warmth, excessive desire for freedom. People are not content with the status quo and are too eager for what they have lost or what they have not had.
Finding that the other party is excessively eager for freedom in marriage is also a "sign" of the end of the couple's relationship. If this red flag is handled properly, it will inject fresh blood into the marriage. When you find that the other person is excessively eager for freedom, you can create more surprises for your partner.
If the marriage is bland and tasteless, making the other party yearn for freedom, it can make the marriage always keep passionate. Try to go back to the old place where you were in love with your partner, watch the videotape of your marriage together, and revisit the scenery you have traveled with your partner.
A lifetime is so long, the road to traveling together is not short, and it is normal to be tired and tired. In marriage, it is inevitable that there will be signs of the end of the relationship between husband and wife, but as long as you wait strictly and handle it properly, you can safely tide over the difficulties.
If you want your marriage to move forward steadily and safely every time you encounter a red flag, you must maintain respect for your marriage and maintain love and affection for your marriage partner.
Marriage is a solemn and sacred process of life, and love is the best weapon to resolve the crisis of marriage. It's just an excuse for masturbation after we've done our best to keep it.
If you want to persuade yourself that your husband and wife are all about this, you need to make an effort, and finally you can have no regrets and no shame.
Husband and wife are common life, it is inevitable to have a headache and brain fever, the right medicine is good, after all, they must accompany each other until they are old, watching their children and grandchildren around their knees, sharing the joy of the world.
Treat marriage with a positive attitude and try your best to solve problems. Instead of being negative, as soon as something is wrong, think about the end of the divorce. Never question whether this marriage can come to an end, is the absolute confidence you should have in the marriage.
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