In the past, when it comes to marriage, people are always full of beautiful fantasies, and many people are eager to meet their dream lover as soon as possible.
But when marriage is mentioned in today's society, many people feel very afraid. Many women have made it clear that they do not yearn for a life after marriage, and they enjoy a carefree life.
Statistics have shown that there are a full 34.9 million more men than women among young people of marriageable age on the mainland. What is even more frightening is that among the few women, there are many people who are very advocating non-marriage. Therefore, some scholars speculate on this data, believing that the number of single men on the mainland will exceed 65 million after the 21st century.
With the passage of time, the gap between the male and female populations will become larger and larger, which is undoubtedly a very heavy and huge blow to young men of the right age.
Some argue that this change is due to the fact that contemporary women are influenced by feminist ideas, women are becoming more and more prominent in society, and single women are enjoying a free and comfortable life more.
There are many women who prefer to live alone rather than stay at home, and will not choose to marry blindly because of the preaching of their families.
Psychologists have conducted meticulous research on this social phenomenon, and many scholars agree that there has been a fundamental change between men and women in today's society.
With the rapid development of contemporary social economy, the pressure to survive in society has become more and more greater. This has led to a lot of young people who have a dislike for society, especially men who need to take on more responsibilities and carry more pressure. After all, many people still maintain a more traditional idea that men should support their families.
There has always been a saying that if a man wants to get married, he needs to pay a certain amount of dowry fees and can buy a house as a guarantee for his future life.
Affected by the limitations of the development of the times, most of the single men in today's society are the generation that has experienced the one-child policy.
They are not like their parents and grandparents, who have multiple siblings who can share the pressure of old age. Most of them have become the only pride in the family, and they need to carry more expectations of their parents. Once he chooses to start a family, it means that he and his wife and two will have to raise four elderly people together, and at the same time take good care of their small family.
If men have a social aversion, this kind of thinking is bound to make their hearts dark, so that they indirectly have a strong resistance to marriage. Influenced by the past patriarchal mentality, couples could only choose to leave one child decades ago, which also made many young girls die prematurely.
At present, the imbalance between men and women in China can be called a social problem. If this problem cannot be solved, many new social contradictions and problems will be intensified, and the psychological burden of single young people of the right age will be increased. In fact, the huge gap between the sex ratios is not the most terrible, the terrible thing is that people have lost their desire to get married.
Affected by the huge social pressure, many people have become unmarried and celibacy, and women have more voice, and they no longer need to rely on men to survive as in the past. The reasons for this behavior are as follows.
Stereotypes of specific social groups
Many people always like to be partial to the whole, and when carrying out social life activities, they often use a certain definition to summarize a category of people. For example, it is often assumed that groups of men will have some of the same characteristics, which is known in psychology as gender stereotypes.
Society's stereotype of women is that women should take on more family responsibilities and be a good wife and mother as much as possible.
But as women become more independent in society and their level of education continues to rise, the income gap between men and women is getting smaller. Women in the new era are more capable of life than men, so they can get an equal voice in communication in marriage. But social stereotypes always prevent them from gaining their rights.
Under the same social status and economic level, women will naturally be more inclined to choose single life. Men their age are forced to choose to be single.
A pluralistic definition of happiness
Of course, with the development of ideas and the improvement of women's education level, many people have also changed their definition of a happy life. Yuxing already has the ability to fight for the life they want, and they are naturally unwilling to continue to follow the traditional concept of male superiority and female inferiority.
After entering marriage, they will inevitably be bound by some social rules or moral ethics.
On the contrary, single women can get more respect, which can free them from the oppression of social opinion. After all, according to the existing system and law, women after marriage are no longer an independent individual, and they do not even have the right to decide their own marriage. Even if you desperately want to divorce, you need to survive a long cooling off period for divorce.
Observational learning
Behaviorist psychologist Albert once said that indirect experience from the outside world can also affect our judgment of certain things.
In recent years, the probability of third parties interfering in other people's marriages has gradually increased, which makes many people feel extremely uneasy about their married life, worried that they will encounter similar embarrassing situations after having children.
Because they can't get the security they want in marriage, women will be more inclined to choose a stable single life. In general, the development of society and the oppression of male behavior are the main reasons why women today are not married. This problem, in turn, has indirectly led to an increase in the number of single men on the mainland year by year. If you want to increase the marriage rate, you may also have to start at the root of the problem.