In the TV series "Qing Yu Nian", after Lin Xiang's second son was killed, he called his future son-in-law Fan Xian to the front and told him that he agreed to his marriage with his daughter, hoping that Fan Xian would be kind to his daughter in the future, protect her for a lifetime, and also entrust his eldest son who was as intelligent as a child to Fan Xian, hoping that Fan Xian would take care of him in the future.
As a minister of a country and at the head of the hundred officials, Lin Xiang said that in exchange, he would introduce all the network resources he had accumulated over the decades to Fan Xian, become a boost to his development in the official field, and use the rest of his life to support Fan Xian's development. In order to prove his determination, in front of Fan Xian's face, he burned all the relics of his second son, who had just died, so that he would no longer think of him in the future, and put all his energy on Fan Xian.
This plot can't help but make people feel a lot of emotions. In ancient times, when sons were preferred, people would be considered to have no queens. Lin Xiang's two sons, the second son is intelligent and agile, the eldest son is injured in the brain due to an illness, and his intelligence is like a child. Therefore, after the death of the second son, in addition to extreme grief, it seems reasonable that he intends to devote all his energy to supporting his son-in-law.
But I think, if this matter is put into modern society, if his daughter insists on marrying a phoenix man, as a father-in-law, in the case of unstoppable, should she support her son-in-law? When I took this issue out and discussed it with my friends, everyone had different opinions, and three friends expressed three different ideas.
Mr. Shi, 56 years old: I will not help my son-in-law. Now people's hearts change too quickly, especially men, when he mixes some eyebrows in his career, the probability of his daughter becoming the next cousin is extremely high, which is a very heavy blow to the daughter, I would rather her live an ordinary and ordinary life.
There is an old saying: Repentant husbands and wives seek to be marquises. The lesson that even the ancients could sum up proved that it is not a good thing for men to be too high, which is a great risk for women. A man who comes out of a poor family has a higher desire for future success than the average person, has a great sense of lack in his heart, and will look down on family warmth and other aspects.
Such a person, from poverty to prosperity, from failure to success, what he wants to do most is to get rid of the people and things of the past, and try his best to hide the weak and pitiful self of the past. They often do not know how to be grateful, and after success, they will attribute their achievements to their own abilities and talents.
In my opinion, instead of supporting the development of the son-in-law, it is better to focus on supporting the development of the daughter. In this way, the daughter will have more advantages in the marriage, and the initiative of the marriage will be firmly in the hands of the daughter, so that the marriage will be stable. I can't gamble on human nature with my daughter's future happiness.
Mr. Li: 58 years old: I will support the development of my son-in-law within my ability, after all, there is only one daughter in the family, and the future pension depends on my daughter and son-in-law. If the son-in-law knows that we have the ability to help him, but stands idly by, it will affect the feelings between their husband and wife, and he will not care about us in the future. But I will leave some money for my daughter as a guarantee for her future life in the face of marital changes.
In this world, no matter how you choose, there will be risks, and you can't stop doing them because you have risks. The son-in-law will develop well in the future, the daughter will be proud of her husband, and the son-in-law will also be grateful for our good. When the son-in-law has a certain social status, their descendants can enjoy better educational resources in the future, and the future prospects will be broader.
In order to prevent the son-in-law from developing well, the status of the daughter is not equal, affecting the stability of the marriage. We will leave our years of savings to our daughter so that she can live well without relying on anyone in the face of marital changes. People always have to learn and grow in mistakes, which is unavoidable in life, only by experiencing some setbacks, people can become more mature and more rational.
It's like loving someone, you can't dare to love because the other person will change in the future. In my opinion, people should still try to believe in others, only by believing in others, others are willing to trust us, everything is a two-way street. In this world, whether it is to their own families or to treat outsiders, they need to exchange hearts for hearts. We are willing to take this risk for the sake of our daughter.
Mr. Zhao: 54 years old: I will not promote my son-in-law in my career, but I will help him in other aspects, such as providing some job opportunities for his poor relatives in his hometown, and also providing him with some financial assistance when his son-in-law buys a house and a car, so that the life of the younger two can reach the most stable state of food and clothing.
Many marriages eventually disintegrate because the gap between husband and wife is too large. Women put most of their energy on the family after marriage, and they have to bring children, and most likely, they have no time to take care of self-growth. Men are bent on developing their careers. When men with the improvement of their careers, contact with more people, the vision is not the same, even if not divorced, the two people will gradually drift apart.
Therefore, I will not promote my son-in-law in my career and let him develop rapidly, but the family affection between the family must still be maintained. We will ask our daughters not to give up their jobs and self-growth for the sake of the family at any time, which is the only requirement we make when we promise our daughters marriage.
In this world, everything must be mastered, beyond this degree, things will change qualitatively, so it is very important to grasp the scale. I will not spare no effort to help my son-in-law, nor can I only care about my daughter in everything, and all principles will only revolve around the center of maintaining family affection and maintaining marital stability.
In today's society, parents with daughters are the most distressed, that is, they are afraid that their daughters will meet an ungrateful son-in-law. Many parents do not want their daughters to marry Phoenix Men, not because Phoenix Men are too poor, nor are they afraid to pay. What they are most afraid of is that once the phoenix man is successful in his career, he will change his face, and his daughter will become the most hurt person in the marriage.
Young girls tend to be emotional, and many girls are willing to give everything for love. Sometimes, when a daughter who seems to be always well-behaved meets her own true love, she has the attachment that ten cows can't pull back. In the face of their daughter's persistence, parents often choose to compromise in desperation.
So, how to avoid a daughter being hurt in marriage? This requires parents to raise their daughters from an early age, and the wealth here does not refer to material wealth, but spiritual wealth. The most important of them is to teach her how to identify a person in life, so that she can contact people at different levels, understand the advantages of human nature, and understand the weaknesses of human nature.
Parents should give their daughters enough love from an early age, and daughters who grow up in the nourishment of love will not have a sense of lack in their hearts, and they will not fall into the vortex of feelings because of a few sweet words from boys. They tend to be more able to examine their future spouse from the moral side of their personality, and they are more rational and calm, not just because the other party is good to them.