There are two sons and daughters, one has the ability, the life is very prosperous, the other is average, earns very little, the life is very embarrassing, in this situation, you will rob the rich and the poor, and ask for the brothers and sisters who are doing well to help the poor?
I asked the people around me and got a different answer.
The aunt's attitude is very resolute, never do this kind of thing: "They are all born of a father and mother, standing on a starting line, why is one living well and one not doing well?" Obviously, the one who has a bad life is not angry! If he is not good at eating and lazy, not afraid of suffering, and honestly making money, will he have a bad life? I don't care about the things that don't compete, and when I'm hungry, I will naturally fight for gas. ”
However, my aunt took the opposite opinion: "That is a brother and sister who grew up with you eating milk, who do you not help?" Broken bones and tendons, wives or men may not be reliable, but brothers and sisters whose blood is dissolved in water can support them for a lifetime. ”
There is a line in "My Brothers and Sisters": Dad said that we were originally snowflakes floating down from the sky, fell to the ground, froze into ice, turned into water, and could no longer be separated.
Many parents believe that blood relations are the strongest, most reliable, and most inseparable relationships, and in this world, only parents, brothers and sisters are willing to give and help you unconditionally, so there are indeed many parents who stand on the moral high ground, eccentric eyes, and rob the rich and help the poor.
Mr. Yuan, 50, encountered this situation and was deeply disappointed by his parents' robbery of the rich and the poor.
01. When I married my wife, my parents did not pay, my brother married his wife, and he paid the bride price and bought a house, just because I had the ability;
Mr. Yuan has an older sister and a younger brother, the older sister is two years older than him, and the younger brother is five years younger than him, which is the heart of his parents.
In order to get ahead and live a good life, Mr. Yuan studied very hard, and finally was admitted to college, became a celebrity in his hometown, and successfully came to the city, met his wife, and settled down.
However, Mr. Yuan's younger brother enjoyed the same resources, but he could not suffer under the doting of his parents, refused to continue to work hard, and finally only finished junior high school and dropped out of school.
"More than once I heard my parents comfort my brother, saying that it doesn't matter if he doesn't show up, my brother has a job and will take care of you for the rest of his life." At that time, I felt unhappy, I could have a job, relying on my own efforts and the support of my parents, I did not take advantage of my brother. My parents have provided me with school, and I will honor them, but why should I raise my brother for a lifetime? ”
When Mr. Yuan and his brother got married, Mr. Yuan became more aware of his parents' eccentricity.
"I married my wife, my parents refused to give a penny, I kept crying with my father-in-law and mother-in-law, my father-in-law and mother-in-law believed it, didn't care, paid us to marry, I also felt guilty, agreed with my children regardless of male or female and father-in-law's mother-in-law's surname." However, three years later, when my brother got married, my parents actually gave me the bride price and built a building for my brother, which made my wife angry. ”
Mr. Yuan was dissatisfied and questioned his parents, his parents did not feel that there was anything wrong with doing so, the reason was that Mr. Yuan had the ability to make money, even if he could not marry his daughter-in-law at that time, he could marry his daughter-in-law on his own in the future, but the younger son was incompetent, there were few people who looked up to him, and if he did not provide a house and a bride price, wouldn't he want the younger son to play a single stick for a lifetime?
"That's your brother, so why bother with him?" Mr. Yuan took his parents and broke up with his parents.
02. After robbing the rich and helping the poor and finding me to make trouble, my parents worked for 15 years to subsidize my brother's family of 4;
"If you dare to give them money and subsidize your brother, I will divorce you, and my daughter will belong to me."
When they got married, the two daughters-in-law were treated differently, and they were already angry with Mr. Yuan's daughter-in-law. What makes Mr. Yuan's daughter-in-law even more angry is that her mother-in-law has never taken care of her pregnancy and childbirth, nor has she refused to take her granddaughter, on the grounds that her granddaughter does not follow their surname.
