Today my brother called me and asked, "Sister, my second sister transferred 40,000 Yuannian fees to my mother yesterday." You have been married to a foreign country for a few years, shouldn't you also give your mother a New Year's fee? "I said I give

Today my brother called me and asked, "Sister, my second sister transferred 40,000 Yuannian fees to my mother yesterday." You have been married to a foreign country for a few years, shouldn't you also give your mother a New Year's fee? "I said I bought clothes and gifts for my mom and would be there in a few days. The younger brother said, "Sister, clothes can be worth a few dollars." This year, my mother wants to add a car to her family. If you are the boss of the family, you will pay fifty thousand! ”

I am 34 years old, A company employee with a monthly salary of 6,000 yuan. Five years ago, I followed my husband to marry out of town, and at first the family was always opposed, and my sister cried and wouldn't let me go. At that time, I didn't care at all, after all, I was in love at that time, and I only had love in my heart.

My husband and I were actually college classmates, and we didn't feel anything when we went to school. After graduation, we met and talked at a classmate party, and the relationship suddenly warmed up. He was also very kind to me, and felt that he would also be a man who took care of his family in the future. Later I completely fell under his warm and intimate offensive and became his girlfriend.

We were going to stay here, but his parents didn't want their children to be too far away from home. He was also a filial piety, so he decided to go home. That was the time when our feelings were the best and warmest, so we followed him back to their hometown.

There was a gap between my married life and my imagination. I thought I was married to love. I thought I would be warmly welcomed and loved by my husband and family when I got married. But my mother-in-law didn't like me, and even hated me

Later, I heard my sister-in-law say that my mother-in-law had already arranged a marriage for my husband and was the daughter of her colleague. Not only is she beautiful, but she also heard that her family is in good condition and has strong local connections.

But my family is out of town, and I don't have any resources when I first arrived, so my mother-in-law didn't like me. When she saw me, she always gave me a stinky face. Even when I was confinement, she didn't come to serve me.

I remember very clearly, when I called my mother for help, my mother did not care, she said that it was too far away to come over. I didn't expect that my husband, who was very good to me before marriage, did not take care of me at the critical time. So, I take care of myself during confinement. At that time, it suddenly became clear that a man had a sample before marriage and another after marriage

I didn't come home for two years after giving birth. There are fewer phone calls, almost once every six months.

The child is 3 years old when the New Year is new year. My husband and I went back to our house for the New Year, my mother was relatively cold to us, I thought that I would be very excited not to see us for many years, but my family still had some disgust. My sister's child was 2 years old at the time. My mom gave my sister's child 1,000 years old, and my child only had 200. And it was given in cash directly in front of everyone, so my husband and I couldn't hang on to each other

My husband secretly told me that my mother was too snobbish, and said that because my brother-in-law was a big boss, he gave more

I was also very chilled and disappointed in my mother. That New Year's Day, I stayed for a day and hurried back. On the way back, I cried all the way, feeling very sad and wronged, so long without going back, everything has changed, home is no longer the same home as before

I don't know if it's my problem or my mom's problem. In short, we are estranged because of the mother-daughter relationship. I didn't go back the following year for New Year's Eve, but I bought clothes and gifts to send to them.

Unexpectedly, my mother was not only unhappy, but also said that the things I sent were not at all in line with her wishes, and asked me to give money directly in the future.

In the third year, I transferred 10,000 yuan to my mother for the New Year's Fee. The whole family said to their mother through video: "Happy New Year!"

My mother transferred 100 to me through WeChat, saying that it was to give my grandson money. On the day of Chinese New Year's Eve, I saw my sister's circle of friends, posting the 1,000 yuan red envelope that my mother gave her son. I was hurt again by my mother

This year, I had planned to go back to my mother's house for the New Year. After all, the parents are older, and their bodies are not as good as a day. I am a distant wife and feel that it is less to see each other

However, this year, everyone knows this situation, and everyone's life is difficult. I was considering whether to give my mother another ten thousand dollars. My brother called me directly to ask for 50,000.

I refused my brother's request, after all, my family is not easy, there is not so much spare money. He said that I was no longer around every day, and I couldn't serve them, and he thought it was right for me to take more

I really didn't know how to answer my brother's questions

Hello, I can understand your feelings, after all, it is not easy for parents to raise us as adults, and they have always remembered and hated your tips, so I can also understand this attitude of the elderly

And you are far away from home, can not accompany your parents, and usually communicate less, so now the relationship has become very cold, if the old man still has a grudge in his heart, I think it is appropriate to slow it down, after all, you also have your own family, you have also come up with your own attitude

If you don't get respected by others, learn to respect yourself. As for your brother who said he wanted to buy a car, I think he should want a car, after all, the old man can't drive, he wants to blackmail the son of heaven to order the princes. Therefore, I think that for his unreasonable request, we must resolutely refuse

After all, adults must do things according to their ability, if who takes more money is filial piety, then this filial piety is also too "cheap", what do you think?