The love of children for their parents should be implemented in action, that is, filial piety.

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In the last class, Mr. Guo Wenbin told the touching story of a modern filial piety named Wang Xihai, who served his vegetative father for 26 years, telling us: What is the filial piety that "moves the world", that is, "kissing the disease, tasting the medicine first, serving day and night, and not leaving the bed". And thus advised us: "In the case of parents' physical uneasiness, we must fulfill filial piety in time." We know that "filial piety" is the most basic cultural tradition of the Chinese nation, and it is also the cultural gene of the Chinese nation.

In traditional Chinese moral norms, filial piety has a special status and role. The final evolution of the Chinese character "teaching" into the composition of "filial piety" and "wen" also reflects the collective consciousness of the Chinese nation, which means that the foundation of education should be built on the basis of filial piety. So why is Chinese so advocating filial piety? Is "filial piety" a feudal ritual religion, or a humane heavenly way? How does the Disciple Rules take "filial piety" from metaphysical to metaphysical?

Mr. Guo Wenbin:

We will then share with you the "Disciple Rules" section of "Entering the Filial Piety". In the last class, we reported to everyone the part of "Kissing, Advising, Yiwu color, soft Wusheng", and then shared the special meaning of "kissing and having diseases, tasting medicine first, serving day and night, and not leaving bed", and we talked about "exhortation" and "filial piety in the case of parents' physical uneasiness".

What does the Disciple Rules say next? "After three years of mourning, he often grieves, his dwelling place changes, and his wine and flesh are extinct." Funeral rites, sacrifices of sincerity, things to the dead, as if they were born". Talk about what to do after our loved ones die? "After three years of mourning, he often mourns, his dwelling place changes, and his wine and flesh are extinct." The meaning of the word is very understandable, that is, in these three years, three years after the death of our parents, we cannot eat meat, we cannot drink alcohol, and we must always be in a state of nostalgia. Maybe some people are very dogmatic and say, "often mourn", and don't make people cry? It is illustrated here by means of sadness, to represent a state of mind, that is, nostalgia for parents.

Why do we have to keep filial piety to our parents for three years? According to Confucius: Because we have been in the arms of our parents for three years, we can walk thoroughly and live independently. Reciprocal, we said earlier: "filial piety to the elderly", if you can achieve reciprocity, then this "filial piety" basically passes. What does that mean? That is to say, if we love the old man to the point where the old man loved us, then it is reciprocal.

Here is also the application of the principle of reciprocity, and in these three years we must always miss the old man and think of the favor he has brought us. In the midst of this nostalgia, we should raise our life energy even more to bless the elderly. We said in the previous lesson: "When I improve, the old man also improves; when I land, the old man also lands; when my vitality increases, the vitality of the old man also increases; when my vitality decreases, the old man's vitality also decreases." In other words, the best way for us to miss the elderly is to be a good person, do things well, improve the vitality, improve the life energy, make up for the shortcomings of our family destiny community and the family energy pool, and let the old man get a force that belongs to us to transfer to him, which is the best remembrance and best blessing for the elderly.

What is a real nostalgia for the elderly? It is a saying that the ancients often said: turn grief into strength. Because the old man is at his special time and space point in these three years, he needs a blessing from us to give him as a "road fee", which is the practical meaning of nostalgia spoken of by the ancients. According to Chinese folk tradition, after the death of a loved one, we often have to perform a three-year sacrifice. And before the three-year festival, we have to do seven seven and forty-nine days of seven sacrifices, that is, on seven days we have to hold a memorial ceremony. There is a memorial service on seven days, because Chinese talk about seven days.

We particularly emphasize the special significance of the seven in the process of life growth and circulation. The ancients found that a child is in the mother's womb, seven days a body, seven days a like. The ancients believed that after death, seven days is also a special need, so it is necessary for relatives to bless him and help him in a way of remembrance. This is made up of Chinese unique knowledge of life. There are often many families in the folk, and during these seven days and forty-nine days, they must continue to perform some blessing ceremonies for their loved ones. After July 7, it will take a hundred days, and then there will be a one-year memorial ceremony, a two-year memorial ceremony, and a three-year memorial ceremony. Within three years, according to folk traditions, such as what I wrote in the "Lunar Calendar", families with "filial piety" within three years cannot paste red couplets. When he wanted to make a lamp on the fifteenth day of the first month, his own family could not do it, and he had to let his relatives, friends, neighbors give it to them, so that they could use it. In other words, we should remind these families in all ways to commemorate their ancestors and their deceased relatives with the mood of "cautiously chasing the distant future" in these three years. From the classical folk tradition, we can see that there are many ritualistic norms, we folk often have to wear Ma Dai filial piety, wearing Ma Dai filial piety is an image, it is through this external carrier to cause all the nostalgia in our hearts.

