I am a girl, when I was a child, every year when I went back to my hometown for the New Year, my grandmother would persuade my father to have another child, and my father could not ask for it, because he was holding an iron rice bowl. When I was in my first year of junior high school, my mother was unexpectedly pregnant, doctor

I am a girl, when I was a child, every year when I went back to my hometown for the New Year, my grandmother would persuade my father to have another child, and my father could not ask for it, because he was holding an iron rice bowl. When I was in the first year of junior high school, my mother accidentally became pregnant, the doctor said that my mother's health was not suitable for abortion, and after my brother was born, my father's job was gone.

I was sent to my grandfather's house in the country, and when I came home on weekends, I always heard my mother scold my father for being useless and making no money.

In the summer vacation of my first year of high school, my father took my brother back to the countryside, my brother and the children in the village ran to the reservoir to play, I heard someone shouting "the child has fallen into the water", the villagers ran to the reservoir, when we arrived, 2 children had drowned, the brother was lying there, the whole family knelt on the ground and cried bitterly.

Grandma cried faintly, my father scratched his face out of a bright red blood mark, the villagers could not stop it, after my brother left us, I was taken back to the county by my parents.

There is a gap in Mom's heart, as long as Dad has a little bit of bad work, Mom will make a big fuss, all kinds of numbers, in that family atmosphere, I am about to suffocate.

In order to hide from his mother, Dad always goes to his brothers' house to eat and live, Mom does not like to go out, will not go out to make trouble, but just wait for Dad to come back to get a change of clothes, Mom's emotions will double outburst.

In the year of my college entrance examination, my father filed for divorce, and he left the house, car, and savings to my mother. After my parents divorced, I lived with my father, who came out early and returned late as usual, earning my tuition and living expenses, and he lived very hard alone.

After the mother divorced, soon remarried, remarried for 2 years, the mother has not been pregnant, the mother thought she was older, the result went to check the reason for her remarried husband, because of the trauma of the car accident when she was young, her husband is difficult to have children in this life.

In the 3rd year of remarriage, her mother divorced, her whole person changed, my mother told me that children and parents are a fate, some people have several children in their lives, some people have no children in their lives, but they still live.

In my senior year, my parents remarried, and my mother said that my brother did not belong to my family at the beginning, and my brother's birth was not timely, otherwise it would not hurt my father to lose his job.

Three months after mom and dad remarried, the 47-year-old mother became pregnant. If I knew that my mother was pregnant, I would definitely prevent my mother from taking the risk of having a child at an advanced age, but my parents hid it from me, and my father gave me 20,000 yuan to let me travel with my boyfriend.

By the time I knew the truth, my brother was 3 months old, and I thought that true happiness was about to begin, but I didn't expect a bigger accident waiting for me. On the day of the Little Brother's Hundred Day Feast, my mother rushed into the river with her drunken father in a car, leaving me and my little brother forever, maybe they missed my big brother too much!

My parents' inheritance no one fought with me, under the arrangement of my uncle, the caravan and savings belonged to me, my grandmother hoped that I could take care of my little brother, but when my little brother was 3 years old, my boyfriend left me, and when my boyfriend left me, he said, so young to be a "mother", your life was ruined...

@Solo Journey: Your family has gone through 3 major twists.

The first time, your mother accidentally became pregnant, and her physical condition did not allow her to miscarry, so she gave birth to a big brother, causing my father to lose his iron rice bowl, and you were sent back to the countryside, and the living conditions at home became poor.

The second time, the father derelict in his duties and did not look after the child, the eldest brother accidentally drowned, the mother could not bear the pain of losing the child, could not forgive the father, and finally the divorce of the parents ended in blame and resentment.

The third time, after the mother remarried, the new husband lost her reproductive function and could not have children, the mother chose to divorce, but also opened the heart knot, remarried with the father, and regenerated the little brother.

Your life has gone around a long way, you have experienced a lot of pain, and finally it seems to be back to the original point, you still have a brother who is much younger than you, but you have lost both parents, so the burden of raising your brother falls on your shoulders.

From a reasonable point of view:

The eldest brother is like a father, the eldest sister is like a mother, you as an adult sister, you are the only close relative of the young brother in this world, you have the same blood in your body, no one is closer than you, although your age difference is very large, but once you get along, you will be intimate, which is the power of blood affection.

The unexpected departure of your parents has caused people to be sad, so you must take care of your brother, and your brother will be snuggled up to each other, accompanied by this life, although you will have your own small family in the future, you will always be a family.

From a legal point of view:

Article 1074 of the Civil Code stipulates that grandparents and maternal grandparents who can afford it have the obligation to raise minor grandchildren or grandchildren whose parents have died or whose parents are unable to support them.

This means that after your parents leave unexpectedly, if your grandparents and grandparents can afford it, then the elderly on both sides are obliged to raise your underage brother.

At the same time, article 1075 of the Civil Code stipulates that brothers and sisters who can afford it have the obligation to support minor brothers and sisters whose parents have died or whose parents are unable to support them.

This means that after your parents leave unexpectedly, you, as an adult sister, if you can afford it, then you have the obligation to raise your young brother as an adult.

Combining the above, my advice to you is:

Strive to get the support of grandparents, grandparents, if the elderly are still alive, in good health, you can let the elderly help take care of the little brother, your main task is to work hard to earn money, to provide financial security for the family.

Wait until your brother goes to school, let the old man with spare strength help pick up and drop off, you are still working to earn money, and at the same time use your free time after work to accompany your brother, eat with your brother, play games, take your brother to sleep, and give him enough love and security.

Because your parents have left all the inheritance to you, and your uncle has also made arrangements for you, everyone will support you and help you take care of your brother, so your personal life has a certain guarantee.

What needs to remind you is that you are already an adult, marriage and children are also a natural event in life, if you meet the right person in the process of taking care of your brother, you must dare to fight.

Don't delay the big things of your life because of your brother, I believe there will be someone who will accept your conditions and be willing to accompany you to give a part of their time and energy to their younger brother.

The younger brother will grow up one day, and blood kinship is a mark that cannot be separated in this life.