There is a saying that parents are there, life still has a place to come; parents are not there, life is only the way home.
It can be seen from this that the life of parents can be regarded as complete and complete. Especially when people reach middle age, their parents are still in good health and accompany themselves, which is a great happiness.
Therefore, we must cherish every minute of accompanying our parents. But even this is not the reason or reason why parents can do whatever they want in their children.
Maybe it's a bowl of water that's uneven, or maybe it's the eccentricity of parents, in short, sometimes, the more filial the children, the more they don't please their parents. On the contrary, those children who can't come back several times a year and can't fulfill their filial piety several times often win the hearts of their parents.
01, three brothers and sisters, but the parents are only the eldest
Deng Wei tried his best to serve his parents for 8 years, but in the end he was thankless and became the most filial son in the eyes of his parents. The parents even gambled that they would not give Deng Wei the demolition money and family property, saying that Deng Wei had not fulfilled his obligation to support him.
Deng Wei is the eldest in the family, with a total of 3 brothers and sisters. There is also a younger brother and sister at the bottom, but in the poor family, the children are precocious and early. Deng Wei is no exception, coupled with his parents' preference for his younger brother and sister, he is naturally snubbed by his boss.
Among the three brothers and sisters, Deng Wei studied hard by his own efforts and was admitted to college. However, the younger brother was spoiled by his parents, and his shoulders could not be picked, his hands could not be lifted, he could not go up and down, and he was good and lazy.
As for the younger sister, she was originally the only daughter in the family, and her parents would also be distressed. Therefore, when my sister finished high school and worked outside for a few years, she also got married.
In rural areas, parents generally follow their eldest sons for the elderly. Deng Wei's family is no exception, and this proposal was negotiated by his parents with his younger siblings. As for the party Deng Wei, he did not know it, until his parents came uninvited, Deng Wei learned the truth of all this.
Although Deng Wei was angry, he thought that his parents did not deal with his brothers and daughters-in-law, and his parents were not less wronged, so he accepted it. Parents also did not think to ask Deng Wei's opinion, after all, it was a matter of course for their son's adoptive parents.
02, the eldest son gives 80,000 medical expenses, but the parents give the reimbursement to the younger son
To support his parents, Deng Wei will not resign. It was only the arrival of his parents that made him suffer from the cold and warmth of the human world. Parents think that living in their son's home is a matter of course, so they also treat their daughters-in-law with shouting, making them come and go, and they are so righteous that they make people angry.
In addition, parents are tired for many years, and they also have a variety of underlying diseases, which require long-term medication. Coupled with the fact that he usually has minor illnesses and small pains, Deng Wei often needs to take leave to take his parents to the hospital for physical examination. And every time at this time, the younger brother and sister will retreat, saying that they are busy at work, have many family affairs, and cannot take care of it, so that the brother and sister-in-law can bear more responsibilities.
My father had a serious illness last year that required surgery. As a result, the 80,000 yuan of medical expenses were all wrapped up by Deng Wei alone. The younger brother complained that raising two children was too stressful and expensive. The sister also cried and complained that the in-laws' conditions were not good, and the couple could only barely support the family.
In the end, 80,000 medical expenses, Deng Wei went out alone, and his wife had a cold war with him for more than half a month. In the end, the father was discharged from the hospital to reimburse the money, but the parents gave it to the younger brother, saying that the younger brother had two sons, it was not easy, and the money left to him was also considered to be the parents who could not help the debt.
Seeing this, Deng Wei was so angry that he didn't fight anywhere, and his wife simply took the child back to her mother's house. If it were not for Deng Wei's repeated intercession, perhaps Deng Wei would have been divorced by his wife long ago.
03, the parents want to threaten not to pay the demolition money, the daughter-in-law angrily intimidated her parents and fled
However, Deng Wei's quest for perfection and the burden of humiliation did not exchange the gratitude of his parents. On the contrary, his parents thought that Deng Wei was not filial enough.
Deng Wei is particularly hard to raise a family by himself, and occasionally he can't give his parents living expenses in time, and his parents are full of displeasure; sometimes, Deng Wei's wife's meals are slightly salty, and his parents say that his wife is deliberate, knowing that they have high blood pressure.
But the parents treated their brothers and sisters very well. Because of the eccentricity of the younger son, the parents will give the younger brother any money on hand, saying that the younger brother's culture is not high, and the parents should also help one or two.
Although the sister is not very good, she has a sweet mouth and is very good at making her parents happy, so her parents also love her. Only Deng Wei, his mouth is not sweet, and he can't be bothered by his parents, most of the time, he pays for his parents, but he is also complained and accused by his parents.
Later, the house in the hometown was said to be demolished. The parents were suddenly full of confidence, coupled with the younger brothers and sisters coaxing next to them, they were even more booing and warming to the parents, and the parents' hearts were even more biased to the edge of the sky.
When the younger brother came to the door again to ask for money to change the car, his parents asked Deng Wei to give his brother fifty thousand. Deng Wei supported a large family, and he was powerless, and naturally he could not give money. As a result, it annoyed the parents, who thought that the eldest son was not filial piety, so they threatened Deng Wei, saying that they would not pay for demolition and relocation, and the family property would not give the eldest son a cent.
Deng Wei was angry, but he did not dare to argue with his parents, for fear that his parents would be angry and have to pay for it himself. As a result, the wife who stood aside could not help but be angry: Since you always say that your young sons and daughters are filial piety, then you should go to them for the elderly. From today onwards, we will give up the demolition money and family property, and we will not accompany you for the elderly.
The wife did what she said and directly helped her parents pack their bags. Seeing this, how the parents interceded, the wife was indifferent. And Deng Wei also chose to turn a blind eye, after all, what his parents did was too chilling for him.
Looking at the back of his parents fleeing into the wilderness, although Deng Wei felt some guilt, he was more relaxed. After all, he paid for his parents for 8 years, but in the end he became an unfilial son in the eyes of his parents.
Since his parents didn't like him as an unfilial son, there was no need for him to swallow his anger anymore.
In families with many children, the last thing parents can do is an eccentric parent. If parents can't level a bowl of water and be a fair and impartial referee, then they are not qualified to point fingers in front of their sons.
The selfishness of parents, the eccentricity of parents, and the righteousness of parents will become a straw that crushes the most filial sons. People's hearts are all flesh, and no matter how eccentric parents are, they should not rob the rich and help the poor.
Today's Topic:
How do you think about your parents' filial sons who are filial to the conditions, robbing the rich and helping the poor?
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