As we said earlier, everyone has an eternal account, that is, our subconscious; and everyone's subconscious has four characteristics, which are automatic recording, automatic playback, holographic, and eternal. Since everyone's subconscious is eternal, is the subconscious of our deceased loved one still there? Absolutely. Now that we are there, our remembrance has a tangible meaning. Our blessings have tangible meaning. In this sense: "mourning for three years, often mourning, living in a change, wine and meat extinction" has practical significance.

Of course, different peoples have different habits, and different people have different ways and methods of knowing life to remember their ancestors. For example, Zhuangzi, after his wife died, he knocked on the basin and sang there. Right? Everyone said that this was not often sad, the wife died, the wife died, and he sang. Right? From this aspect of Zhuangzi's life, yes, because Zhuangzi knows that life is eternal.

Zhuangzi told a parable. There was a girl who was going to marry a royal concubine, and before she got married, she cried very sadly, and cried and cried. After marrying, I ate well, drank well, and enjoyed honor, and I felt funny about the original crying and crying. Such a good thing, why did you cry in the first place? In Zhuangzi's opinion, perhaps the next leg may be more pleasant than it is now, and there are more beautiful scenery waiting for us, so Zhuangzi sang after the death of his wife.

Is this a blessing? It's another blessing. We can see from Hawkins's energy level that the energy resonance of joy to others is around 500 levels, which is very high, equivalent to great love that does not ask for anything in return. From Zhuangzi's point of view? For the death of his loved ones, he was another special blessing. Can we emulate Zhuangzi? I'm afraid not. Why? Because people's collective consciousness is: after the death of the elderly and relatives, we must spend these three years with a sad state. It is that in these three years we cannot do entertainment, we cannot eat and drink, we cannot rejoice, we must be in a state of nostalgia. This state of nostalgia, the ancients said that the best way is to turn grief into strength. In other words, in these three years, we have to do enough good things to transfer the energy generated by these good deeds to our relatives, so that he can get an energy support, which is the understanding of the ancients.

Why did the ancients ask for three years after the death of a loved one? Or go the middle way. He didn't ask for six years, and he didn't ask for a year, two years. Three years, this is just right, which is suitable for what is said in "The Mean": "The undeveloped joy and sorrow are said to be in the middle; and the hair is all in the middle, which is called the sum." In other words: "We are sad, sad just right; happy, happy just right; fear, fear just right." We know that there is quite a bit of content in the education of children that is fear education. For example, when a child wants to turn on electricity, he says, "Can't move, that's very dangerous." "It's education for him, but not excessively. Say at night: Don't go home too late, otherwise, it will be dangerous.

Fear is a protection for life in a sense, but it should be appropriate. If it is excessive, the seven emotions will hurt our bodies, and joy, anger, sorrow, joy, sorrow, thought, and panic will hurt us. In Chinese medicine, it is said: "A person who is too happy will be sad, and too much fear will hurt the kidneys." The "Middle Way" says: "The undeveloped joys and sorrows are said to be in the middle; and the hair is all in the middle, which is said to be the sum." That is to say, a man whose life is in a state of "and", he will not get sick. What is a state of "sum"? It is that the joys and sorrows should be just right, not excessive. Joy cannot be excessive, sadness cannot be excessive, worry cannot be excessive, it must be just right. This is the spirit of the "Disciple Rules" "three years of mourning, often mourning, living in a changeable place, and drinking and flesh" The spirit that we interpret is to treat this nostalgia with a proper mentality, to treat the death of relatives, not to hurt the body because of sorrow and sorrow, nor to rejoice just after the death of relatives, because this is limited by our collective human unconscious.

This article is excerpted from "Guo Wenbin's Interpretation"

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