In marriage, both men and women are afraid that the other party will not treat their parents as parents. Because the other party can't treat everyone equally, they can't force it.
However, rather than treating all people equally, women are more afraid of encountering such a man who has no money and no ability to have good face. When encountering such a man, a woman and a woman's parents, they may have to bear a certain price for the good face of men.
Therefore, in marriage, some patience has a certain period of time. As Yan Rujing said: Patience in marriage has a time limit. For a while it is called calming the wind and waves, and forbearance is a lifetime, all by fate.
01, self-prepared house upside down to marry
The 32-year-old Song Wen, the most regretful thing is that she had to prepare her own house to marry her phoenix male husband despite her parents' opposition. Although the husband is a potential stock, this potential stock is also a foolish man.
Song Wen met her husband at work, and her husband's ability and appearance are the type that Song Wen likes. Therefore, when her husband took the initiative to pursue Song Wen, she agreed without hesitation.
Although her parents later strongly opposed it, they believed that Song Wen should find a door-to-door object to marry. But the stubborn Song Wen not only did not obey her parents' arrangements, but almost eloped with her husband and ran away from home.
In desperation, the parents had to agree to the marriage. Also because of the pain of her daughter, she prepared a marriage room for Song Wen early. Song Wen finally married her husband as she wished and lived the life of her dreams.
Only half a year after getting married, Song Wen had some regrets. Because she found that her husband's monthly salary was never handed in. Occasionally give money once or twice, it is also like squeezing toothpaste, and the door is very stingy.
Song Wen couldn't believe it, she asked her husband to turn in her salary card many times, and her husband refused, on the grounds that his parents supported him after college, and he needed to repay his parents' kindness, so he had to honor his parents 3,000 a month, and as for his parents' other requests, he also had to respond to his needs.
02, "Your parents are not without money" Phoenix man wants to buy a house for his parents to support the façade
Song Wen said that her husband could not acquiesce, and she also thought to herself, when she has children in the future, maybe her husband will relent. But until Song Wen gave birth to a child, her husband still went his own way and did not give her a penny.
Since becoming pregnant, Song Wen has quit her job and gone home to raise a baby. Therefore, during the time when she quit her job, her husband had little money for her, so she could only eat the old money or rely on her parents' subsidies to live.
Later, when her parents took over the children, Song Wen was relieved and was able to go out to work. It was only when she established herself in the new company that her husband offered to buy a second apartment, and said that instead of saving money to earn interest, it was better to buy a house as an investment.
For her husband's request to buy a house, Song Wen did not object. It's just that the two people don't have any savings in hand, and Song Wen asks her husband to go back to his parents to help him.
But her husband refused, and even told Song Wen without hesitation that the reason why he wanted to buy a second house was to give his parents a pension. His parents had raised him for more than twenty years, and now it was time for him to repay their kindness. And the parents moved to the city to live, which is also a scene for the parents to support in their hometown.
Song Wen did not expect that her husband's selfishness was like this. She asked her husband, I have no objection to you buying a house, but where does the down payment to buy a house come from? The husband replied to her in passing, "Your parents are not without money, let them pay a down payment, and we will pay the mortgage." ”
03, the wife divorce cut off the husband's back road
Song Wen thought that her husband was joking, and the house they were living in now was bought by Song Wen's parents. If she opened her mouth to her parents to buy a second house with a down payment, wouldn't she want her parents to empty their pension money?
According to the parents' intentions of loving their daughters, parents will definitely respond to Song Wen's needs. But this time, Song Wen did not want to cheapen her husband in vain, nor did she want to take her parents' money to support her husband as a filial piety.
Song Wen refused, and no matter how filial her husband was, she could not take her parents' money to fulfill filial piety. Her parents' money was not blown by the wind. And the husband treats the money in her parents' pockets as his own money, and uses it naturally, without a little psychological burden and pressure.
Song Wen filed for divorce with her husband, she believes that a man is not wrong to be filial to his parents, but to take the money of his parents-in-law to fulfill filial piety, that is a mistake added to the mistake. His in-laws were not his biological parents and were not obliged to help him fulfill his filial piety.
After the husband was divorced, he completely cut off the back road, and the in-laws were also anxious, and the husband panicked. He tried every means to keep Song Wen, but Song Wen was unwilling to compromise. Compromise once or twice, there will be countless times.
Filial piety to parents is the obligation and responsibility of every child. However, filial piety to parents is the business and duty of each child, and has nothing to do with others.
Even if others are capable, they are not obliged to help you fulfill your filial piety. Therefore, the men who have no ability but still like to punch their swollen faces and be fat are mostly foolish filial piety men. He wants to show filial piety in front of his parents, but he also morally kidnaps others for money.
A woman loves a man and can marry upside down, but you have to polish your eyes and see clearly whether the man you are marrying upside down is worth a lifetime of hard-earned money for you and your parents?
Today's Topic:
What do you think of men who punch their swollen faces and are fat, and they also have to buy a house for their parents to fulfill their filial piety?
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