There is a saying on the Internet that is good: when it comes to love, I am not afraid of scumbags, and I am most afraid of my mother's treasure man and men who have no seeds.
In family life, every couple hopes that their husband's career will be successful, the wife will honor the in-laws, and the family life will be happy and happy, but if a woman finds a "mother treasure man" who does not love work, is not motivated, and still lets her parents patch up everywhere, do you break your teeth and tears to accept reality, or do you fight with your husband and mother-in-law to find relief for yourself?
One or two small quarrels, the wife's harsh words make the in-laws afraid
Cai Ling, who has been married to her husband for five years, cries that she is now very broken, living a very meaningless life, and her life is particularly a failure. Since she and her husband had children, the mother-in-law has been very critical of her, all kinds of stubble, and has been interfering in the lives of their young two.
Cai Ling said that now her husband Wu Ding followed his parents and took the child away, and did not let her see her every day. Her husband and parents have been living together, and adulthood is such a state of life, and she chose to ask for help helplessly.
Her mother-in-law, Li Huifen, said that she didn't know what was going on, so her daughter-in-law sent the message to the family group, causing relatives to call and ask her if she was arguing again? Only to see the mother-in-law's mobile phone message display the content of the color ringtone: "If you don't want to live, just make it clear, it is not a matter of doing this all day, so as not to make it uncomfortable for relatives and friends at home."
Cai Ling did not hesitate to admit that it was her own hair, but she thought that everything she said was the truth, she also recognized the efforts of her in-laws, and the second elder did a good job, but they sometimes did a little too much. She cried and said that in the past, her mother-in-law would let her get out of the egg and let her divorce her son. The reason is that the mother-in-law has been occupying her husband, not only not to let him return to her side, but also to provoke her relationship with her husband.
The mother-in-law said angrily, "You didn't tell Wu Ding to go back, he went back and hacked him to death." The father-in-law said that his family originally had two houses. One set is where the son and daughter-in-law live. Half a month ago, the daughter-in-law once said to Wu Ding: "When you come back, I will hack you to death here." So the son didn't go back.
The words of the color bell are very surprising. Some people say: If a woman is cruel, she is more desperate than anyone else." How much hatred between husband and wife can say such a vicious word?
Second, seeing the photo of her husband being injured, netizens laughed
Cai Ling bluntly admitted that she said this because her husband came home after drinking and scolded her and threatened to let her go and kill her. Because she was very scared, her husband beat her very hard in the past, so she called her mother-in-law and asked them to take Wu Ding away.
Crucified bell took out the mobile phone, the photo of the color bell under the eye is a clear scar. When asked if Wu Ding had hit him, Wu Ding took the mobile phone and looked at it, saying lightly, "Is this an injury?" Looking at her husband's attitude, Cai Ling talked about what happened that day.
That night they went out to dinner, and when they came back, it was about eleven o'clock, she looked at her husband's room where the lights were dimmed, and then she went directly to the room with the child to sleep, just fell asleep for more than an hour, her door was kicked open, the husband lifted the quilt, directly pulled her legs, grabbed her hair, threw her on the ground, and then hit her with his feet on her face. She was not dressed and was holding the child, and the child was crying in her arms.
But Wu Ding explained that he did not drink that day, nor did he beat her as his wife said, but just sneaked into his wife's house to see the child, and his face was completely exhumed by his daughter-in-law.
When seeing the photos provided by Wu Ding, netizens are not calm, there are lively ones, and there are those that separate the two of them:
I smiled when I saw the picture of the male protagonist
If it doesn't pass, it will disperse, and everything that cannot be said will happen
Don't think about it with this kind of mother-in-law
It's so funny
The two are still not over
However, the wounds on Wu Ding's face did frighten people, only to see that his face was densely packed with scratch marks, a big man was scratched by his daughter-in-law, which had to make a lot of effort to do so, one face was bruised, one face was scratched, it seems that both husband and wife are fierce characters. But the color bell said, "He still has my blood on his face."
Two people have been arguing endlessly, are accusing each other of the problem, looking at the wounds on their faces is shocking, our country has promulgated the "Anti-Domestic Violence Law", husband and wife fight, has not been simply the scope of family affairs, if in this way of violence can never solve the problem, but also easy to exaggerate the problem, even the family.
Cai Ling said bitterly that from the time the two were married to now, the husband had not gone out to earn a penny and returned, nor did he go to work. When there is nothing to do, he will go out to drink every day, and after drinking, he will make trouble with her.
But Wu Ding retorted that he had a job and a unit. Cai Ling angrily said that her husband had no income at all, including her husband's provident fund, which she paid for him. At this time, the mother-in-law said that she gave her daughter-in-law at least two thousand living expenses every month, and everything about the child was all hers, and her son's provident fund was all borne by her.
It turned out that the conditions of the mother-in-law's family were good, the family had six facade rooms, and she collected rent every month, because her son was laid off, she knew that her son did not earn money, so she often took care of her son's family, and she paid all the living expenses.
Some people say that the best way for you to raise a child is to make him enjoy the privilege and get used to him, and if you want a boy to become incompetent, then give him everything.
Judging from the way the CRE mother-in-law does, she is really too spoiled for her son, the son not only does not work, but even the living expenses and raising the child, her mother, is a big package, which seems to reduce the pressure of the two small mouths, but such a way of doting on the child is really harmful to her son.
Crembell said that she was selling a second-hand house, and her salary was not a monthly settlement. Sometimes it will even drag on for a year, the mother-in-law always takes the initiative to ask her if she has no money in her hand, I will give you some, and she usually refuses.
