It was as if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law of the whole world were like class enemies.
After marriage, the biggest test for the daughter-in-law is not the way to get along with the husband, but to spend extra effort to deal with the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and if you are not careful, you will fall into a dead cycle.
Perhaps two people are in different positions, competing for each other's attention and love, and the contradiction arises. In this way, many daughters-in-law will uphold the idea of old and dead.
The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law fight, so that the husband is splinted in the middle
Xiao Zhang's mother-in-law is a well-known local trickster, and even if she ignores it, she has to argue for three points. Everyone did not dare to quarrel with her, and on the surface it was good to get by, and would not have deep friendships.
When Xiao Zhang married into this family, he could deeply feel the sword-rattling momentum on his mother-in-law. The big things and small affairs in the family must be managed by the mother-in-law, even if it is the son and daughter-in-law's family who have established their own portal, she always intervenes.
Once again in time for the Mid-Autumn Festival to go home for the reunion dinner, at the dinner table the family was happy to watch the party dinner, the mother-in-law suddenly said to Xiao Zhang: You stop fooling around, hurry up and have a child is the right thing!
When Xiao Zhang heard this, he immediately couldn't contain the anger in his heart, is it not to do the right thing if he doesn't have a child? Isn't it serious that I go to work every day? Receiving these grievances out of thin air, Xiao Zhang immediately turned back.
The husband and father-in-law saw that the daughter-in-law of the two had a verbal altercation, and did not dare to say anything, at this time, the mother-in-law said to the son, go home and take good care of your daughter-in-law, and the mother-in-law talks back, there is really no tutor.
The meal was not happy, back to his home, Xiao Zhang first said to her husband, I think I did not do anything wrong in this matter, if you still want to say anything about me, I think there is no need for this.
The husband said to Xiao Zhang: It is true that her mother said this, but you also know her personality, no matter what she says, it is not okay to be airy? Now that it has become like this, how will we get along in the future?
Indeed, since the beginning of this contradiction, the exchanges between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been much less, and it is always necessary for the husband to adjust in the middle, and he is not happy with the splint gas.
Why do mother-in-law and daughter-in-law always get along badly with each other?
Suddenly there was a woman competing with herself for favors, and the mother-in-law was very uncomfortable
No matter how old a woman is, she will be jealous, especially when it comes to her own vital interests. When a son marries a daughter-in-law, the time spent with his mother will be greatly reduced, how can the mother-in-law gladly accept it?
Therefore, the mother-in-law will highly concentrate her observation, become very sensitive, and as long as she perceives a little thing that will hurt her son, she will provoke a war and fight with her daughter-in-law.
The way women get along, each pregnant with a ghost fetus
If women want to coexist peacefully, they must not have mutually involved interests. Even if it is between girlfriends, falling in love with a boy at the same time, they will immediately turn against each other.
And the hub between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the husband. Because the husband only connects the two people, because of the husband's existence, the two people have to have contact.
How can this be peaceful? Leaving the son to outsiders to take care of is always uneasy, and if you meet a strong mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law's life is even more difficult.
Women don't get too close to their mother-in-law, do these three things well, you can let your mother-in-law look up to you
Reduce unnecessary interaction and flattery
Many daughters-in-law feel that they are juniors, and they have to accommodate the elders in everything, and even want to exchange their hearts for sincerity, as long as they pay more, they will always close the gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Therefore, they will take the initiative to create a lot of opportunities for negotiation and flattery, but in the face of a person with a different position, there is a risk of slapping the horse's leg. Kindness is misunderstood, this is not to lift a stone and drop it on your own feet!
Don't be too real about anything
Some mothers-in-law's attitude towards their sons and daughters-in-law can be described as extreme, and daughters-in-law are outsiders for their mother-in-law, even if the superficial feelings are good, there will still be mustard in their hearts, and sometimes they will be hidden.
But everyone is an adult, some of the mother-in-law's clumsy means are obvious, even if you can see the problem, as a daughter-in-law, you still try to turn a blind eye! After all, people don't want you to know too much, so don't be bored with yourself.
A little less anticipation and please
When women encounter some difficulties and troubles, sometimes the mother-in-law is the best person to help herself, but even so, she can not open her mouth or do not open her mouth.
Because you are not at all sure if your mother-in-law will lend a helping hand, they will not be as selfless as their own mothers, and their self-care life is the greatest respect for each other. Don't expect too much and end up disappointed.
Today's Topic:
Do you have a good relationship with your mother-in-law? If your mother-in-law needed your help, would you actively help her? Welcome to share your thoughts!