As a parent, do you often encounter such a scene: once the child can't see you or can't find you, he will cry and make a series of stress responses.
I believe that many parents have encountered it, some parents will feel that this is the child deliberately attracting the attention of parents, and some parents feel that this is the child's reluctance.
In fact, this is a psychological emotional response, that is, separation anxiety, separation anxiety is generally referred to as infants and young children because of separation from their relatives, and have anxiety, uneasiness, loss of emotions.
But then again, in fact, separation anxiety is not exclusive to children, as parents who take care of their children for a long time, they will also have different degrees of separation anxiety.
We are always trying to solve the separation anxiety of children, but often ignore the feelings of parents, in fact, parents' separation anxiety is more worthy of our attention.
In today's many mothers are actually full-time mothers, the daily work is around the child, the most in life is the child, when one day suddenly withdrawn from the busy parenting work, the mother will not be able to accept, become confused.
The vast majority of mothers have strong self-confidence and feel that they can take good care of their children alone, which actually reflects that mothers cannot trust other relatives.
Always worried that others will not be as good to the child as they are, and some mothers will be very distrustful of the child, she does not believe that the child can face all kinds of life independently.
In fact, this is a mother who owes her child a trust, and when you start to trust your child, you will find that your child is like a wild horse that is out of control, running fast.
Having said all that, how should moms relieve their separation anxiety?
There's a song I believe everyone has ever heard of, "There's a Love Called Letting Go," and yes, that's right. Children will eventually grow up, their roads will eventually need to be walked by themselves, and mothers should be the guides of their children, not the pavers.
In life, in interpersonal communication, we are always faced with separation, that is to say, separation is a norm, in this process, we do not need to worry about the uncertainty of the future, living in the present.
In addition, high-quality companionship is often better than our so-called day and night together, some mothers shout that they can't do without their children, but when they get along with their children, they always hold their mobile phones and brush videos.
There is a saying that goes like this: "The time that can accompany children is actually only 10 years, how can it be done without good companionship?" In fact, companionship does not lie in the amount of time, but in the quality of the level, treat every opportunity to accompany children well, so that every companionship can become a happy memory.
For separation anxiety, we always habitually put it on the child's body and take the child to tell, but the mother's separation anxiety cannot be ignored, focusing on the present.
Cherish the time with your child, do not worry too much about the length of time with your children, but pay more attention to the quality of accompanying your children, so that children can grow up happily, and can also effectively alleviate separation anxiety.