Title. Many people find that blind date marriages last longer than free-love marriages. This conclusion arises from a large number of comparisons of real married life.
In the long married life, some couples will divorce because of trivial matters, while some couples can still stay together for a lifetime even if they fight.
It has been concluded that many couples who marry in free love tend to divorce more easily, while many couples who marry through blind dates live longer.
Why is that?
First of all, from the essence of marriage, many people misunderstand marriage, think that marriage is the result of love, in fact, marriage is only a form of love, by no means the result of love, and even not the guarantee of love, the essence of marriage is to protect the interests of both men and women in marriage.
In this sense, it is not difficult to understand the solid reasons why blind date marriages are more solid.
Many people mistakenly believe that marriage is the result of love, because with such a misunderstanding, it is logical to think that the marriage of free love is longer, two people who are happy with each other enter marriage because of love, form a family, everything is completely voluntary, such a marriage should be long.
But the harsh reality tells us that in divorced marriages, free love marriages account for a relatively large proportion of marriages, and this result cannot help but cause people to think deeply.
In the marriage of free love, the opportunity for them to get married is more because of emotional factors, they enter marriage in order to prove each other's love, eager to stay together for a lifetime. However, in the later married life, many couples are full of contradictions due to various reasons such as different proportions paid in the marriage, different responsibilities, or poor relations with the families of both parties, and even incompatible personalities, and finally choose to end in divorce.
This is because free love marriage is more of a sentimental result, two people do not know what to do, go deep, a lot of love obviously there is a huge gap between the two people, or education is not equal, or income is not equal, or family is not equal, or looks are not equal, but in the early stage of love, both men and women because of the power of love will automatically ignore these inequalities, many free love marriages are not affirmed and blessed by the parents of both parties at the beginning, two people need to break through many obstacles to get married, but after marriage , the gap between the two people itself will not change because of marriage, the gap still exists, these gaps become the source of contradictions between the two people in the marriage, little by little eroding each other's love, until exhausted.
The basis of marriage is that love is not fake, but love is only the emotional basis of marriage, and the most important foundation of marriage is not love, but material foundation. From this point of view, it is not difficult to understand that blind date marriages are more stable.
Couples who get married on blind dates, often introduced by others, before the introduction, has already compared the indicators of the two people in all aspects, from personality to education, from family to work, from personality to hobbies, has been compared in advance, feel that all aspects of matching will introduce the two people to know. After a period of getting along, the two people who knew each other on a blind date felt more compatible and entered into marriage.
Blind date marriages are more family-oriented, which increases their stabilizing factor.
Such marriages are more stable in all aspects from the economic base to the emotional foundation, so they are longer.
Love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families, and the marriage of free love is only the embodiment of the will of two people, but blind date marriage is often the embodiment of the will of two families, so blind date marriages tend to be longer.
Love is romantic and moving because of sensibility, but marriage needs more rationality, can maximize the interests of both parties of the marriage is more solid, love in marriage is only lubricant, but the material basis and whether the two can handle the family relationship in the marriage is the key to determine whether the marriage can be long-lasting.
With the change of the concept of marriage and love in modern society, marriage is no longer a necessity for many people, they pay more attention to emotional experience, some people oppose the blind date model, feel that blind date is too mechanical and deliberate, blind date makes two people like the commodity to be sold on the market, lost love heartbeat, a glance of ten thousand years of beauty and romance, many young people are psychologically resistant to blind dates.
But it is undeniable that blind date marriages are indeed more stable and stronger.