Some people say: If the marriage is well run, it is a honeypot; if it is not well managed, it is a fire pit.
But if the marriage is to be well managed, it is not only inseparable from the maintenance and operation of both husband and wife, but also inseparable from the deliberate maintenance of both parents and families. But anything else is missing, and marriage can become shaky.
As it has been said, the invasion of children's marriages by parents can turn family relationships into mashed potatoes. Therefore, if permitted, parents of both parties must not interfere too much with the marriage and family of their children.
01, the husband received 6 members of the in-laws' family to come to the New Year
In order to go back to whose house for the New Year, Rowling and her husband quarreled over it for a whole month. The husband always insisted that the two people were married, and Rowling should go back to his in-laws' house for the New Year, after all, marrying a chicken with a chicken and marrying a dog with a dog.
But Rowling believes that every time she goes back to her in-laws' house, she is a free nanny, serving her in-laws alone, and no year is comfortable, so she wants to go back to her parents' house. Her parents, as a child, had long been looking forward to her taking the child back to her mother's house for the New Year.
The couple quarreled over this matter, and neither of them was willing to compromise. In the end, the husband saw that he could not convince Rowling, so he simply concealed her and went back to his hometown to take his parents and his brother's family of four to the house.
Looking at the crowded home, Rowling was simply out of breath. She thought that her husband had stopped arguing recently, but had stopped beating the flag and accepted the fact that she had returned to her mother's house.
But who knows, the husband suddenly came to this set, completely did not pay attention to her, and did not respect her opinion. Otherwise, the husband will take his parents, a big son, and in the end, she is not the only one who is tired and bitter?
02, the wife also gambled to receive parents: whose parents are waiting
Rowling was hurt, but she didn't want to be left behind. Therefore, she also gambled back to her mother's house, and then brought her parents to her own home. Anyway, the in-laws and family are all flocking to come, so naturally there can be no lack of her parents.
After all, whoever was most qualified to live in their house was her parents. When they first bought the house, her parents did not contribute less money. Instead, the in-laws stood idly by and remained indifferent.
After Rowling received her parents, the faces of her husband and in-laws suddenly became particularly ugly. Especially the mother-in-law, but also showed her sense of superiority as the master of the house, saying that the house was bought by her son, the son has the obligation to support his parents, but he is not obliged to support his in-laws, and the parents-in-law naturally do not have the custom of staying at the son-in-law's house for the New Year.
The parents were particularly embarrassed by the mother-in-law's words, and they turned around and wanted to leave. But Rowling refused to let go of her parents, if the son-in-law was not obliged to support her in-laws, then her daughter-in-law naturally had no obligation to support her in-laws.
What's more, the in-laws brought the little uncle's family of four to the family for a week, always enjoying their success, no one will take the initiative to cook, let alone share the housework for her.
03, daughter-in-law to drive people: whose parents who serve, I have no obligation
The more Rowling thought about it, the more angry she became, if her mother-in-law did not say this, she would turn a blind eye to her in-laws and little uncles uninvited, and she would survive this year. But the mother-in-law still speaks so badly, it is no wonder that she wants to drive people away.
Without waiting for her mother-in-law to react, Rowling began to drive people away, she said that since this is the case, whose parents are waiting, I am not obliged to serve my in-laws. My parents paid 200,000 yuan for this house, and if you didn't get any money out, you were naturally not eligible to live in. Either you pack your own bags and leave, or I will call the police and ask someone to drive you away.
The husband was suddenly anxious, and rushed to protect his parents, saying that he also had a share of the house, and Rowling was not qualified to drive away his parents and brother. Either divorce and divide one in half.
Rowling sneered at her husband and said, you are not qualified to share the house with me equally, this house has a down payment of 300,000 yuan, my parents have 200,000 yuan, you have not returned anything, and the remaining 100,000 is what I have saved together with you, do you mean to share half of it?
My husband was blocked by Rowling's exposé, but he was not willing to admit defeat, saying that no matter what, the real estate certificate had my name, and the house would be divided in half, otherwise I would not easily divorce.
Hearing her husband's gambling words, Rowling suddenly felt ridiculous. Such a rogue husband, she is really speechless. But she didn't mind, she told her husband very clearly, either I sue for divorce, you get out of the house, anyway, you don't want to take away a piece of family property.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Rowling's insistence on divorce is too calculating?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!