01.
There is a poem cloud: "Ask what the world's situation is, and the Orthodox Church promises life and death." ”
Love, throughout the ages, has always been the spiritual carrier on which literati and inkers rely on their creations.
It happens without warning, begins without a reason, deepens as a matter of course.
It is based on the tacit understanding between two people who love each other without complaint and regret and the heart-to-heart.
It is undeniable that the greatness of love lies in its selflessness.
But before a wonderful love affair begins, each of us is an independent individual.
It is true that because of love, we gradually and involuntarily follow each other's footsteps and gradually forget ourselves.
But unreserved love, almost obsessive, is doomed to a less satisfying ending.
Singer Liu Zhe once sang in the song: "Why are amorous people always hurt mercilessly."
When one person in a love gives all sincerity, there is a risk of being let down.
Most people expect sincere and pure love, but to love to the point of losing oneself is equivalent to giving up one's own value.
Therefore, love someone, don't be too full.
02.
The premise of loving others is to know how to love yourself first
Most people who know how to love themselves can look directly at their own emotional needs, and will not bend over backwards for the sake of loving others, and be beggars of love.
On the other hand, those who do not know how to love themselves are mostly insecure.
Pay the ultimate love, but get the same feedback, and then become miserable, Gu Ying self-pity.
"The Life of the Rejected Pine Nut" describes the tragic story of a girl named Matsuko who loved her all her life but was not loved.
As a result of her father's preference for her younger sister, Matsuko's childhood is shrouded in the shadow of neglect.
As an adult, Matsuko made a lot of efforts to be seen and praised by her father, but she still could not meet her father's satisfaction.
Frustrated by his career, Matsuko left his hometown.
I have met several lovers, and each relationship is incredibly devoted, but the ending has been disappointed.
In real life, it is not uncommon for women with similar fates like pine nuts.
Neglected from an early age, and thus growing up, it is extremely necessary to be gazed at.
In order to get love, so, desperately love, but forget to love yourself first, others can love you.
Only those who know how to love themselves can heal the misfortunes and sadness of life with a sound heart.
Most people who love too much will be unable to cope with happiness because of their own lack.
03.
Things will be reversed, and excessive love will bring burdens to each other
As the saying goes: "When the water is full, it overflows, and when the moon is full, it loses." ”
Everything should adhere to the principle of moderation, and love is no exception, and loving too much may backfire.
In life, some men and women with a strong desire for control have uninterrupted "greetings" twenty-four hours a day.
Not only will it not let the partner feel the happiness of being loved;
Instead, a kind of pain of being tailgated is born, causing the otherwise unharmed emotions to fall apart.
Some people say that good love is comfortable with each other.
True love begins with "you," not to satisfy one's own selfish desires.
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Zhong Xiaoyang is a big boy who is six years younger than Zhong Xiaoqin.
Because he is in love with Zhong Xiaoqin, he often uses jokes to express his love for Xiaoqin.
But Xiaoqin, who is nearly thirty years old, has passed the age of "playing with love", and she wants stability more than romance.
Under Zhong Xiaoyang's "soft grinding and hard bubbles", Zhong Xiaoqin promised to associate with him.
Zhong Xiaoyang, who is happy and broken, plays the role of an adult, gives her what he thinks is the best, and takes her to play and adventure.
But the fresh experience, in the end, is only a moment, for Xiaoqin;
She was exhausted by the full work of the day, and she didn't have much energy to play with it.
Especially in Zhong Xiaoyang's childish go to the company to confess, it made Xiaoqin feel uncomfortable.
In fact, good love is not necessarily vigorous, love is too strong, may burn yourself, but also hurt others.
As the saying goes: "Things are precious when they are scarce."
If the love for a person is too full, it is inevitable that the other party will feel taken for granted and will not be cherished.
04.
The world of conservation of energy tells us that love must also be conserved, and love that is closely supported by one party will not last long.
No matter how affectionate love is, you can't lose your own principles and bottom line.
And the truth is that a truly worthy lover doesn't need you to give up your principles and bottom line.
First calm and then love, a full heart, there is a steady stream of happiness motive force.
Don't love too much, both self-protection and respect for love.
After all, deformed love cannot water the flowers of happiness.
Qi Wei sang in "Soft": "Love is like wine, drinking too much will go up." ”
Indeed, when the god cupid sends us a signal of love, most people are overwhelmed and overwhelmed.
But the top of love is always so hot that it almost swallows people up, and it doesn't last long.
People with wisdom can understand the laws of love and wait patiently for the happiness of love to slowly reveal.
As the saying goes, good things are grinding, and the sweetness of love should be like a trickle of a stream, and it will continue.
Loving too much will scare the lover away, and it will also make you sad and disappointed after you can't get positive feedback.
Leave room for each other, and happiness can be stretched.