Text/Flying Fish
2021 turned the page, but for me, it was a year of joy and struggle. Because I was pregnant with my second child a few years ago, I went to work with Dabao to the third trimester of pregnancy, I welcomed my little princess in July, and the baby was admitted to the neonatal department because of jaundice on the second day of birth, fortunately, hemolytic jaundice was not serious, and I was discharged from the hospital for a week and began my journey with my baby.
Since there are no elderly people with children, confinement is taken care of by the husband on leave, and the husband is dismissed because of the long time on leave.
Then in September, Dabao had to go to school to consider the time of pick-up and drop-off, her husband worked part-time to run takeaway to make money, and it was convenient to take care of me and Xiaobao in time, and at the same time to take care of two children was very tired, I became very grumpy, when the children were disobedient, I was particularly upset, there was no job, the financial pressure was high, and the family's various expenses made me very anxious.
I often complain about my husband, the two often quarrel, in early December Xiaobao pneumonia was hospitalized for 10 days, watching a group of people in the same ward around a child busy, and I took care of the small alone, very sad, because the child is sick very noisy always to hold, the whole 10 nights I am holding the child in the hospital corridor walking back and forth, the arms are not their own, at that time really a little regret having a second child.
It felt like I was depressed after childbirth, and my mood was very bad, and one day when my emotions broke out, I complained about my husband and was dissatisfied with my husband while listening to my child crying, and I felt super bad.
Or the husband comforted me vigorously, accompanied me, teased me hard to start, let me rest, he took the child.
In the past five years of marriage with my husband, it is really not easy to get to the present, I am very grateful to him for always inadvertently giving me courage, although life is a mess, but I feel that I am lucky, at least my husband is sad for me, is loving me, I hope that in 2022, everything can get better and better.
To love someone is to feel sorry for a person. Because of love, so heartache, know how to feel sorry for your hardships and grievances, know how to understand you, know how to comfort you, know how to share with you, don't let you work too hard.
Only the person who truly loves you will feel sorry for you, a man who truly loves you will give his heart to you, and the best performance for you is to hurt you.
When you meet such a man, you will get happiness.
Men who don't love you will only consider their own feelings, will not take care of you, will not notice your emotions, but only care about themselves.
Whether a man really gives his heart to you or not can actually be seen.
Men who don't really hand you over to you don't care so much about you. Thinking of Zhong Xiaoyang in "Thirty Only", when he and Zhong Xiaoqin are together, he will only take her to play games, watch movies, and even after staying up late, he will drag her out to play.
However, he would not care whether Zhong Xiaoqin was suitable for such a life, after all, Zhong Xiaoqin was much older than him, so Zhong Xiaoyang was still relatively naïve in Zhong Xiaoqin's eyes, or not suitable for her.
Because many times, Zhong Xiaoyang can't take care of her emotions, and often provokes her to cry sadly, and even leaves her behind.
After divorcing Chen Yu, Zhong Xiaoqin found that her ex-husband was actually quite good to her, although there were some shortcomings, but he knew how to take care of her emotions, and he would really hurt her.
Therefore, Zhong Xiaoqin was still separated from Zhong Xiaoyang, and finally chose to remarry her ex-husband and get back together.
For a woman, the real sense of security is that the man gives his heart to her, knows how to hurt her, knows how to take care of her feelings, will not let her be wronged, knows what her needs are, so as to meet her and give her the best care.
Men who know how to hurt you will worry about you being hurt, for example, when you encounter things, he is more anxious than anyone, for you, no matter how far away he will come to you, tell you not to move, never find you, and then take care of you, comfort you, give you warmth.
Men who know how to hurt you are reluctant to be wronged, and when you cry, they will give you a shoulder to lean on.
He knows what you want, so he finds a way to fight for you, and after knowing why you are troubled, he will find a way to secretly help you solve it.
A man who hurts you, will see all your efforts in the eyes, will double down on compensating you, be good to you, for you, and be willing to give everything to protect you.
Men give their hearts to you, that is, they are filled with you in their hearts, so they hurt you. He would rather give more and suffer more, and he does not want you to suffer with him, but to find a way to give you the best life.
The man who hurts you is not willing to let you face life alone, but he grits his teeth outside and insists, silently bearing it.
Women should know that what is worth delivering is always a man who knows how to hurt you, will give his heart to you, will take responsibility, face the ups and downs of life together, and protect you for a lifetime.
And the man who doesn't know how to hurt you, you're sick, sad, wronged, he doesn't make a sound, he won't take care of you, he won't soothe you, you can't feel warmth in him.
And the man who gives his heart to you, even if he does not know how to be romantic, does not know how to say beautiful words to coax you, but he is very sincere about your actions.
Because the purest love a man has for a woman is heartache.
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Author: Flying Fish, deeply loves words, likes the minimalist slow life, holds a vegetarian pen, and writes about the warmth of the world.
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