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Saw a hot search: "In fact, marriage can be better than love." ”
The content is probably about: no one is born to love to cook, and someone who is willing to endure the smoke and fire for you must be the person who loves you the most.
However, marriage is not just a microcosm of life, it is only the simplest microcosm of life, and there are many more things hidden in the details.
1. Who wants to come out and suffer?
After that hot search, an elderly woman in her forties was still working hard until before giving birth.
She had no money on her, and even when she was waiting for delivery, only the nurses pitied her, and the three pieces of bread she sent could fill her hunger.
The woman cried and said, "What woman is willing to fight so hard?" Isn't it all forced by life? ”
Her husband is far away from home, he has a disease and has to pull a pair of children, only the woman goes out to work.
Some people said: "If the family conditions are so poor, why do you have three children?" Doesn't that just make the family's environment worse? ”
However, this is the norm. It's not that people don't know how much it costs to raise a child now, but there are still people who will have children.
Their lives did not change in the slightest because of marriage, on the contrary, because of marriage and parenting, they struggled.
This is not alarmist, but a real portrayal of the lives of many people. It is precisely because of these examples around us that many people are reluctant to get married and have children.
2. I don't even have the ability to take care of myself
For the problem of fear of marriage and childbearing, in fact, it has been a well-known existence on the topic list in recent years.
On the one hand, there is the urging of parents, and on the other hand, the opening of various regulations. Many people are experiencing the pressure of being urged to marry and promote childbearing.
However, why are there still people who are unwilling to get married, or even say that they are not even willing to talk about love, but just enjoy their own life alone?
Perhaps, just like the answer of a netizen who once saw on the Internet, he said the voice of many netizens. He said:
"I'm not a natural person who is good at dealing with relationships, and I hate taking care of and coping with other people's lives.
I don't want to be responsible for anyone, and I hate how others ask me to live. Life is short, I don't know how long I can live,
But at least these days exist, I want to live the life I want according to my ideas. ”
Many young people, in fact, no longer believe in the so-called love and marriage. Life is already a chicken feather, and no one wants to be the next person forced to choose marriage.
3. Does marriage really bring happiness?
In fact, whether it is a person who is afraid of marriage and children, or a person who has already chosen marriage and is about to enter the palace of marriage, everyone knows that no choice is absolutely perfect.
Choose a person who is willing to take on everything with you, then, perhaps your material life is not rich, but your spiritual life is very full.
If you're only trying to live a rich material life, then you always have to take on other aspects of pressure that others haven't taken on.
Marriage has long ceased to be as pure as it was at the beginning, but I hope that when you choose, you make a choice with your own considerations.
Your marriage belongs only to you and your other half, it should not exist for your family, let alone be defined by your parents.
It's just that you meet someone, you live together, and share the burden. How you live is your own problem.
The online examples are sobering, but that's not all, more couples, just living the most ordinary days.
So, don't look at the Internet, look at the person you choose, and see how you spend the rest of your life.
4. Life, there will be many roads
If marriage is a train, then you should have the right to choose to get on the train, get off the train, and leave halfway.
The wrong one, give up. The right people, hold fast. Not to the end, no one knows what will happen.
Being loyal to your own heart, not suitable for others, is also suitable for you.
Your life, in the end, how to choose, depends on your own.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.