A common house rule that every family can use!

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Everything is cause and effect, and there is a reason for the family's longevity, and the reason is to pay attention to education and cultivate morality.

In the past, there were family rules in the family, passing on the family culture from generation to generation, and using cultural inheritance to ensure the wealth of the generations. What is at the heart of this culture? behave. Family education is mainly the education of people.

But today, the vast majority of families do not have family rules, what to do? Someone thought, "I'll make up a house rule later!" "I advise you not to make it up, if you make a mistake and the direction of education deviates, the family business will be defeated." Some people think, using ancient family training, such as Zhu Zi family training, Yan family training, this is not OK? Of course, if it is suitable, it can be, but the world changes over time, and the ancient precepts inevitably have some inconsistencies with this world. Moreover, the ancient family rules are all written and written, which is not easy to understand. So what to do? I tell you a way to use the "Disciple Rules" and take the "Disciple Rules" as a common house rule, which can be used by every family.

"Disciple Rules" can be used as a general house rule, it is the same as the "Zhu Zi Family Training", but the text is more understandable and more catchy to read. In the "Zhu Zi Family Training", it is said: "Rise at dawn, sweep the court, and clean up inside and outside", and in the "Disciple Rules", it is: "Get up early, sleep late at night, the old is easy to arrive, sorry at this time." Morning must be washed, gargling, defecating, and purifying hands. In the "Zhu Zi Family Training", it is said: "It is not easy to think about a porridge and a meal", and in the "Disciple Rules", it is said: "The clothes are noble and clean, not expensive, the upper is followed, the lower is called the family, the diet, do not choose, the food is appropriate, do not pass." "It's all the same.

Studying the Disciple Rules helps to implement the core values of socialism. The core values of socialism are 24 words, and there are three levels: the individual level, the national level, and the social level. The three levels are interrelated. Citizens are patriotic, dedicated, honest and friendly, and the country is naturally rich, strong, democratic, civilized, and harmonious, the country is rich and strong, democratic, civilized, and harmonious, and the society is naturally free, equal, just, and rule of law. These three levels correspond to traditional culture. Patriotism, dedication, honesty, and friendliness belong to the personal level and are self-cultivation; prosperity, democracy, civilization, and harmony belong to the national level and rule the country together; freedom, equality, justice, and the rule of law belong to the social level, which is the world, which corresponds to the self-cultivation of the family and the rule of the country and the world. The Disciple Rules correspond to the individual level. The "Disciple Rules" has seven parts: filial piety and sincere belief in loving people and benevolence, which correspond to "patriotism, dedication, honesty and friendliness", and corresponding to the five permanent "benevolence, righteousness, courtesy, wisdom and faith".

What is the ultimate goal of parents sending their children to school for school education and returning home to engage in family education? Of course, it is to ask for the happiness of the child's life.

So what exactly is happiness? True happiness has the following characteristics.

The first feature is eternity, that is, happiness is infinite, it is a lifetime. For example, the teacher, the sense of achievement of the peach and plum all over the world, when you think of it, you feel happy and happy, even if you retire, the student comes to a phone call and a text message, immediately make you smile and smile, this is real happiness. The second characteristic is universality. Happiness is everywhere in our lives, but we don't pay attention to it, we don't feel it. Rodin said, "It is not the lack of beauty in life, but the lack of eyes to find beauty." The same is true of happiness, there is no lack of happiness in life, but a lack of heart to feel happiness. Without a mind that feels happiness, we don't know what happiness feels like, so true happiness is not material gain, but giving altruism so that happiness can be felt. Where is the real source of one's unhappiness? It's about desire. The law of desire is that the more stimulating the more developed, the more human desire is endless. There is a poem in ancient times called "Unsatisfied":

Running all day long is only for hunger, only to be full of clothes.

He has enough food and clothing, and he wants to be beautiful and beautiful.

Marry a beautiful wife and give birth to a child, hate no field and less roots.

Buy how vast the countryside is, in and out of the boat-free less horse riding.

The head of the slot tied mules and horses, and lamented that no official position was deceived.

The county lord Bo was still too small, and he wanted to hang purple clothes in the middle.

