For those who can manage love, "marriage is the paradise of love"!

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There are five criteria for judging whether one's love for the other person or the other person's love for oneself is true love:

(1) True love is selfless

Truly loving a person is not to take from the other party, but to be single-mindedly for the good of the other party, to achieve the other party, to dedicate to the other party without complaint and regret, is completely unrequited, is without any strings attached. If you have a selfish heart for someone, want to reciprocate, have a plan, try to make a profit, and want to control the other party to satisfy yourself, it is not true love.

Nowadays, many young people are looking for objects not with true love, but by satisfying selfish desires. Looking for someone, not looking for someone, but looking for something? Find out whether the other party has money, whether there is power, whether the other party looks beautiful, see how much benefit the other party can bring for themselves, if it is profitable, no matter how good the other party's moral qualities are, they can make a promise to each other. Where is the love to find a partner, it is clear that it is nonsense, and it is gambling with the happiness of a lifetime. So to judge whether you are true love, first look at why you are looking at each other, what you like, why the other party is looking at you, what you are looking at.

Now the attitude of many young people looking for objects is to play, and where to play is where to count. Finding someone is a serious matter, but many people don't have this concept. These people are very casual in love, often swap like a marquee, are dangerous, and pinch a cold sweat for them, which are irresponsible performances for both sides. There seems to be another saying that seems to be popular now, called "combined by misunderstanding, separated by understanding", which is really absurd. You see that people now are really joking about their own lives, joking about their own lives and not tightening, who is worried? Who's uncomfortable? Your parents are worse than you, and the people who love you are more uncomfortable than you. So we must be careful!

Nowadays, many young people like to use their posture to attract objects. Being beautiful is a window opened for you by Heaven, a window for you to sprinkle beauty into the world, and is never used as a capital for showing off and gambling. People not only like external beauty, but also prefer inner beauty, that is, the truth, goodness and beauty of people's inner qualities and moral qualities. A beautiful face is short-lived, it will eventually pass away, and there are people who are bigger than you are beautiful, and they are still coming out one by one; but the inner beauty is eternal, and the longer it is, the more beautiful it is. Just imagine, with a beautiful appearance but bad character, at first it will feel good, but before long, it will be more and more tired, the more disgusting it is; with a general-looking but good character, the longer you feel beautiful, the more happy you feel.

However, now many girls think that as long as the face is beautiful, they don't know that now being beautiful will really kill her, why? Because now many men don't look at the sage. She came out of the house and everyone said to her, "Wow, how are you so pretty." What does she do with the mirror every day? Look at your own face and spend most of your time? What is spent on her face and clothing is not spent on learning, not on the improvement of virtue, not on the growth of wisdom. If, after entering middle school and stepping into society, these boys praise her "You are really the most beautiful woman I have ever seen", as soon as this ecstasy soup is poured down, she will flutter, her wisdom will be completely hindered, and the danger will come. As the saying goes, "women are afraid of marrying the wrong man", if you choose these boys who are infused with ecstasy soup as partners, the pain of these girls will officially begin. Imagine if a person with heavy colors would be a good spouse? Therefore, girls must have the correct judgment ability, only from the heart to cultivate well, and constantly improve the virtuousness, only a good boy is inspired. Therefore, we must be rational in life, our eyes must be polished, and we must learn how to see people.

(2) The feeling of true love is warm

To love someone is to make the other person feel incomparably heartfelt warmth, and it must be to give people a very happy and warm feeling. If you make the other person feel disgusting, painful, or even afraid, it is not true love. Today's young people generally love to die and live, is this love? Because they have not received the correct education, too much influence by the movie, there is no correct understanding of the normal development of the relationship between the sexes, and some love songs are listened to too much, as if they feel that there is no love to die and live, it is not called love, as if it is bitter, like a knife cutting, where is true love, clearly is desire. Always want to control each other, possess each other, so it will make each other so much pressure, very painful, that is desire is not love, is this "desire" dressed in very beautiful clothes dressed as love, we can see clearly, do not be deceived by it.

(3) The words of true love are upright

Love is for the sake of others, love is constantly reminding and encouraging kindness, and words are not pretending to deceive people. If it's often rhetoric, beware that it's not true love.

