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Saw a share: "I'm Chinese New Year's Eve years old and have a boyfriend I've been talking to for two years. I wanted to break up, but I didn't dare. “
She said that as a thirty-year-old woman, the people around her have long been married and have children, and she has obviously stepped into the palace of marriage with half a foot.
However, when she thinks of those lives that can be seen at a glance, she will make herself withdraw from the idea of not being willing to continue to face it
However, every time I have this idea, I will think of my mother's sentence: "You are so old, why are you not married?" “
1. I'm thirty, can I still break up?
In fact, when many people first talked to their parents about breaking up, their reaction was very calm.
After all, most people at that time were only in their early twenties, and adults would only treat those in love as if they were children.
But if, when the age rises to about thirty, many parents will block it, hoping that their children can think deeply.
After all, the age is not small, there is a stable object, can live well, is what a ben three people should do.
Parents will always say the same sentence: "At your age, you can't pick and choose, you should learn to be content." “
But does contentment lead to a good marriage? Do you know that the person you met is not the right person, and do you want to continue?
It seems that I don't know when marriage became a necessity for human beings, too big to marry, it will be regarded as an outlier.
However, obviously the marriages of the people around us are not so happy, why are there still people who force their children to get married?
2. I don't dare to fall in love, and I dare not be single
I once read an interview: 'Does a woman in her forties who is not yet married feel unfortunate?' ”
The women interviewed came from all walks of life, and their response was, "No, on the contrary, I think I'm happy." ”
Although they are not married, this does not prevent them from still yearning for love. They have more capital to choose the type they want.
Perhaps, in the eyes of the outside world, the market they can choose from has narrowed. However, they have never lost their self-confidence because of their age.
In fact, for the problem of marriage, after having a certain life experience, it is often caught in a dilemma.
Your parents will let you choose the guy who treats you well, and your friends will think it's a good thing to have someone to take care of you.
Even strange netizens will hope that if you want to break up after the age of thirty, you must decide carefully.
It may be precisely for this reason that many people do not fall in love, because at least they will not get into trouble.
3. Made a choice, is it right?
Some people will think: 'You can't be a person with low eyes, there is a similar marriage, and who to live a lifetime, isn't it all a lifetime?' “
The reality is often: 'Some low-quality marriages, the choice is an endless abyss.' This sentence is not empty.
I remember a saying I once read: 'People always have to pay for their youthful impulses, and when you get to the day of checkout, you will find that the amount is an amount you can't afford.' ”
The same goes for marriage. Some people who marry very early can be happy for a lifetime, but more people face a more unfortunate life.
In this era of 'widowed parenting' and 'widowhood marriage', how many people can reap happiness because of impulse?
Sometimes, it's either not right or right. Some things, the existence of contradictions and conflicts, are big mistakes.
And it is precisely because of their existence that it will only make a person who was originally confident and cheerful become haggard.
People should grow and start a family, but these should come from voluntariness, not persecution.
4. You shouldn't pay for others
When you have realized that something is wrong and insisted on it, it will only be more unfortunate.
It's like a rope that cuts your hand, and if you don't let go, it's only you who'll be hurt.
Marriage is wonderful, but not everyone who enters the marriage will be fine.
You are you, not others, don't use other people's stories to plan your life, and don't pay for others with your own life.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.