Compassion is the continuation and amplification of filial piety!

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Starting from this lesson, we will share with you the second part of the Disciple Rules, "Out of the Way". In the previous lesson, we shared with you the first part of the Disciple Rules, "Entering the Filial Piety". We have made an interpretation of the connotation, extension and spirit of the Disciple Rules. From this, we can conclude that the kindness to our parents is like what is said in the Book of Poetry: "The virtue of wanting to repay, HaoTian is reckless", that is, there is no way to repay. The Book of Verses says, "The Father gave birth to me, and the Mother bowed to me." Pick me up and breed me. Take care of me and repeat me, in and out of the belly me. If you want to repay the virtue, Hao Tian is reckless." That is to say, our parents gave birth to us and raised us. The Book of Verses is very detailed and vivid. At the beginning of life, every day our parents carried us in and out, and that's how we grew up. It is impossible for us to repay such a kindness. Therefore, the "Book of Poetry" uses a kind of "the virtue of wanting to repay, Hao Tian's recklessness" to sigh. Since we have such a big kindness, we must repay this kindness with our healthy growth, good moral character, and meritorious achievements, and live up to this kindness.

Next, in the "Disciple Rules", in the part of "Out of The Way", we will teach us to continue to amplify this grace. In the "Sayings", it is said: "Filial piety is the parent of good deeds, and ti is the brother of good deeds." We can see from its creation that there is a "brother" next to a "heart", that is, we must have a younger brother in our hearts, and we must have brothers and sisters. The "Disciple Rules" begins with the "Out of the Way" section: "Brother Daoyou, Brother Daogong, Brotherly Harmony, Filial Piety in the Middle." It can be seen that compassion is an extension of filial piety. If filial piety is our upward love, then compassion is our love in a parallel direction, which is the horizontal coordinate as the axis of love.

"Brother Daoyou, Brother Daogong." As a brother, the key is to love and care for his brothers and sisters; as a brother, the key is to respect his brothers and sisters and sisters-in-law. On this point, we all know that this is what parents in the world are most looking forward to and most looking forward to. The parents of the world are most afraid of brothers' contradictions, brotherly wars, brothers' smoke, which is the saddest parents. Regarding "brothers and sisters, brothers and sisters", I write a lot in the book "What to Say". I talked about our family, how my parents practiced "brotherhood, brotherhood, brotherhood, filial piety".

When my grandmother died, she left a sentence: "Be kind to your brother and sister-in-law", which became the "constitution" of our family, and it was with this sentence that my father and mother began their long life journey. My uncle and aunt did not have children, my grandmother said this, on the one hand, for this reason, at the same time my uncle is more honest, relatively weak, although he is an uncle, but he is good, his personality is good, are very weak. So my grandmother left such a sentence, and my father and my mother made this sentence the "constitution" of our family. For the rest of their lives, their brothers and concubines did not separate their families. I wrote in the essay "The Eternal Fort" that a fort was inhabited by brothers and concubines. In the hearts of our brothers and sisters, we can't tell which one is relative and which one is far away, and we don't know which one is our "kissing" father and which one is "distant" father. We locally call our father "big" and our uncle "father", and we use this distinction to distinguish them. Distinguish between calling the mother "ma" and the aunt "niang". In my recollection, we grew up with two loves, two fatherly love, and two maternal love. I grew up sleeping in my uncle's bed, and whenever my father wanted to punish me, my uncle and aunt took on the role of protector, so it felt like my uncle and aunt were closer.

In the hearts of my parents, they carefully guarded the words that my grandmother had left behind on her deathbed as one of the highest laws in their long life journey. No matter how difficult it is, no matter how difficult the days are, my parents did not move the idea of going home. Looking back now, the greatest character, the most difficult person, was my mother. My father had another ambition, and an ideal of keeping my grandmother's will, but if my mother did not cooperate, he would not be able to fulfill this wish. So one of the key figures in this is my mother.

My mother treats my aunt more respectfully than her daughter to her mother, and my daughter-in-law treats her mother-in-law. In my impression, my mother was the first to rise up in the family, and by the time my aunt got up, my mother had already done all the farm work that should be done in the family. For example, the work of carrying water, sweeping the yard, and digging up kang ash has been done. Then the mother will ask the aunt what to cook today, and when the aunt is happy, she will say what to do; when she is not happy, she will say, you do your job, what have you been asking? But the next meal the mother still has to ask for instructions. In my mother's mind, her aunt was her life navigator, and she had to ask her aunt for everything she did. Why? To make my aunt happy. Such a request for instructions later became a mother's habit. Later my mother followed us to bring us the baby. My wife is an elementary school teacher, and one day in class, the back door of the classroom "creaked" open, and my mother poked her head in through the back door, and she did not dare to enter through the front door. And then my wife just said, "Mom, do you have anything to do?" "Guess what my mom said?" My mother hesitated for a moment and said, "Is this potato cut into strips or pieces?" "It makes the students laugh!"

You can know from this one detail, what kind of state is my mother in? Even if the potatoes were cut into strips and cut into pieces, she would ask my wife for advice. How is such a state of life formed? All my life I asked my aunt to get used to, she can't be her own master, she has to ask anything she does, she originally asked my aunt, now ask my lover.

In the days that followed, I took my mother to live with us, and I really found that my mother had no "me", no ego, and asked others about everything. It is also this style of mother that has maintained this family, maintained between my father and uncle, between my aunt and mother, and between my aunt and mother, and have lived a life of harmony and beauty. Therefore, in the area of Jiangtai fort in Xiji County, Ningxia, when people mention "Star Village", the original name of our village is Grain Bay, and everyone will give a thumbs up when they say that the Fort family in Grain Bay is a family. I was in Shodai Middle School, and whenever people praised my parents, I also felt an honor.

But as I grew older, I felt more and more that my mother had taken on too much and too much of it. We can imagine asking for instructions for everything, and speaking carefully for a lifetime.

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Mr. Guo Wenbin used his parents to perform filial piety in different ways after his grandfather and grandmother's death, especially the true story of strictly abiding by his grandmother's will and treating his uncles and aunts well, telling us that filial piety is actually the continuation and amplification of filial piety. "Parents should worry about what they are worried about, let them rest assured", this is one of the most important connotations of filial piety. Parents are worried about our bodies, we must love our bodies and maintain health; parents are worried about our future, we must study hard and work diligently; parents are worried about our morality, we must be strict with self-cultivation and innocence. Brotherly discord, siblings turning against each other, and siblings are among the things parents are most worried about. If brothers fall out of harmony and cannibalize each other, it will be a great disrespect to parents. In order not to let parents have such worries, we must practice "brotherhood and brotherhood".

The "Disciple Rules" section of the "Out of the Way" begins with the words "Brother Dao friend, brother Dao Gong, brotherly harmony, filial piety in the middle", which shows that the Tao is a natural extension of filial piety. After the death of the parents, the tradition of "the eldest brother is the father and the eldest sister-in-law is the mother" is to directly continue the path of filial piety.

This article is excerpted from "Guo Wenbin's Interpretation"

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