I don't know if you have ever had such an experience: when taking your baby out, he met other strangers and did not react, but when he saw a certain person, he suddenly cried?
When Buuy was a few months old, I once took her to a neighbor's house to visit. At that time, the old man in the neighbor's house happened to be injured and could only lie in bed and could not get off the ground.
I went into the room to visit the old man, but I didn't expect that the cloth girl in my arms suddenly burst into tears. The cry was loud, and the tears couldn't stop falling. In order not to disturb people's rest, I had to quickly withdraw.
Strangely enough, as soon as she walked out of the door, Bu Ni didn't cry. Quietly, obediently looking around.
What's going on?
I went home and told my grandmother about it, and she told me that there was a "superstition" that a baby could "see" something different.
Cuckoo's mother naturally did not believe these claims. But I'm curious, why do little babies behave like this?
After reading a lot of information, I found that the baby's eyes really have "special" points. The world he saw was indeed different from what we saw.
01 The perspective of a small baby
What can he see when the baby is born?
Doctors and nurses walking back and forth in the room? Lighting hanging from the ceiling? Or the dad who kept smirking at him at the crib?
Sorry, he couldn't see all of this.
Because when he was born, the baby was a "highly myopic patient". How "myopic" is it?
Only when his mother feeds him can he see her face clearly. The distance between his eyes and his mother's face is about 20-25cm. That's the farthest baby can see.
Because it is not very clear to see, in the first few months, small babies like to look at objects with large chiaroscuro contrast.
Get a rag doll for him? Oops, what is this thing? Take it away. Why don't you take this book? What's that fancy thing? Take.
What does this baby really like to watch?
Dad rushed over to the baby and pondered. Settle down, it's you! Say you, this angular, three-dimensional, and some small scum, get closer, let me take a closer look.
Researchers have done experiments showing 40 newborns 4 pictures. It turned out that it was the male face that attracted the attention of the little baby.
Because compared to women, the contour of male faces is more three-dimensional, and the contrast between chiaroscuro is greater. In addition to angular, smooth close-ups of faces, babies also like to watch black and white photos, black and white chessboards, bullseye, etc.
You might ask, if a baby likes to look at faces, why does he cry when he sees some people?
I don't know if you have found that this "certain person" is most likely an old man.
If you start from the visual characteristics of the baby, it can actually be explained as: the face of the old man, the outline of the facial features is not three-dimensional, nor smooth.
The experiment mentioned above of 40 babies looking at photos, including a picture of a facially distorted face. After the baby saw it, he was not only not interested, but even a little frightened.
After the old man is old, whether it is the skin or the facial features, it is not full enough and three-dimensional. This is probably the way babies cry to express emotions they don't like after watching it.
024 months after the baby
It is said that babies are "one a day". After the first three months, by the fourth month, the baby's visual development has made great progress. At this time, he can not only see more clearly, but also like more colors.
When Bu Ni was 4-5 months old, an aunt used to come to my house and wanted to hug her every time she visited. But Bu Ni sometimes let her hug, and sometimes she was very unhappy, and she cried when she hugged.
The aunt was particularly depressed: "Does this baby know me or not, how can she be close and sometimes not close?" ”
Later, I found out that every time Bu Ni let me hug, my aunt was wearing bright clothes. When Bu Ni did not let her hug, the aunt was wearing black clothes.
It turns out that Bu Ni is not "recognizing people", but "recognizing colors".
The Sears Parenting Encyclopedia mentions:
Babies after 4 months of age begin to like colorful things, especially red and yellow. Because their vision is not perfect, they prefer the bright color of rhubarb.
We can try to observe a baby of this age, and if someone wears very bright clothes to hold him, maybe he is not so resistant. But if he was dressed darkly, it was likely that he would have just approached and he would have cried.
03 Psychological factors
Babies see a certain type of person crying, in addition to the influence of visual factors, there is also a psychological factor.
Babies come to this novel world, just like we travel to adult countries, although novel, but not enough sense of security. Surrounded by a group of tall people, he seemed so weak and incompetent.
At this time, we will develop a strong sense of attachment to the people closest to us. Babies, too, are "newcomers" and become attached to their families, especially their mothers, in unfamiliar environments.
Developmental Psychology states:
Babies aged 3-6 months have a greater preference for their mothers, followed by family members. For 6-24 months, he would "spot" his mother and use her as his safe "base.". Once mom is out of sight, he develops separation anxiety.
Babies cry when they go to unfamiliar environments, especially when they are held by strangers. This kind of crying belongs to a kind of "social", he uses crying to call his mother, expressing his uncomfortable emotions.
At this time, the baby sees "someone" crying, which is selective.
In an unfamiliar environment, if his mother is not there, he will tend to look for familiar people around him and reject strangers. But if there is no familiar person around, the baby will have no choice but to ask for help from strangers who seem close.
At this stage of "recognizing people", it means that the baby has grown up. From 1-3 months, anyone can hold it, and it has entered a period when only certain people can hold it.
04 Adapt to the rhythm of the baby
When taking the baby out, he sees strangers crying, and we should try to soothe his emotions.
If we forcibly let the baby be held by someone else in order to close the distance between him and a friend or relative, the baby will be disappointed because the mother does not respond.
This is not conducive to the establishment of his sense of security, easy to produce separation anxiety, and there is a feeling of "distrust".
For babies aged 1-3 months, we need to take him out for a walk. Go and see the different colors of nature, increase the visual experience, develop vision. In addition, going out often can improve children's ability to adapt to unfamiliar environments.
Babies who are often taken out to play are more likely to connect with others and easier to integrate into unfamiliar environments.
If the family can take care of it, it is best to take turns to take care of the baby. This can not only establish an attachment relationship with him and reduce separation anxiety, but also share the workload of the mother and not let the mother be so tired.
The baby sees someone crying, it may be the appearance of that person, causing the baby to feel uncomfortable visually, or it may be because the baby has separation anxiety.
In short, when the baby is crying, we should not feel that he is unreasonable, nor should we listen to the "superstitious" statement.
This is a way for him to express emotions, the older generation may not be clear, but we need to understand the baby's growth rules and meet his emotional needs.
In this way, the child can have enough security and grow up happily!
Have you ever had a baby cry when he sees "someone"?
Let the child learn to express his emotions in words, which is more beneficial to the child's growth. In addition to the usual parents should patiently guide their children, the picture books they read with their children should also have emotional management.
When Forint and I are at home, we will read the picture book "Children's Mood Management and Character Cultivation" together, and the correct guidance of parents is very important!
In fact, human life is actually composed of a circle and a circle. Each circle is a group of people who come together. When your kids take the workout, they'll arrive at the circle. Things are clustered in groups, and people are grouped. What parent doesn't want their children to get better?
When the child is still young, it is the best time to cultivate the child's good character and life habits, parents should seize the opportunity to let the child develop good life habits, cultivate the child's concept of money, self-confidence in the character.
There will be many problems on the child's growth path, and parents often ignore the guidance, resulting in defects in the child's personality.
A person's character and habits can affect his life.
For the future development of children, it is necessary for parents to pay attention to the cultivation of children's personality and habits. This picture book of "Children's Mood Management and Character Cultivation" can help children develop a good personality through classic fairy tales.
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This set of picture books can help children learn how to share with others, how to control their mood, learn to recognize their mistakes, have the courage to confess their mistakes, and let children develop good habits and good character.