When you are young, everyone cares a lot about other people's eyes, and a casual sentence from others may make you sad for a few days. But as you get older, you will feel more and more that you don't have to care about other people's eyes, and your life is your own, not for others to see.
People who care too much about the eyes of others often live a very hard life and are not really happy. Because he has been wronging himself, pandering to others, hoping to get the affirmation and approval of others. But the affirmation and recognition of others is sometimes not something you can get if you are excellent, and others also have the joys and sorrows of others.
So sometimes don't care too much about other people's opinions, just do yourself and live your own life. If you live late in the opinion of others, you lose yourself and you will live a miserable life.
After marriage, husband and wife must manage their marriage with their hearts and manage their marriage and family well, which is better than anything. If two people really can't get along and quarrel every day, divorce is also very good, and each gives each other a way out.
Don't know that your marriage is not happy, but you have to make a happy appearance, so that you will live very hard. Because you are pretending every day, constantly wronging your heart, your heart will not be able to stand it.
Life is a lifetime, in fact, very quickly, when you pass the age of 40, you will feel that time is really like an arrow, time is rushing. So in the limited time, let yourself be happy, be real, and don't waste the world.
Husband and wife show affection every day, and finally one day they can't put it on
At that time, when Ling Ni and her husband fell in love, both parents disapproved, because both people were too strong in personality. Parents on both sides also invited relatives and friends to persuade them to break up, promising to help them introduce better people.
But Ling Ni and her husband insisted on being together, thinking that the two of them were strong and strong, and they would be very happy after marriage. Therefore, despite the opposition of their families, the two stole the household registration book from home and quietly went to get a license to get married, and the parents of both sides had to accept it.
In the year of marriage, the husband and wife had a good relationship, two people went in and out together, and there was also a deal of discussion when encountering things. But after the birth of the child, contradictions continue to arise, and the couple begins to quarrel.
For example, Ling Ni wants to give the child imported milk powder, the husband feels that it is not necessary, the previous children eat paste are good; Ling Ni wants to send the child to the training class, saying that she cannot lose at the starting line, but the husband insists on free range and does not have to take care of the child; Ling Ni wants to take the child herself, but the husband wants to let the mother-in-law take the child...
Like these problems, other people's families will also produce, but other people's families will generally have one side to make concessions and compromises. But Ling Ni and her husband are both people with strong personalities, and no one always gives in, so they always quarrel with each other and sometimes drop things!
Ling Ni and her husband are very good-looking, no matter what kind of quarrel at home, they always show kindness and love in front of outsiders. Because they were married under pressure, if they let others know that their husband and wife were unhappy now, wouldn't they be laughed at?
In order to prove that two people are very affectionate, they always send some photos of husband and wife love in the circle of friends. When they appeared in front of others, the two of them also showed great affection, and everyone around them praised their happiness and cast envious and hateful eyes.
The parents of both sides said that fortunately they insisted on being together, otherwise the parents of both sides would have made a big mistake. It seems that they had to be together in the past, so now they especially cherish marriage, and the couple is kind and loving.
But when the parents of both sides felt that the years were quiet, Ling Ni and her husband, who had been married for ten years, suddenly announced their divorce. Because they really can't fit in, both people are very miserable in the marriage, and they can only end up in divorce.
That day, Ling Ni received a call from a friend who said that she was divorced. Ling Ni was very surprised, before the friend and her husband have been showing affection in front of Ling Ni, how did they suddenly divorce? Friends said that it was all pretend, in fact, their husband and wife relationship has been bad, she lives very tired, and now divorced, she feels relieved.
After hanging up the phone, Ling Ni wanted to take the child to the tooth extraction, because the child had a tooth decay, but the husband did not think it was necessary to pull it. The couple quarreled again, not giving way to each other, and the two people also moved, and the child cried in fright. Finally, when Ling Ni thought about her friend's divorce, she finally said the word "divorce", and her husband agreed without hesitation.
After saying the word "divorce", the couple became unusually calm, and then began to discuss the details of the divorce. When they had finished the divorce formalities, they told their parents, relatives and friends to both sides, and everyone was surprised, just as Ling Ni was unprepared when she heard her friend say divorce.
Marriage is like shoes, uncomfortable to wear, only the feet know, outsiders see only shoes. If your feet are in pain and you can't stand it anymore, why not take your shoes off? There is no need to sacrifice your feet for the sake of good shoes, and your life is your own, not for others to see.
Couples who show affection may not be truly happy
The more couples like to show affection, the more they may not be happy. Because truly happy couples do not need to show, it is a natural thing for husband and wife to love, and they are not acting, they must be shown to others. And those couples who show affection are actually acting for others to see and satisfying their own vanity.
In the above article, Ling Ni and her husband, who insisted on being together, boasted in front of their parents and relatives and friends, saying that the two of them would be happy. But after getting married, the marriage did not become like they imagined, but became a daily quarrel.
For the sake of face, in order to show that they did not look at the wrong person at the beginning, so the couple showed affection and pretended to be very happy. Because if you let outsiders know that they are not actually living happily, then you are not punching them in the face and proving that they were wrong in the first place.
But living like an actor and pretending to show affection is also very painful. For the small people, living at home is an ordinary thing, and showing love and love actually has no meaning. Whether your marriage is happy or not is actually not important to others at all, and everyone only cares about themselves.
Husbands and wives should live authentically and manage their marriages and families with their hearts
Ling Ni and her husband finally woke up one day and admitted that their original choice was wrong, and the two of them were very calm. At this time, the two people began to correct the original mistake, chose to divorce, and each blessed the other.
In fact, living in falsehood, not only the couple is suffering, but the child is also suffering. Ling Ni and her husband show affection in front of outsiders, after returning home, the husband and wife quarreled, and the children watched them constantly switch roles, and they didn't know which was true and which was false.
Therefore, for the sake of the children, husband and wife must live a real life, and they must manage marriage and family with their hearts. If two people have incompatible personalities and are noisy every day, then divorce is also very good. Marriage is for happiness, divorce is also for happiness, and real life will be easy.
In short, when encountering things, couples should communicate more and do not casually vent negative emotions on each other. Think more about the scene when you chose each other, when you firmly believe that you will be happy, then you must work hard to manage the marriage now.
A person's family is happy, there is no worries, in order to better work hard, the struggle is more meaningful and valuable.
Truly loving couples do not need to show, and the more a person shows something, the more he may lack something. Because he lacks, afraid of other people's jokes, and being looked down upon, he must show it and prove that he also has it, and he is not inferior. In fact, it is not necessary, because the days are your own, and there is no need to prove anything to others.
Author: A creator in the field of emotions, focusing on various issues in the field of emotions, welcome to pay attention. Life has warmth because of love and love, let us grow in love, and spend every day in true feelings.