It is reasonable to say that this mother-in-law is really good to the daughter-in-law, and it is rare to take the initiative to ask the daughter-in-law whether she has any money.
Third, the husband and wife become the wrongdoers, and the mother-in-law has become the "culprit"
As for why he has not been out to find a job, Wu Ding said that it is because the income is a little low and he has not earned money. His answer was indeed too far-fetched, did not earn money, and did not go out to work are two completely different concepts. Not making money may be a bad environment, but not working makes people feel that this man is good and bad, has no sense of responsibility, is idle, and is a good eater and lazy person.
In fact, he should face up to his own problems, because after all, two people have married into a small family, and if they want to live a good life, the two people need to work together, they can't become the old people, and the children who completely rely on their parents will never grow up.
Especially at his age, it is the best age to struggle, as long as you are not afraid of hardship, you can always live a good life. The biggest problem between them is not that the daughter-in-law is not good, but that the in-laws are too doting on their sons. Cai Ling also said that what affected her marriage was because her husband did not work, one was that the elderly could not rely on a lifetime, and the second was that her husband was not motivated, so that she could not see hope.
We all know that after a woman gets married, she does not want to be rich and wealthy, and her biggest wish is to find a good family man who loves her and hurts her. So, women want to find a man who can be reliable to live a good life. And Cai Ling is a thoughtful woman, she does not want to rely on her parents for everything, seeing her mother-in-law overly conniving with her son, she feels very self-respecting, so she wants this man to stand up for the family independently.
Crucine said that it is not the life she wants to rely on her parents, she wants her husband to go to work, but her mother-in-law does not support it. She wanted to bring the child herself, and the mother-in-law said that she had a wide management.
It can be seen that in the contradiction between their husband and wife, the mother-in-law intervened too much, so that the son lost the courage and determination to work hard. Even if we are married, each of us must learn to grow, and growth is to stop pinning our hopes on others. Dreams and hard work are the most powerful weapons when you are young, only struggle can make you look up to you today today, so don't choose ease at the age when you can bear hardships!
The mother-in-law explained that it was because the daughter-in-law had a bad temper and always liked to reprimand the child, so the child always ran to her house, and she also realized her own problems and promised not to participate in the affairs between their husband and wife in the future.
Through mediation, Wu Ding also realized his mistake, he sincerely apologized to his wife, he would find a job to work well. Cai Ling also realized that some of the things she had done were really wrong, and asked her mother-in-law to forgive her. The mother-in-law also realized that her previous practice was somewhat inappropriate, and she hugged her daughter-in-law with great satisfaction, expressing her support for her son's work and being their strong backing, and the family finally shook hands and made peace.
Sentiment Analysis:
1, parents bravely let go, will let the child learn to be independent
As the saying goes, "A parent loves his son, and he has a profound plan for it." It is common for parents to love their children, so parents are accustomed to making long-term plans for their children and want to find a good future for their children. However, some parents go against the grain, in the name of being good for their children, in fact, limiting their children's thinking and mobility.
Just like this mother-in-law, she is actually very kind, thinking of what her daughter-in-law thinks, afraid of her daughter-in-law's financial constraints, taking the initiative to give her money to maintain her life, which is really good for her daughter-in-law. But she put this good use in the wrong place, the son does not want to work to earn money to support the family, she constantly takes money to supplement, the daughter-in-law hopes that her husband will go out to work, but she is stopped by the mother-in-law, and does not let the daughter-in-law take the child. Therefore, she is depriving children of their rights little by little, seemingly sharing worries for children, but in fact, she invisibly hinders their opportunities to learn as parents and restricts her son's path to social development.
Their young couple's marriage was not good, and to a large extent there were reasons for their parenting. The son has been married for five years, and he does not work or earn money, which is completely caused by the excessive interference of her mother-in-law. We can understand the mood of every parent, they try to provide good conditions for their children, but one thing they have to think about is that while we create good conditions for our children, you are depriving yourself of the ability to deal with things by himself.
Gorky once said: Raising children is something that even a hen can do, but educating children well is an art. Therefore, as a parent, if you really love your children, you must learn to be brave and let go, let them go to the society on their own, only by letting the children experience the wind and rain, can they understand the hardships and difficulties of life, and will they know the difficulties of raising children.
2. The wife has three views and is thoughtful
Shakespeare said: A good wife, in addition to handling housework, she must have the qualities of mother, good companion, and lover.
From the perspective of their husband's way of doing things, the three views of cremation are very positive, and she hopes that her husband will be independent, positive, and be a happy and thoughtful person, rather than clinging to his parents like a small child, eating, drinking and having fun and going home.
They quarrel and hurt each other, let people see ridiculous and speechless, she can see the problems in her husband, want to change this situation but the in-laws rejected, so she has nowhere to vent, thinking that she has failed to live, life is meaningless. As a famous person said, what kind of husband has what kind of wife, your wife is like a well, you can shine in the water, the same for your wife.
3, men should have a sense of enterprise, do not be "ma bao man"
Someone summed up Ma Baonan as follows: Economic independence, thought independence, personality independence, behavior independence, psychological weaning, so everything listens to his mother, everything is manipulated by his mother.
And the son in the text, is spoiled by the mother into such a person, do not work, do not earn money, it is difficult to go to work and feel that the income is low, the family is still willing to eat, and after arguing with his wife, he still hides in his mother, and really becomes a "mother treasure man" who cannot be weaned.
As the saying goes: the road is made by foot, and history is written by people. Every step of man's action is writing his own history. I hope that this husband can completely change himself, be a good man with responsibility, learn to respect his wife, find a job, even if he earns little money, but he is also self-sufficient, relying on his own labor income, but also a dignified life!