After the 70s who are gradually getting older, if they are not capable enough, they must be cruel to their family affection

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Once heard an aunt sigh like this.

She said: Man, I am most afraid of being in the age of old and young, the old man just needs your care, and the child can not do without your protection from time to time. You have to take care of the upper and lower, and when you think about it in your leisure time, you realize that you have reached this age of life.

Time, always. In many inadvertent moments, it takes away the youth of life, and the only constant is the responsibility that weighs on their shoulders, and with the passage of time, it becomes more and more breathless.

After the 70s, she thinks that she is at this stage now.

She did not dare to let herself stop, including her husband, although they had long forgotten their original dreams, but there were always countless realities in life, pushing them forward continuously.

01. Face the child

Children have not yet grown up, have not really achieved independence, cannot go out and earn money, lighten their burdens, and it is the time to spend money. She has two children, a son and a daughter, and there are too many facts that she needs to worry about, and now the children, unlike before, she said that she only needed to eat and wear warm before, and when she got married at an old age, everyone basically followed this law.

But now, children have more independent ideas.

Especially her daughter, who began to seek absolute fairness in this family relationship, said more than once that if they bought a house for their brother, they must also buy it for her, otherwise it is eccentric, then they must have opinions, and they will not care about them in the future.

At first, she only used it as a joke, but later when they actually only bought a house for her son, she realized that her daughter was not just talking.

She was sometimes disappointed that her daughter hadn't thought about them. In the process of growing up with two children, they basically did not have any bias, they bought what they wanted, and they preferred to wronged themselves rather than two children.

It's just the matter of buying a house, when her daughter didn't bring it up, she really didn't think about it so much. As for her daughter's marriage, she wanted to add another part of the dowry money, and she returned it all as a dowry.

In her opinion, everyone has always been like this, buying a house for her son and preparing for marriage. She and her husband originally regarded these things as their indispensable responsibilities, and they spent many years of thrift and frugality in their daily lives for the ultimate goal.

But her daughter said: "If you don't have this skill, you wouldn't have given birth to so many children in the first place, and since you were born, you would have to treat everyone equally, boys and girls are the same, and I didn't ask you to give birth to me." ”

This topic is the knot that she and her daughter have been unable to convince each other.

Her daughter is still in front of her from time to time, talking about which of her classmates, the same is a girl, her parents can buy a garage in full, after graduation to save a lot of heart, life is really a lot easier.

The implication is that they, as parents, have not given their children a better future and future.

However, she believes that she and her husband have really tried their best in this life. They don't have a lot of culture, don't read much, and they know the pain of going out to work without culture, so they do their best to cultivate their two children and try not to let their children go their old way. They can't buy a house for their daughter anymore, because they really can't come up with so much money.

What she did not expect was that her daughter would finally apply what she had learned to some theories that sounded like the Tao to educate them.

As a result, her relationship with her daughter became strained for a time. Sometimes she wants to ease up and take the initiative to contact her daughter, who does not reply to her news, and many times she does not even go home for the New Year, but chooses to be alone outside.

She also didn't know what was wrong with them as parents. Obviously, all his thoughts were for the sake of the child, but in the end he became the wrong one.

This was also something that once gave her a headache.

02. Face your parents

In fact, after the 70s, she also began to reach the second half of her life, but often at this time, the responsibility for the elderly will become unprecedentedly heavy, because it means that parents on both sides are basically in the stage of needing human care.

Even if the usual body is tough again, once people are old, they are always prone to illness, and people who were good yesterday may lie in bed today and need to be taken care of. Even if you are one year older, many times the state of the individual will be very different.

She was the kind of daughter who was more filial.

But it is also this kind of filial piety that has caused her a lot of trouble in life. In terms of old-age care, due to the large number of children, it is inevitable that there will always be some shirking.

At this time, children with kinder hearts will certainly not watch their parents suffer, and whether they are treated fairly when they are young, they will provoke their own responsibilities to a certain extent.

She was quite tired, especially the elderly were not necessarily considerate, and always made various requests. When people are old, they sometimes have a kind of irrationality and innocence that is almost childish, and this is the case with the so-called "old children".

But taking care of children is a promising process, and taking care of the elderly, especially for many years, is a process of constantly accumulating repressed and negative emotions.

At the same time, everything has to be carried by itself, and there is basically nowhere to tell.

Therefore, whether it is about the affection of the next generation or the affection of the previous generation, it is easy to face new challenges at this age, and the heart of the self often needs to be constantly rebuilt and repaired.

Of course, in the end, she is actually powerless to change anything, so she can only adjust her mentality, saying that if she is not capable enough, she will have to be cruel to her family affection. No matter how much she thinks about her children and does more for her parents, in fact, everyone may not fully appreciate it, and they all have different ideas, so they only need to be ashamed.

As for other things, she no longer asks for more, including her own pension problems, she said that now and her husband can still work for some years, they are preparing pension money, relying on nothing as good as relying on themselves.

Confucius's "Analects for Government" has a saying: Forty is not confused, fifty is aware of the Mandate of Heaven, sixty is obedient, and seventy is obedient to the heart and does not exceed the rules. In this life, people understand that many things are actually not so complicated, anyway, remember: always love yourself a little more, this is enough.

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