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The education of children should be scientific, how to say science in traditional culture? In traditional culture, the education of a person is very meticulous and scientific, divided into three stages, zero to three years old is a stage, three years old to thirteen years old is a stage, thirteen to eighteen years old is a stage, and adulthood is a stage.
Talk about these three stages with you, first talk about zero to three years old, I don't know if the teachers here have such a young child, if there is no way you can teach this method to young people, in the future your son, your daughter can teach them. A child from zero to three years old is the education of nurturing sex, what is nurturing sex? Nurturing sex is nurturing character. Our children today have a bad personality, impetuous, irritable and disobedient, very stubborn, why? Because of the bad character. Why is it bad personality? Because there is no nourishment. How do you raise it? In fact, a mother does not start from the child's zero age, but should start from pregnancy to raise the child's personality. Because as soon as your mother is pregnant, you can't just listen and do it. If you live, sit and lie down, you must pay attention, how to pay attention? Where does character come from? Natural nature, with a natural heart to raise children. After pregnancy, you should not go to the places you should not go, do not say what you should not say, and do not look at what you should not see. You can get close to nature and take a walk in nature, because children belong to nature, as calm as nature, like a lady, like a gentleman. What shouldn't you see? For example, television, especially war movies, can't be watched, and martial arts movies can't be watched. You see, it's a stimulus to the child. Listening to music can not listen to rock music, harsh music can not listen, what should be listened to? Listen to the sounds of nature, alpine flowing water, fishing boats singing late, classical music, this is the sound of nature. How did the music come about? Music comes from nature. Music is the sound of nature, and listening to the scriptures can be accompanied by music, which is the wisdom of the ancient sages. When the child is born, even the color in the room must be paid attention to, what color is used? Like the adult color we decorated, the dark color is the worst, the big red, green and purple are not good, and the flowers and green are not good. Some parents are accustomed to buying a few large balloons for their children, which is OK, but the color of the balloons is very exquisite.
I don't know if there is a kindergarten teacher here, the preschool teacher knows that the color of the kindergarten is very exquisite, can not use adult color, why? Because of nature, what color is used for the big balloon? Light yellow light green light blue. It is okay to have some animals on top of the balloon, but the color is in the colors of nature. Why use these colors? Blue sky, white clouds, grassland, sea, loess slopes, you see the three primary colors are the colors of nature, children like. Raise a personality, wait for the child to be born, take her out when she is zero to three years old, eat in a restaurant, go to people's homes to visit the door, live and sit down, you as a parent should pay attention to, to be a humble gentleman. Don't lose your temper, don't get angry, don't throw things around, take things lightly, just like kindergarten teachers teach children. Take everything gently, just teach the child like this, the Tao Fa is natural, and this kind of etiquette of your adult behavior, the child will feel it. This is the principle of cultivating character.
The second stage is from three to thirteen years old, from kindergarten to primary school is juvenile rehabilitation. What to use to correct it? Use the Disciple Rules! At this stage, the "Disciple Rules" are the best to use, filial piety and faithfulness, love for all people, respect for sincerity, and help the poor and needy, which is the best way to cultivate righteousness. Let me explain to you what is right -- for others is right, for yourself is evil, this is a simple and easy to remember explanation. Any child who thinks for himself is evil, and what he thinks and does for others is right! So if you look at it and read the Disciple Rules, every sentence is for others to think, and every sentence is to be done for others. Our ancestors once said a saying, called three years old to see the little seven years old to see the old. What is the truth of what it says? That is to say, a child who has passed the age of seven can be seen in the achievements of this life. Some people say you're not fatalistic? Not fatalism. There is a saying in our education that if we plant a thought, we will reap a kind of behavior; if we plant a kind of behavior, we will harvest a habit; if we plant a habit, we will harvest a character; if we plant a kind of character, we will reap a kind of destiny. So a person's fate is there. What determines destiny? Thoughts, behaviors, habits, personality. What kind of habits and personalities there are, what kind of fate there is, this is not fatalism, this is an objective law. Man's fate can be changed.
Once giving a lecture to parents, I asked everyone, children over seven years old raised their hands, many people raised their hands. Today I also ask, your child over seven years old raised his hand and put it down. A lot, so I ask, do you know what your child will accomplish in the future? Some teachers laughed and said they didn't know, they didn't know that I taught you a method, it was very simple to see it. What to see? Looking at his habitual personality, some people say what does that personality think? I tell you, a person's habits, personality, thoughts, you can't see, it has a carrier, what is the carrier? Look at the child's three aspects: words, deeds, and thoughts. Words are words, depending on how he speaks; actions are deeds; thoughts are thoughts, thoughts. I tell you a method, you first look at how to speak, if a child can say good things, what is a good word? A child said that others were good to say, that my grandfather was very good, and my grandfather was very industrious. My dad was nice and my dad was brave. Mom is nice and mom is kind. The teacher is good, the teacher is wise. Classmates are very good, classmates are very loving. I'm not good, I'm going to learn from them. This is a good word, not a good word if I am good. I tell you a method, you go to see who the child says is good, if the child only says that others are good and does not say that they are good, but I tell you, your child, I congratulate you, there will be great achievements in the future. He only praises others and does not praise himself, great achievements. You say that such a child can't do it, can't take a step back, he says more about others being good and less about saying that he is good, and the achievement will take a step back, and there will be medium achievements. So what about a child who only says he is good and does not say that others are good? No one else is good except me, no one is good, how about such a child? Nothing in a lifetime. Only say that others are good, do not say that they are good, great achievements; say more that others are good, less say that they are good, and achieve in the middle; only say that they are good and do not say that others are good, there is no achievement. That's the word. Okay, that's for whom. A child only does for others and does not do for himself, great achievements; more for others, less for himself, in the achievement; only for himself, not for others, sorry for no achievements. Thoughts, thoughts. For whom to think. If a child only thinks for others and does not think for himself, great achievements; thinks more for others and thinks less for himself, he achieves success; only thinks for himself, does not think for others, and has no achievements. When you go back, look at who your children are for, for whom they think, and for whom they are doing it.
Once, a parent went back to see his son, quickly called, said bad things, went back to see his son, he broke out in a cold sweat, the child only said that he was good, only for himself to think, only for himself, only for himself, this is not achieved. I said yes, so what to do? Change! How to change it? Where it was lost, change it from where it was, and use the Disciple Rules to change it. The Disciple Rules are all about letting you say that others are good, "The Tao is good, that is, it is good; the more people know it, the more they think about it." To promote the evil of others is to be evil; to be evil is to be evil; to be evil is to be evil", and it cannot be said that others are not good. They are all thinking for others, "will add others, ask yourself first; if you don't want yourself, that is, you are fast", you are thinking for others. "People are not idle, do not stir things up; people are uneasy, do not disturb" are all for others to think, are to do for others. "Whatever you take, you know; what is appropriate, what is appropriate is less", are all done for others. Therefore, by teaching children with the "Disciple Rules", you can transform people's words and deeds, which is called yangzheng! They all call yangzheng for others, and they all call themselves evil. Many of our children today are evil, they are evil for themselves, and it will be difficult to correct them after they are evil. Why are our students in our school not good at teaching? Because children are evil, everyone thinks for themselves and thinks differently, so there are contradictions. Using the "Disciple Rules" to correct and govern the class, and unifying the children's thoughts with the "Disciple Rules", it will be correct. Governing the family with the "Disciple Rules" and unifying people's thoughts with the "Disciple Rules" is correct. This is called yangzheng.
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