We always meet all kinds of people in the journey of life, but not all of them can become our friends.
In fact, when making friends, we should also make trade-offs, understand which friends are worthy of our closeness and which friends should be kept away. As the old saying goes, near Zhu is red, and near ink is black.
Friends around a person tend to determine the level of his life. If we often make friends with excellent people, we will gradually learn from them and become equally excellent people.
On the contrary, if we are often friends with people who are not thinking ahead, our minds will also be influenced by them and we will eventually achieve nothing.
But not everyone can easily tell what kind of people are worth associating with. After all, there are two sides to human personality, and when they first meet, people will always show their perfect side as much as possible and want to make a good first impression on others. Many people are worried about being deceived by their friends and always prefer to be friends with those who are simple-minded.
But psychologists believe that those who are too simple in mind are not worthy of our deep friendship. This is because people with too simple minds are not fully cognitive, they are always short-sighted, unable to see the more distant future, and when thinking and making decisions, they are also affected by their own vision.
The cognitive ability mentioned here refers to people's ability to integrate and judge the direction of the development of external affairs.
If a person's cognitive ability is relatively strong, he can better predict the development direction of certain things, and integrate some seemingly unrelated information to get a more correct judgment.
This ability can help a person solve sudden problems encountered in life, and it can also prevent their life from taking a detour. Such people can better grasp the laws of all things and make these laws more specific and comprehensive.
Those with too simple minds have poor cognitive skills, which makes them often have certain limitations when looking at problems.
That is to say, the more ignorant people tend to believe in the knowledge they have, and in their view everything is absolute. In fact, this absolute cognition is a manifestation of low thinking ability, which makes these people unable to discover the original truth of the matter in many cases.
When thinking about problems, they are often self-centered and unable to fully consider the development and direction of things. Interacting with such simple-minded people may feel that their ideas are too extreme and often contradict you. You may think that their ideas are too ignorant to be worth the energy you have to discuss with them.
Some psychologists have also proposed that people with such simple ideas are more likely to go with the flow. Because their ideas are too simple, they will not think for themselves when they encounter problems. After losing the ability to make subjective judgments, they can only follow the actions of large troops. In their view, the direction chosen by most people must be the right one.
When confronted with certain key issues, they may even abandon their principles in order to conform to the crowd. Going with the flow may seem like just giving up the right to make decisions, but it can also make us more lazy. And those who think more simply are unable to see through the essence of a thing because of their low cognitive ability.
As a result, they are more likely to be used by others, influenced by collective behavior, and manipulated by collective consciousness. They are often accomplices in something in a state of confusion, when they don't even understand what they are doing. That is, the old saying that you are sold and happily count money for others.
Only people who are mentally strong enough to be friends with such people, otherwise you will not only be unable to protect this simple-minded friend, but you may also be hurt by his unconscious actions and forced to fall into some obvious scam with him.
What is even more tragic is that these simple-minded people not only lack judgment, but also often feel emotional when they encounter problems.
When encountering problems, ordinary people will think deeply and explore the essence of the problem. But simple-minded people simply can't find the crux of the matter at all, so they prefer to make judgments based on their feelings. Even if the other person is a heinous bad person, as long as he is friendly to himself, they are willing to choose to believe each other.
They are often impulsive and reckless in their actions, and sometimes even make some regretful decisions for life. Most people want to be friends with simple-minded people, but they value such people as friendly and easy to get along with, and there is no need to be overly wary of being with them.
But this superficial advantage is actually the fatal disadvantage of this type of person. Because they are too simple to judge whether the other party is using themselves.
This kind of person is often the first choice for people with ulterior motives to borrow a knife to kill people, and they are also often said to be terrible pig teammates on the Internet. Many times our failure is not because the enemy is strong enough, but because there is such an ignorant helper around us.
In general, it is very painful to be friends with simple-minded people. As long as you need to be active in society, you need to be wary of external temptations everywhere.
Only by making yourself strong can you help this friend cope with more complex problems, and you will not be affected by this friend's behavior of helping.
If you want to make yourself more quality and get a more quality dating circle, the best option is to stay away from people who are simple-minded. This kind of person is only suitable for being a good classmate or colleague, and it is not suitable for you to share small secrets or work together.