Text: Xi Xihuan
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Some people say that today's young people are more and more reluctant to get married, there are different reasons, some people feel that marriage needs to be responsible, and more and more people are beginning to enjoy the freedom brought by singleness;
There are also people who think that they are good enough, so no one can be worthy of themselves, rather than being willing, it is better to be single and free.
In fact, whether you are married or not, it is about fate, but also follow the choice of the heart, the lovers who are barely together will not be really happy, and the marriage that will be achieved in order to be will not last long.
Many people of the older generation have a hard time understanding that the reason why people are not willing to get married now is entirely because of selfishness and consideration of themselves.
But isn't that what marriage is all about? Marriage is a matter of two people, and the life that needs to be walked is also two people supporting each other to finish, so considering yourself more is really responsible for marriage.
My cousin is 35 years old and has long become an older leftover girl in everyone's eyes, but her excellence also makes it impossible for people around her who want to urge marriage to open their mouths.
Since graduating from college, her cousin began to start her own business, suffered losses, lost money, and was also deceived by feelings, and she did not dare to tell her family when it was the hardest time, but she rented a damp basement alone.
At that time, she had tasted true loneliness, and she knew that no one could rely on her except herself. Later, after the success of the business, more and more people pursued their cousins.
Some men give gifts, flowers, and romantic rituals, but the cousin rarely accepts these gifts, and she herself has the financial ability to satisfy herself, so she does not need other men to use these substances to please her.
The romantic sense of ritual seems completely meaningless to her emotionally wounded cousin, because she knows that a man can say anything emotionally, but it does not mean that he will really keep his promise.
There are also some men who like to humbly please their cousins, feeling that as long as their posture is low enough, they can let their cousins see their sincerity and accept the confession of asking him.
However, the cousin is a strong woman, she looks down on those men who bow their knees for love, and even more looks down on men who blindly give what they don't understand what they need.
Over time, the cousin became more and more cold, and more and more unwilling to accept a new relationship, the people around her were anxious for her, and even the parents were anxious to break off the relationship with her for her marriage, but the cousin never compromised.
She once said that marriage is to be responsible for yourself, but also responsible for the other party, if you just to complete the task and find someone to marry, then the last to hurt is yourself.
I have to say that my cousin is a veritable "quality girl", although she is older, she has her own pride and her own emotional needs.
My cousin couldn't talk to the people around her, and she could only post her bitterness on the Internet, but she didn't expect to get the support of many netizens.
After watching their cousin's experience, some netizens could not help but sigh: The reason why some single people choose to not get married at an older age is because of the rare pursuit of the kind of feelings they want.
Some netizens expressed deep sympathy after reading it, and also understood why more and more people were unwilling to get married, because these people were unwilling to settle down.
A person chooses to be single, not because he rejects feelings from the depths of his heart, there must be his own reasons, so for the people around him, understanding is the most important.
01 Didn't fall in love with someone he was enough to match
We all say that two people who enter the marriage hand in hand should be matched with each other, should be on the same channel, if not, then only two people can be gradually separated in a chicken feather in the marriage, and the distance between the two people will become farther and farther away.
Once had a friend, he continued his studies after graduating from college, and he wanted to concentrate on research, but he could not resist the arrangement of his parents, and finally married a girl chosen by his parents.
The girl has no education, has a big grin, never thinks about what the life of the friend really needs, in her opinion, as long as the meal is done and the clothes are washed, it is to love the friend, but in the end the two people are more and more speechless.
After a few years of marriage, the friend finally couldn't stand it so he chose to divorce, restored the single friend who refused all blind dates, and even turned his face to his parents for this matter and did not change his mind.
Friends say that getting married should be a beautiful thing, and for such a good, he would rather wait a long time than wait for the person who is enough to match him.
When we have such people around us, we cannot say that they are selfish, because their pride has their own capital.
If a senior and excellent person insists on being with a person with a completely different frequency, then in the end two people will become no common topic, and the couple in the marriage need to communicate and communicate with each other, which is the secret recipe for keeping the marriage fresh.
When you meet such a person, as a person around you, all you have to do is to give enough understanding and respect, because such a person is the person who really understands marriage.
02 Want to be responsible to the end
Marriage requires two people to have a sense of responsibility to support the bottom, this truth many people understand, but not everyone can do it.
Some people in the trivial life of marriage, gradually worn away the original fighting spirit, the original determination to run the marriage well faith.
The sense of responsibility needs to be constantly supported by their own efforts, if a person is excellent, but if he ignores the sense of responsibility that should be assumed, then in the end he is not responsible for his marriage.
There are many people who understand the importance of this sense of responsibility, so they will not easily enter a marriage, because in his view, since they choose to get married, they need to be responsible to the end.
Some people understand their psychology and know that they are not ready for marriage, so they would rather be single than get married easily.
As bystanders, we cannot say that such people are irresponsible, nor can we say that they only covet the excitement of love and do not want to be responsible.
It is precisely because they want to be responsible and want to be responsible to the end, so they choose to be single, so they are rare people who can stay sober in the face of marriage.
There are still many people who dare not touch marriage because of the original family, Xu is the marriage of their parents is not harmonious, so they have lost the beautiful vision of marriage, at this time, they need the encouragement of the people around them, so that they have more courage to accept their own happiness.
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