Young people's understanding of love is that love is love, no matter what, I will not marry you in this life, not you will not marry. Although love is beautiful, in the face of marriage, love does not represent everything.
Although marriage is the crystallization of love, it is not the whole of marriage, marriage is only a form of contract, and true marriage is a portrayal of life, including emotional exchanges, interpersonal communication, chai rice oil and salt and other factors.
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Lady Dong and Fan are free love, both are not very expressive people, but both sides love each other, but their union was opposed by the mother-in-law, Fan also expressed understanding, after all, his family situation is not very good, but Dong is determined to be with Fan regardless of his family's opposition.
Seeing that her lover was so persistent, Fan Mou said to her: I am sleeping in my family's pig nest, are you sure you want to be with me? Unexpectedly, Dong Mou replied: You sleep in the pig nest, I will sleep in the pig nest! Get such an answer, I believe that as long as it is a man, it will give this woman the greatest happiness.
Before getting married, the wife made a request to him, you give me a dowry of fifty thousand, when the husband could not bear the wife's coldness, so he agreed, but he also said his own difficulties, to take out fifty thousand at a time is still some difficulty, I give ten thousand a year, five years to give, the wife also nodded and agreed after listening.
After marriage, Fan also tried his best to please Dong's family, desperately hoping that he could get the approval of Dong's family, but Dong's mother did not have to look at her daughter's husband at all, nor did she treat Fan as her son-in-law. In the face of the mother-in-law's attitude, Fan Mou is also helpless.
But the contradiction between the couple appeared after Dong gave birth to his second child. Shortly after giving birth to his second child, Dong returned to his mother's house, and after that, no matter how willing the husband was, the wife was determined not to go home.
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During Dong's birth in the hospital, the mother-in-law who was originally accompanied by him suddenly disappeared, leaving only Dong Mou alone in the hospital bed to endure great pain waiting for the birth of the child, I believe this scene is unbearable for a woman.
It turned out that during dong's childbirth, the hospital asked for a deposit of five thousand yuan, because there was not enough money at that time, the mother-in-law had to go home to get it, but when she left, she did not greet her daughter-in-law, which led to a misunderstanding, leaving a shadow in Dong's heart.
After the birth of the child, because the child's fetal position in the mother's womb is not correct, after birth, it can only be treated in the hospital, at which time the mother-in-law said another sentence: the child has a life to rely on, and if there is no life, it is not bad. This sentence has caused a greater gap in Dong's heart, is it that in the eyes of his mother-in-law, money is more important than people?
The mother-in-law later gave an explanation, when the money was spent, Dong Mou in the birth of the child, the child needs treatment is also unexpected, he said this is originally to comfort them, want to express that the child since came to the world, God will naturally bless her, in fact, she has let the second son go home to get the money at that time, may be just a mistake in language expression, to the daughter-in-law to misunderstand their own information.
In fact, many times communication and understanding is very important, if you can communicate more at that time, or spread things out, it may not cause these misunderstandings, which is one of the reasons why many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships cannot be effectively alleviated.
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The wife returned to her mother's house in anger, watching the young child without the care of the mother, the husband Fan went to the Dong family to pick up his wife home, but Dong was unwilling to come back with him, Fan also thought that it was the reason for the mother-in-law, and also privately looked for the mother-in-law, but it did not help.
In fact, there is a shadow in the wife's heart, that is, her husband Fan Mou once beat her during her pregnancy, and under such multiple contradictions, the wife is unwilling to go home.
It was a rainy day, Dong was pregnant at the time, because the eldest son pulled the stool on the bed, Dong let Fan deal with it, but Fan did not have any action, Dong was going to go outside the house in a rage, did not expect the husband to go forward to strangle the wife's neck to drag into the house, perhaps in the husband's view, this is nothing, but in the wife's heart, but there is a grievance, because this day is still her birthday.
The wife was treated roughly by her husband during pregnancy and on her birthday, which was very unpleasant for the wife, but the wife did not break out at that time, after all, she was still pregnant.
In fact, the husband's real idea is that at that time, his wife was holding up a big belly, and it was raining outside, and he didn't want his wife to get wet, but when he handled this matter, it was too rough.
When everything was said, the wife also expressed understanding, and the husband apologized to his wife.
In fact, in married life, a lot of contradictions are caused by the lack of communication between the husband and wife, whether it is a husband or a wife, in the first time of the contradiction, you should spread out the problem, what is uncomfortable to express to the other party at the first time, do not accumulate these contradictions, in the end only blame and blame.
A happy marriage relationship is that since the other party has been identified, it is necessary to respect and love each other, care more and understand each other, learn to compromise and make concessions, communicate more when encountering things, it does not matter if the concept is inconsistent, how to solve the problem is the key, sometimes compromise is also an expression of love.