Big Bull Busy Marriage Emotional Case Series
Keywords: divorce, ex-husband, lover
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If a woman loves the wrong person in the first half of her life, how can she save the rest of her life?
I've come to realize that when a man genuinely stops loving you, he doesn't care who you're close to. How can someone who does not have you in his heart be jealous of you, and how can he care who you shed tears for...
This is the feeling of a woman in a marriage case, and its logic is sad, but in fact, it is a kind of helplessness.
In an article I wrote a few days ago, a man once said such a sentence: Every man has a perfect woman in his heart, and like many men, I did not meet such a woman until I got married and had children and had a stable family, but unfortunately, she was someone else's wife...
Being trapped by love is a problem that should not occur in marriage, but life tells many people that many couples cannot avoid such problems.
If a man is too sentimental, the most miserable thing is his wife who accompanies him along the way, and vice versa. If you are reluctant to divorce, no matter how much distress you have, you can only endure.
When a woman is disheartened by her husband, it is easy to be moved by another man who is "good to her". Even if he is someone else's husband, she will also have the feeling of "seeing each other and hating late", not only throwing herself into her arms and giving up her hugs, but even daring to give up her family.
This is the case with the lady above.
Because her husband had a lover, she complained to another man and unconsciously fell in love with him. She divorced decisively and prepared to replace her lover's wife, but they were reluctant to marry her. In the end, her so-called love is a sadistic delusion...
People who come over should be able to appreciate that marriage is a trajectory that can only be looked back after a period of time. It is unpredictable before this, and after this, tears can prove that the trajectory that has been traveled cannot be changed...
First, simple happiness is the most luxurious
In the following, I will tell you about the marriage case of this lady, some of which has a deep emotional logic.
I had talked to this lady, and I told it in her tone, truthfully narrated, and I did a little tidying up to improve readability.
As a woman, if I love the wrong person in the first half of my life, how can I save the rest of my life in the second half of my life?
I had never cared about these issues before, and I always felt that my luck would not be so bad. But in recent years, I have been confused about this, and I still can't find a way out of my feelings.
Since the divorce, my world has changed completely.
There are people around to accompany me, but there is no man who is sincere to me and dares to touch my conscience and say that he is willing to accompany me for a lifetime. They will only lie to make me happy, and no one can let go of the wife and children around me at critical moments.
What love, what conscience, I gradually saw through. It was better to speak than to sing, and I have never seen love or conscience until now.
After 4 years of divorce, I gradually felt that I was no longer young, which was a feeling of waste of youth. Now that I am 39 years old and "Ben Si" is just around the corner, how much time is left to pursue love?
Of course, my heart is very empty, I am not afraid of emptiness, what I am afraid of is that I can't find the direction of the future, and many things in life are gradually unable to do it.
I can't say anything about the emotional problems, I was too naïve back then, too willful later, and now I am full of scars.
I'm getting tired every day, I don't know if I can meet someone who cares about me in this life...
Although there are always people who encourage me to say that you are still young, don't be discouraged, you will definitely meet people who care about you. But who really understands the desolation in the heart of a woman who has no one to hurt and no one to love, and who understands the bitterness of waiting?
Although I look small and exquisite, just look at the face is not old, but my child has gone to college, "old or not old" is like a mood, no one but myself understands.
Others are in their 50s, and people are entitled to say young, because they are happily married, have a happy family, and have someone to love, so they are not afraid of getting old. I don't think I'm young yet when I'm not 40 years old, and that's because I've had nothing and left others behind for the rest of my life.
I long to have a home, a husband and wife with a real heart, simply. But I also gradually came to understand that this simple happiness is the most luxurious.
Second, divorce does not regret, only blame the reality of life
In the 4 years since the divorce, I have tried to love someone and still love him. I have also fantasized many times that, if possible, I would spend the rest of my life to be good to him and build a complete family with him.
But he had a wife and children, and he couldn't rest assured of them. He told me to wait and wait, saying that he loved me very much, but he never dared to take me into the house in a proper manner.
Over the years, I have gradually discovered that all the roads in front of me are bumpy. After all, we are just lovers, and at this age, people are more refined than people, and people are fiercer than people. Single-minded love is already rare, and even rarer later.
Of course, 39 is not old, but I am a divorced woman, and I can't compare my age with a woman who is happily married.