That's all, since Mr. Yuan married his daughter-in-law in the city, Mr. Yuan's parents have contacted the eldest son and hoped that the eldest son would help the younger son's family.
"He's your brother, as an older brother, spend some money on your brother, why pay it back?" Like words? ”
"Your father-in-law is from the city and has connections, is it difficult to help your brother find a job with a high salary and no tired work?"
After Mr. Yuan refused to help his brother again, his parents failed to rob the rich and help the poor, did not die, and went to the door to make trouble, and was scolded by the eldest daughter-in-law to call relatives and friends back.
"15 years ago, my parents saw that it was impossible for me, so they took my brother and his family of 4 to live together in other cities. Do you know how they live their lives? My dad and my brother work in the factory to earn money, my mom works as a waiter in a restaurant, my sister-in-law brings a baby at home, and my mom and dad have to do housework after work. ”
Mr. Yuan also did not bother to manage, did not bother to persuade, just let his wife give alimony on time, and do her part.
03. The young son and the little daughter-in-law can't be trusted, they want me to retire to the end, don't say my daughter-in-law, I don't do it;
Originally, Mr. Yuan thought that his parents would live a lifetime with his brother, and the younger brother's family would be responsible for the end of the pension, he only needed to give some alimony and take care of his father-in-law and mother-in-law, anyway, he was no different from the son-in-law.
However, what I did not expect was that my brother's family was brazen to such a point, letting their parents work for 15 years to subsidize them, making cattle and horses for them, but did not want to care about their pension and final problems.
"You have been working for 15 years, subsidizing my brother's family of 4, but 75 years old but let me retire, like words?"
"Your brother is doing poorly, you are doing well, why don't you do it if you take on a little more?" You are a brother, not even your own brother, are you not afraid of thunder in the sky? ”
After all these years of unfair treatment, Mr. Yuan is very clear that it is unreasonable to talk to his parents, so he did not continue to argue with his parents, but clearly told his parents that he would at most give them a alimony and it would be impossible for them to live at home.
"My parents wandered at the door of the neighborhood several times, cursed me vigorously, and quarreled with my mother-in-law. My mother-in-law told the story of what happened, and none of the onlookers helped my parents, pointing and pointing, and my parents left. ”
04. The poverty of your beloved children is not a reason for you to rob the rich and help the poor and squeeze other children.
In the TV series "Know It or Not", Grandma Kong, who lives transparently, once said: "In the homes of people with many children, parents need a bowl of water to be flat in order to be quiet." ”
The poverty of your beloved children is not a reason for you to rob the rich and help the poor and squeeze other children. Born with the same parents, standing on the same running line, they will have a worse life than other siblings, only because of two points.
First, you are too spoiled for them, spoiled them, reluctant to let them suffer, give them the feeling that I don't have to work hard to make money and have money to spend, so that they have no fear.
Second, they themselves are not angry, they are not motivated, they are bent on nibbling at the old, they are bent on nibbling at other brothers and sisters.
There is a saying on the Internet that if you want to fall, the gods and immortals cannot save you; you have to grow, and you can live in a desperate place. If you really hope that they can live well, you should wake up in time, make up your mind, and force them to be independent, instead of squeezing other children, bringing pain to other children, and ruining their old age.
Japanese writer Nakamura Hengzi wrote in "Worth it in the world": Even family members must distinguish between each other, force others, and they and each other are very painful.
As a parent, a bowl of water is uneven, and you pit others and yourself. Once you lose the ability to protect your children, the children who are spoiled by you and unable to be independent will have difficulty taking care of themselves; the children you squeeze will either lose their marriage and happiness because they are confused, or they will turn against you, and when you are old, you are likely to be desolate.
Whether it is for your own sake or for the good of your children, don't think about robbing the rich and helping the poor, don't think about eccentricity.
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Today's topic: If it were you, would you rob the rich and help the poor, and ask your children who are doing well to help them live badly? Feel free to share your views in the comments section.