We often say that parents are the first teachers of children, and parents' words and deeds can often affect the future development of children's lives. But in fact, children are also a mirror of parents, through children we can also spy some of the parents' lives. For example, we can judge whether a woman is doing well or not just by the life status of a child.
From a psychological point of view, the parent-child relationship of a family can reflect the position of parents in the family. If the child values his mother very much and is willing to respect and filial piety to his mother, it can prove that the mother's status in the family is high, and it is also an insurmountable existence in the child's heart.
The mother-child relationship determines the attachment pattern
Child psychologists believe that a person develops a toddler attachment during the early childhood period. This attachment pattern mainly refers to the fact that infants and young children will develop a special affection for those who take care of them for a long time.
In general, babies are more likely to have an attachment relationship with their mother, and this attachment relationship will also be accompanied by a symbiotic relationship, which is often referred to as mother-child connection. The mother-child attachment patterns that form during childhood have a decisive impact on your life.
Mothers bring children not only simple lives, but also wholehearted love and care. Because of this, the mother can give the baby enough security to often become the baby's first attachment object.
Such attachment is not useless, as a mother often has to set a good example for her children and guide them to form good character.
The choice of the object to be attached to is equally important for children who are in the period of attachment. Whether it is the attachment relationship formed in the early stage of infants and young children, or the safe attachment that children feel in adolescence to a certain stage of growth, it will affect their future personality development.
As children grow older, they need to integrate into society, they will have less and less connection with their parents, and they will gradually become independent people. In the process, most of them will face the first problem in their lives, that is, the anxiety caused by separation.
Separation anxiety is also a problem that often arises in psychology, as these children have always lived with their parents over the past time, and they are used to communicating only with people close to them.
So when a person needs to enter a new environment and live with strangers, they develop a fear similar to that of their mother.
This kind of feeling is not reflected in the child's adulthood, and the kindergarten children will cry collectively after seeing their mother leave, which is actually a separation anxiety. Of course, some children will not seem to care about such parting, or prefer to play with children of the same age.
The differences these children show are often related to the way their mothers treat them. If a mother can bring a strong sense of security to the child, then the child will not be overly anxious because of simple separation, and can better adapt to society.
Although such a child also has an attachment relationship to the mother, such attachment is a safe attachment, and the child will not be affected too much even if he encounters a situation that needs to be separated from the mother. Such children can quickly adjust their emotions and keep themselves in a quieter state for a long time.
Most of the children who suffer from separation anxiety grow up in a warm and harmonious family environment. Their parents also give them too much security, but that security is often accompanied by coddling behavior. Parents pay more attention to their children, and always meet their unreasonable small requirements.
When these children enter an unfamiliar environment, they will feel that the attitude of the people around them has changed greatly, so they will show more anxiety and fear, hoping to quickly return to their mothers. They have become accustomed to a life of responsiveness and try to keep their mothers behind by crying.
Separation anxiety is an emotional state that often arises when we enter an unfamiliar environment.
Therefore, separation anxiety is not a long-term sustained emotion, but a temporary emotion that will trigger multiple times in different environments. Children who often experience separation anxiety in early childhood will grow up to have weaker stress resistance and are prone to ideas similar to glass hearts.
Even when they have a very simple problem, they are accustomed to asking for help from the people around them. On the contrary, children who grew up around grandparents or other relatives did not have as strong feelings for their mothers and behaved more indifferently when they separated from their mothers.
Therefore, we can only observe the attitude of a child when they are separated from their mother, and we can roughly understand the emotional relationship between mother and son. This also reminds us that when educating children, we must grasp the scale, can not be born without raising children, and can not be too spoiled for children.
The child's attitude towards the mother reflects the mother's family status
At the same time, a child's attitude towards his mother can also reflect the mother's position in the family. If a child grows up in a harmonious and happy family, he will be affected by the atmosphere of his parents and be proud to have a good family.
In the process of interacting with their parents, they can also learn how to love and be loved. Because children do not have much ability to distinguish between right and wrong when they are young, they will always simply think that what their parents are doing is the right thing.
Therefore, they often treat their relatives in the same way that the people around them treat others.
If the family can respect the mother enough, the child will face the mother with the same attitude. So just by looking at a child's words and deeds, we can judge a woman's place in the family and whether they are happy or not.