For me, it may be too late to catch up with others and live the carefree life of others...
At that time, my husband (ex-husband) who had accompanied me for 16 years was able to cheat on me and abandon me. Now that I have come to this point, how dare I think that another man really loves me?
Having been through so much, I know that that kind of love is very unrealistic, and I just complained about it.
The road of marriage has become impossible, and I can only try to express the bitterness in my heart. Free your mind and face the future of life.
Sometimes when I think of my marriage, I still feel emotional.
I have never regretted the divorce, and even if I have lived a bad time, I will not say regret. Everything is blamed on life being too realistic, people's hearts too realistic.
At that time, I was only 19 years old and followed my husband. We get on the bus first and then make up the ticket, which is equivalent to "Bongzi marriage". Although it is a bit sloppy, in our hometown, this kind of thing is not too absurd.
At that time, the love I pursued was very simple, and the marriage I longed for was also very simple. I don't want him to be rich and noble, I just want to stay with him in peace and security until I am old.
During the 16 years of my marriage, I was diligent and earnest, guarding his family and business. In order to live, that year, I was pregnant with my second eldest, I accompanied him to get up early and greedy, and with him to catch the wind and snow, and survived the initial hard days little by little.
As life got better and better, his heart drifted away.
Only 10 years after marriage, we had a divorce once, made a whole year, and almost left. He had someone out there, said every day that the woman was more suitable for him than me, regretted marrying me...
Third, the remorse of marriage, discouraged to understand
On the road of marriage, I shared happiness and hardship with him, and I was dependent on him along the way. After 10 years of marriage, even if he gradually stopped loving me, he should not say such hurtful things to me.
I've seen the woman, who was his business partner, divorced. She is like a courtesan, changing colors and being merciful everywhere.
I admit that she is prettier than me, but I can't believe that my husband will fall in love with her.
I don't know what she liked about my husband, and she actually wanted to replace me and live with him for a lifetime.
I asked my husband: I have accompanied you through the most bitter days, gave birth to 2 children for you, and you actually want to abandon me as a "wife of chaff" for a generalist, do you think you have a conscience, are you not afraid of other people's jokes?
However, when men are "brain crazy", it doesn't make sense. He would only say that he hated to see her late, and that he could only live the life he wanted by marrying her, and advised me not to be too persistent...
Friends know that we get divorced almost all day and the marriage is on the verge of collapse.
Obviously, he was out in love and found a lover, but he said that I did not understand him and was not suitable for him. He drank some wine and "complained" everywhere, saying that I was too strong and did not give him face.
If I had been brave enough to divorce at that time, I might have come out of the sea of suffering at this time. Even after 10 years of marriage, I was only 29 years old at the time, and it was still too late to get divorced.
The regret is that at that time, I was reluctant to him, let alone 2 children. Divorce was the last option I wanted to accept as a failure, and I couldn't afford that ending.
During our Cold War days, I was pursued and given gifts.
I gradually found out that my husband only said that he wanted to divorce me, and when he saw that others were good to me, he was jealous and begged me to stay away from the man. I didn't want to stay away, and he cried in front of me.
Of course, I am very pleased, it turns out that my husband still cares about me and loves me deeply. His jealousy strengthened my determination to stick to my marriage, and in the end we didn't divorce.
In the 11th year of marriage, the woman married without warning and dumped my husband. My husband apologized to me and begged me for forgiveness.
Thankfully, our marriage is finally back to peace.
After more than 1 year of grievances and suffering, I thought that I had been sharpened strong enough that there would be no more marriage crisis. If he dares to make me sad again, I will make him jealous and make him cry.
Later, I understood that the regret in marriage is not divorce, but dare not divorce. It wasn't until I was discouraged that I realized what I was missing.
Fourth, love after divorce is more bumpy
In the 15th year of marriage, the husband found a woman outside again, ate and lived with her, and did not want to go home. Just like the last time, he said he didn't love me anymore, regretted marrying me, couldn't live a long time, left early and quiet...
As a man, as a father of 2 children, how could he still treat marriage like this?
But I couldn't convince him, and if I said too much, I would quarrel. During the argument, he begged me for a divorce and asked me to find another one. I don't agree with the divorce and intend to spend time with him.