I did the Emperor's Immortalism, and I wanted to ascend to the sky and fly across the crane.

If the world wants to be satisfied, except for Nanke Yimengxi.

When a poor man is hungry, he has only one purpose, to eat a full meal, "to run all day just for hunger", and to think of nothing else. "I just thought about clothes as soon as I was full", after eating a full meal, I wanted to dress. "I have enough food and clothing, and I want to be beautiful and beautiful." When I am full and warm, I want my beautiful wife. "Marry a beautiful wife and give birth to children, hate that there is no field and less foundation", marry a wife and have children, and hate that there is no field. "In and out of no boat less horse riding", buy a field, and feel that there is no boat and horse in and out, very lost. "The head of the slot tied mules and horses, sighing that no official position was deceived", there are mules and horses, and sigh that there is no official position. "When a county official is still too small, he also wants to hang purple clothes in the middle of the country, do the emperor's immortality, and even more want to ascend to the sky and fly across the crane", being an emperor is not satisfied, and he still wants to become an immortal, and his greed is really endless. "If the world wants to be satisfied, unless Nanke dreams of the West." There is a scenic spot in Handan, Hebei Province, called Huangliang Dream, which is also an idiom that canonizes shen Jieji's "Pillow Record" of the Tang Dynasty. In the seventh year of Tang Kaiyuan, Lu Sheng was depressed, riding a green colt, wearing a short coat, and entering Beijing to catch the examination. One day, passing through Handan on his journey, he met Lü Weng, a Taoist priest who had obtained immortal magic, in the guest house. Lu Sheng lamented his poverty, and Lu Weng took out a porcelain pillow and put it on his pillow. Lu Sheng reclined on the pillow, and as soon as he fell asleep, he married a beautiful and gentle wife from the Cui clan of Qinghe, won the Jinshi, was promoted to Shaanzhou Mu, Jing Zhaoyin, and finally promoted to Hubu Shangshu and Yushi Dafu, Zhongshu Ling, and was named the Duke of Yan. His 5 children were also high-ranking officials Houlu, married Gaomen. Lu Sheng's children and grandchildren are full of glory and wealth. At the age of 80, he fell ill for a long time and finally died. When he lost his breath, Lu Sheng woke up in shock, turned around and sat up, looked left and right, everything was as usual, Lu Weng was still sitting next to him, and the owner's steamed yellow sorghum rice was still in the pot. Man is an unsatisfied animal, never satisfied, "if the world is satisfied, unless Nanke dreams of the West."

Why do some people always feel pain and can't taste happiness? If you dig deeper, you will find that the cause of suffering is not seeing through the nature of things. For example, eating, why should people eat? It's for life, it's for health. But nowadays, the main purpose of people eating is not here, but to the taste. It should be known that good taste is not necessarily healthy, MSG is too much, too much oil, too much seasoning, but it is detrimental to health, but we have too many people who can't see through the essence of eating, spend a lot of money to go to star hotels, to damage health. The purpose of seeking wealth should be to live, but now many people are for luxury. The role of honor should be to set an example and set an example, but now it has become a means of pursuing profits, with honor can add points, plus points can be evaluated, and the title can be evaluated. The essence of eating is to seek health, the essence of wealth is to live, and the essence of honor is to set an example, but people can't see through its essence, lose the truth of things, desperately chase and scramble, and if they can't compete, they will be miserable. In fact, the avenue is simple. Eating coarse grains is good for health than eating mountain treasures and seafood, drinking boiled water is better for the body than drinking drinks, wearing cotton cloth is better than wearing Aya silk satin health care, sleeping on a hard bed is better than sleeping Simmons health.

What is happiness? There is a happiness formula. Happiness equals achievement to desire, achievement as a molecule, desire as the denominator. Happiness is proportional to achievement and inversely proportional to desire. If we want to increase the happiness index, we have to shrink the desire and increase the achievement, so that you are happy. If a person achieves great things and desires, he is still unhappy. Some people get rich and become multi-millionaires and billionaires, but they are still miserable because their desires are greater than their achievements. Some people have no desire and are miserable because he has not achieved. Therefore, if you want to improve the happiness index, you must reduce the desire and increase the achievement, which is the happiness formula.

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