introduction
It seems to be an unwritten rule to eat and drink.
So, why should the banquet be a gift?
An etiquette expert pointed out that Confucian culture is one of the most important cultures in the mainland. In Confucian culture, it is said that people should know "etiquette" in their interactions with each other.
The etiquette expert went on to point out that the so-called "rites" come from the "Shuowen", and there is such a sentence in the "Shuowen": etiquette, fulfillment. Therefore God blesses also. In short, etiquette is a ritual that is formed due to customs and habits in social life and is observed by everyone.
The etiquette expert went on to point out that there is a saying in Confucian culture: "Come and not be rude." The original meaning of this phrase is that it is unconscionable for others to do favors without receiving anything in return. Based on this, the person who eats the banquet should follow the courtesy, which can be regarded as a rule!
However, in the real world, there will always be some people who are unwilling to bow when eating!
No, such a thing happened somewhere in Jiangxi!
affair
Gu, a man in Jiangxi, made wine for his father's 80th birthday, and on the day of the wine, all the tables were full of dishes, but only one table was not served.
So, is it because there are no guests sitting around the table?
A video circulated online shows that there are five or six guests sitting around the table, not without guests.
So, why isn't there food on this table?
Insider Sun said: "The five or six guests sitting around the table are a family, and not only did the family not give the man Gu a gift, but also, on the night before, they had already gone to the man Gu's house for a banquet. Because of this, the man Gu didn't serve them food! ”
Insider Sun said: "This family is called 'eating and shopping' in rural areas, no matter who organizes the banquet, their whole family will go to eat, but they will not follow the ceremony." In their opinion, it is right to go to someone's house for dinner. In the words of their family: 'Don't eat, don't eat for nothing, eat for nothing, eat for nothing'. In short, it's the kind of person who eats a table and doesn't say anything about his face. ”
Insider Sun continued: "Although we are in a mountainous area, it costs two or three hundred yuan to hold a banquet, and if a family goes to five or six people and does not give a gift, the person who runs the banquet will lose two or three hundred yuan." Even if some people follow the gift, if a family goes to five or six people, the person who organizes the banquet will lose money! Because the gift money here is mostly 100 yuan, so if a family goes to five or six people, it will definitely lose money! ”
Insider Sun said: Gu Mou, who seems to be holding a banquet, is very ruthless, but he is really helpless! After all, he is also a farmer, and he has no income from farming, so if he doesn't care about anything when he holds a banquet, he can't afford it.
The above is a general process of this event.
When many netizens learned about this incident, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizen voices
Netizen years are like a song: In some places, there will always be some people who like to eat and drink, these people should belong to the kind of people who have little skin and no face, and they always like to take advantage of others. I think that this kind of person should be treated like the man Gu Mou, let them eat a "white seat"!
Netizen Spring Story: Some people really don't talk about their faces, don't give gifts to the banquet hosts, and want to pause, it's so speechless!
In short, netizens have a lot to talk about.
Lao Hu's point of view
We all know what a "courtesy" is. For most people, when others hold a banquet, they will more or less give a gift. After all, a gift is a kind of affection.
In real life, there will always be some people who like to "eat white food" and "eat white food", these people should belong to the kind of people who don't even know the most basic etiquette, and they will definitely be spurned by the public.
Lao Hu believes that eating and ceremonial is an inherent rule, and we can't change it. Lao Hu advises those who like to "eat white food" and "eat white food" not to eat without courtesy in the future. Otherwise, maybe the people who hold the banquet will also let them eat "white banquets" like Gu Mou!