(4) The act of true love is fulfilled

To love a person, we must help each other at all times and everywhere, let each other achieve academics, careers, family business, and Taoist karma, let the other party become a person with both ability and political integrity, benefit the people, serve the motherland, and be truly happy, and sometimes even sacrifice their own interests in order to fulfill each other. If the other party does something wrong, you not only do not correct him in good faith, but support him, and even do something wrong with him, this is not love, this is harm, it is even more evil, it is an aid and abuse.

(5) The extension of true love is broad

True love will transcend the narrow love between lovers, and even sacrifice one's own interests and even one's life for greater true love.

If we meet these conditions, then the love we give to each other is true love; likewise, the love that the other person gives us is true love. As long as you pay true love, how can love, marriage and family be unhappy? Or is that the saying, what is the best tool for finding objects? The best standard is the Disciple Rules. The Disciple Rules are the Manifestation Mirror, and this person can follow the Disciple Rules, which is your good object. If you can follow the Disciple Rules, you are a good object for others.

4. Tell your children how to enter the marriage hall

Entering the marriage hall requires procedures, and do not engage in so-called "flash marriage", which is an extremely irresponsible performance.

What are the procedures? Acquaintance - acquaintance - pity - love - marriage.

"There is a reason to meet thousands of miles, and there is no reason not to meet on the other side." Knowing each other at a certain time, place, and environment is a kind of fate. After acquaintance, we must know each other, that is, to understand what kind of person the other party is, understand clearly and then further develop. How to understand? It must be understood under natural conditions, so that what is understood is true and more objective. The so-called natural situation is that like classmates or colleagues, everyone gets along normally and is a normal living situation. What do you know? At this time, we must observe whether he cares for others, whether he has tolerance, whether he is serious about doing things, whether he has a sense of responsibility, and whether he has correct values in life. A lot of girls say, "I don't care that much, he just has to take care of me." If a person has love, will he only have love for one person and no love for others? If that's the case, is this love really fake? Fake. He doesn't even care for his parents, he doesn't have filial piety, he will be good to you, that's false, because now it's profitable, and when that benefit becomes harmful, he will ignore you and abandon you. So we observe that he cares for and takes care of everyone, which means that this person is very loving, so that only when we observe will we be accurate. But today's young people don't understand, today they know, immediately two people will go out to the activity, do you see it accurately? Absolutely not sure. Because he absolutely put his best, not only the best, but also pretended to show you, let you see very moved, and other bad things are hidden.

What happens when we get to know each other? Cherish the other party's attitude towards people, cherish the other party's care for us, and enter the stage of pity.

Entering the stage of mutual pity, the two sides can further communicate. In this process of interaction, it is not only the two of you who want to communicate, but also the whole situation that parents can understand, listen to the opinions and suggestions of both parents, so that parents can accept. Parents are dozens of years older than us, life experience is relatively rich, look at the problem more comprehensive, more accurate, this looking for objects are for the happiness of their sons and daughters for a lifetime, will be more cautious. Therefore, marriages blessed by parents are relatively easy to last, and many marriages that are not recognized by parents have a high proportion of failures. Many young men and women are very afraid of seeing the parents of both sides, this kind of love itself already has problems, we must be vigilant!

In the process of sympathetic exchanges, some consensus on life values is obtained, and the so-called like-minded people enter the stage of mutual love. This stage is a process in which the sense of attachment between both parties continues to heat up. Both parties really feel that it is indeed very suitable for living together, the time is ripe, and the parents of both parties are also very agreeable, and they can accept and be more happy, and they can enter the palace of marriage.

If a guy sees you for the first time and says, "I love you so much," do you want to believe it? No. He immediately jumped from acquaintance to love, this is not a natural phenomenon, it must be false, it is wrong. Some people have only been in contact for three days and say, "I must marry you", immediately jumping from acquaintance to marriage, absolutely deceitful, all rhetoric, he must have a purpose and an attempt, and when his purpose is achieved, he will abandon you. So, be sure to follow these scientific procedures.

Is marriage the graveyard of love? No. That's the excuse that people who don't know how to operate, people whose marriages fail. Love relationship and husband and wife relationship is to rely on management, absolutely need to pay each other's heart, well managed, happy resident, for people who will operate, "marriage is the paradise of love."

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