There are three turning points in life's destiny: the original family, the husband and wife partner, and the awakened self.
The original family is the first reincarnation, we can not choose, some people use childhood to heal a lifetime, some people use a lifetime to heal childhood.
Marriage is the second reincarnation of a person, and a happy marriage is a double flight and a white head. An unhappy marriage can drive a virtuous wife into madness, or it can turn a gentle husband into a demon.
If there is no superior family, a desirable partner, then it must awaken the strong self and reshuffle the cards.
In the end, it is better to rely on who is better than on yourself.