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The relationship between the opposite sex is actually very difficult to define, a little intimate, there will be ambiguous feelings; a little cold, there is no way to be friends.
Friends of the opposite sex have been together for many years, and whether they can finally transform into love is actually related to the passive person.
Generally speaking, in a heterosexual friendship, the person who actively maintains the relationship may also be in love with another person.
But in any case, within the norms of two people, this relationship is just a friend of the opposite sex, not a relationship between lovers.
When two people have no intention of getting along with each other in another identity, you should know that no matter how iron the opposite sex relationship is, it cannot "cross the line", especially in these aspects.
1. Do not interfere with each other's feelings
Some friends of the opposite sex always have a good relationship with each other and always like to point fingers at each other's feelings.
Since you are only a friend of the opposite sex, both people have the freedom to communicate with friends, no matter how good your relationship with each other, do not interfere with each other's emotional experience, let alone interfere with each other, the choice of life partner.
Whether that person deserves your friend of the opposite sex or not, in his eyes, he is worthy, so he is willing to put it together with the right person.
Even if you are no longer willing in your heart, you should not interfere with each other's feelings, let alone always say bad things about his lovers in front of each other.
When friends of the opposite sex and each other have a conflict and come to you to complain, you should resolve this contradiction, rather than instigating the other party to break up.
A true good friend should hope that the other party can truly get the happiness of love, rather than hindering the happiness of the other party.
Between heterosexual relationships, no matter how iron the feelings are, they cannot "cross the line" at this point, that is, to interfere with the feelings of others.
2. Do not interfere in each other's lives
Everyone has their own arrangements for their own lives, their choices for their careers, their own direction, and their own goals for the people they want to become.
You are friends of the opposite sex, you should be more from the heart, respect his choices, rather than interfering in each other's lives.
When you interfere in each other's lives, you actually want to control the other person, because you want the other person to choose the life you want, not the life he wants.
Everyone has their own sense of territory, do not get too involved in the lives of others, and do not get too involved in the life of friends of the opposite sex.
How do you know that the advice you give to the other person, the goal you give the other person, is what he wants? It must be the best.
When you point fingers at the life of friends of the opposite sex; when you point fingers at the lives of friends of the opposite sex; when you point fingers at the feelings of friends of the opposite sex, when you point fingers and feet, between you, you have already exceeded the boundaries of friends.
A person's greatest achievement is to learn to be responsible for their own life, to learn to be responsible for their own life, not to worry about other people's affairs, but to go beyond the boundaries of two people and interfere in each other's lives.
Between real friends, there is only blessing and acceptance, because even if it is a friend of the opposite sex who has a good relationship, in the major events of his life, in his life decisions, he only wants to have his own considerations, not to listen to your advice, because what he wants is only his life, no matter how good your experience is, or no matter how much, in fact, it has nothing to do with him.
People ultimately want to live out of themselves, you don't use the guise of good friends, to interfere in each other's lives, to control each other's lives, this is really too bad.
3. Keep the boundaries of "friends" and don't be ambiguous
You've been friends of the opposite sex with him for years, and if you really like him, you can choose the right opportunity to confess.
First of all, if he is in the emotional window period, then you can confess during this period.
Because he's single, your confession, whether he says yes or no, doesn't hurt the other person.
This is the blessing you are giving yourself, the blessing you have accumulated, not hurting the happiness of others because of your own happiness, or even destroying the happiness of others.
Secondly, if the relationship between friends of the opposite sex is just what you want to maintain, but the other party does not know what kind of feelings you have for him, when you really say it, you will get the answer you want.
Many times, when you choose to let go, it is another kind of fulfillment of your own happiness.
Because maybe, he already knew, and it was precisely because you didn't pick it, he chose to pretend not to know.
It's just that you don't accept reality, and your letting go is to give yourself a new choice of happiness.
Finally, if you choose not to speak out and still maintain the relationship between friends of the opposite sex, then please remember: do not let the relationship between two people of the opposite sex friends become synonymous with ambiguity.
There is a clear difference between a good friend and a couple, and the two cannot be confused, and since you are friends, keep the boundaries of your friends.
The most important thing is that you have to keep your heart, even if you are now the most important friend in his life, when she (he) has a lover, when he (she) marries, you have to slowly withdraw from his life.
He has a more important lesson in life, that is, to run his own family and give another person a stable happiness.
When a friend of the opposite sex has his own partner, the end of his life must be placed in his love, and it must be placed on his family.
Even if you have a good relationship, you should not destroy the happiness of others and disturb the peace of other people's lives.
Sooner or later, you must know that no matter how iron the opposite sex relationship is, it cannot "cross the line", and the closer the relationship, the more appropriate distance should be maintained, otherwise it is a harm to two people and their respective partners.
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