I thought he would change his mind as he had before, but unfortunately he was no longer the same person he used to be. If I could save him before, it was not because he had a conscience, but because he still cared about me and loved me.
When the marriage went through 15 years, I had to accept a bleak reality that our love affair was over. Even if I gamble to get close to others, complain to others, go to other places to play, spend the night, he does not care.
I waited left and right, and I couldn't wait for his call. My heart hurts, but I can only say that time is the most ruthless trajectory, and marriage is the most realistic life. I had a very humble and depressed year.
I have asked myself many times, what is the purpose of sticking to marriage? I also gradually realized that when my husband no longer loved me, no matter who I was close to, he didn't care.
He already had no place for me in his heart, how could he be jealous of me, and how could he care about who I shed tears for?
There are some things in the relationship, once the stall is not a little way. Just like our divorce, even if I don't want to accept it, I have to accept it in the end.
There was too much bitterness in that marriage, and the grievances could not be finished. In desperation I met someone who loved me, who was very kind to me and willing to love me for the rest of my life and give me a new future.
I never wanted to destroy someone else's family, but when love came, I was confused.
For his (lover's) promise, I divorced. I want to replace his wife and live with him for the rest of my life, just plain.
But to this day, he still has not kept his promise.
Love after divorce is more bumpy, or maybe maybe I fantasize about getting too much and losing more.
In the past 4 years, I have fantasized about marrying him many times, but all that I have waited for is "wait a little longer" and "wait a little longer". I made a lot of sacrifices for him, but he never dared to admit his relationship with me...
Fifth, a woman's life is clear and clear is happiness
If he just made me wait and wait, I was really willing to wait, and it was okay to wait a few more years. But the things he did had broken my heart, and he had never truly loved me.
1 year ago, he "gave me away" to his good friend.
Can you imagine a man who says he loves you gives you to a friend?
I felt too many grievances in my heart and kept putting up with it. In order to marry him, I listen to everything he says, even if I let me meet his friends, I am willing...
But the other day he told me: Can you not force me to divorce? I've introduced so many friends to you, and you can go and meet them as you please, which is better than getting married. If you really want a name, the divorced friend is willing to marry you, and people have said it many times that they want to marry you. Don't you pestering me? Listen to me, marry him, he doesn't care if we keep in touch...
I cried that day and proposed to break up, but I haven't broken up yet. If you think about those experiences, what is the difference between what he did and my ex-husband?
If he truly loved me, how could he say these things? When he doesn't care about me, how can he care who I'm with?
Some people say that fools have stupid fortunes, yes, I just live too clearly. The feeling of suddenly understanding is heartache in the end.
I still love him to this day, and I blame him for not being angry. I confess that I still love him, but I dare not look at the road of marriage.
If I had known him so much to me a few years earlier, I would have preferred to die alone. Unfortunately, the trajectory of the journey can no longer be changed.
But I would also like to say that I have never regretted the divorce and have no shame in my heart.
Even if I die alone in the future, I will not regret it. The only thing I regret, falling in love with the wrong person again after my divorce.
The rest of my life is very long, I don't talk about love, I only talk about feelings...
The marriage case is here, last year a lady's story, now she is going to get married, met love, it is also a bittersweet come.
I will only tell the truth about this case, and I will not talk about it more, everyone has their own opinion. People hurt and wish her happiness.
In the impression of many people who have come over, there are many couples who have been together for a long time and are tired of each other. He once said that he had no regrets in his life, and then he hated because of love, he once made a match made in heaven, and then he did not wear heaven together...
No one marries for divorce, but love and hate are inextricably linked, and there are always some things that make people involuntarily.
Although it is often said that what adults do is not afraid of right and wrong, but only seeks to distinguish between good and wrong, and there is no shame in their hearts. But emotional problems are often difficult to distinguish between grievances, and I am most afraid that the last sentence of "no shame" is just a lie to yourself.
Some people think that stupid people have stupid blessings, and some people will understand after experiencing it, and living a clear and clear life is also a happiness. Separation or reunion, only clear and clear is called unashamed.
It is not terrible for a woman to temporarily lose love, but it is terrible to just escape the sea of suffering and jump into the fire pit. Women should be persistent, but if there is a word of deception in love, that person is not trustworthy in this life.
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