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I saw a passage on the Internet: "When a person starts a relationship, remember to look back at yourself in the middle of the way." ”
Think about it, this you who are in love, compared with the past, have become more confident and sunny, or humble and gloomy.
If it's the former, then you must have met true love. If it's the latter, you really need to stop the loss in time.
1. I want happiness, not right or wrong
What would be the separation of a failed marriage if it was based on the premise that neither of them had betrayed?
Perhaps, it is because of a simple sentence of right and wrong, this long-term separation of high and low, is really a very hurtful thing.
I remembered a story I once read, a girl who, after two years of marriage, and her husband resolutely filed a divorce request.
The reason is simple, because since marrying her husband, she has not had a single day of really feeling happy.
In the company, the constant pressure exerted by the boss has overwhelmed him, and when he returns home, he will be blamed for complaining.
He would always casually blame his wife for not being sleek enough, always pointing out her misunderstandings with a condescending appearance.
This home is like another workplace. The two are not like a family, but more like a relationship between leaders and subordinates.
However, when I first married this person, it was obviously because of his thoughtfulness and gentleness, but now it has become a failure.
2. What is obtained by breaking the principle must not be love
In many stories, people actually say a sentence: "Never humble yourself to fall in love with someone." ”
However, in reality, there are still many men and women who dedicate everything desperately for their so-called love.
They feel that as long as they give, then they will definitely reap the rewards and happiness they deserve.
But in fact, those who grew up with themselves will decisively abandon them after they have the ability to be independent.
Even, from the beginning to the end, they will not have a trace of gratitude, only feel that this person who has given everything for them is a burden.
I once read a saying: "The more humble you behave, the farther away something happy will be from you." ”
Thinking about it now, there is indeed a certain truth. Because, people will only remember the shining diamond, not the name of any grain of sand under their feet.
3. You are worthy of anyone but yourself
Looking back at the love that you thought would last forever, you may find that along the way, you deserve everyone but yourself.
For that so-called lover, you put in energy, money, patience, tenderness, and even some of the people closest to you have never seen.
And what he gives you is hurt, insult, slander, ridicule, a sentence: "I just made a joke, who made you serious?" ”
He never loved you, at least he never loved you as much as you loved him. And you still go out of your way to deceive yourself.
You try to convince yourself that he will always change. You'll always get everything you want. But love can't come by hard work.
Not loving is not loving, and hurting is hurting. They are very straightforward and do not need to be covered up, nor can they be covered up.
And the self you should protect the most in the whole world, you lost him, thrown in your so-called love, is this really worth it?
4. In the adult world, there are only choices
For any choice that has ever been, you have to accept your fate. Because, that's your own choice, and you're responsible.
However, for the future, you have to think carefully, what exactly do you want? Can the other party give it to you?
I've heard the saying, 'To forgive the person who hurt you is to give him a second reason to hurt you.' “
Obviously, before you met each other, you weren't like that. Why are you so bitter for the sake of those people?
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.