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Some parents only need a daughter who can bring help to the family, if the daughter is not willing to subsidize the mother's family, is not willing to help the mother's family, then they would rather not have this daughter, and even ruin their own daughter, such parents are really terrible.
In fact, such parents hope that their daughters can take the initiative to pay for the family, take the initiative to give them money, they are not willing to take the initiative with their daughters, that is, they do not want their daughters to feel that they are always forcing their daughters, making their daughters pay, and daughters take the initiative to pay, they will think that their daughters are filial piety to them, which are two completely different concepts, but if the daughters do not filial piety to themselves as they think, they will have a lot of dissatisfaction with their daughters.
After the daughter gets married, she does not take the initiative to pay for the family, does not take the initiative to give money to the family, the parents will feel that the daughter can not be counted on at all, since the hope can not be counted on, the parents do not want the daughter to live well, in the eyes of these parents, the daughter is living well, she can not get the light, then simply do not recognize this daughter of her, she also do not want to live well.
01. The mother lets her daughter secretly subsidize her mother's family after marriage
Yaqin and her husband met through blind dates, when they first got married, her husband gave Yaqin a dowry of 130,000, originally she counted half of her mother, but her mother did not want it, and even married 50,000 yuan, but the day before the wedding, her mother told Yaqin" Daughter, secretly subsidizing the mother's family after marriage, don't let your husband know." ”
Yaqin's in-laws are ordinary people's families, not to mention that there is a younger brother under the husband, and after the in-laws bought them a marriage house, they directly told them that their future life depends on themselves.
To be honest, both husband and wife have jobs, but want to make the family life better, it is not so easy, after marriage, Yaqin and her husband have to pay off the mortgage every month, fortunately, the in-laws have a lot of down payment, so the mortgage is not paid much every month, but in addition to paying the mortgage, plus water and electricity bills, money to refuel the car, and money for two people to eat, their wages are not much left.
It is not that Yaqin is unwilling to subsidize her mother's family, but after she takes care of her own small family, she really has no money and no energy to subsidize her mother's family, nevertheless, every time Yaqin returns to her mother's house to eat, she will still buy three or five hundred things, and she will also give money to her parents during the New Year's Festival, but her mother is not satisfied at all.
Once, Yaqin went back to her mother's house for dinner, that time her husband did not go, the mother said, the father is ready to change the car, let Yaqin out of thirty thousand yuan, Yaqin said to her mother, after marriage she did not save money, but the mother said that when she got married, she had such a colorful gift in her hand, not to mention that she also married a sum of money, how can Yaqin have no money in her hand?
Yaqin told her mother that after marriage, the money was saved, and it was a fixed deposit, and after listening to what Yaqin said, her mother accused her of "What did I tell you the day before the wedding, let you secretly subsidize your mother's family after marriage, I see that you forgot everything I said, what did you save that money for?" When things are difficult at home and you need your help, how can you help? ”
"Mom, I'll go back and find a way to get thirty thousand yuan and send it to you in a few days."
02. Because of the sale of the house, I was counted down by my mother
The marriage house that the in-laws bought for Yaqin and her husband, the location is very good, the environment is also very good, but it is because the conditions in all aspects are good, so the property fee is very expensive, living there, the cost is very large, Yaqin and her husband have discussed, want to sell the house, change a set of ordinary houses, as long as it is close to the school, the husband has no opinion on this, the in-laws also let them make their own decisions.
Yaqin and her husband sold the house, spent half the money, bought a small square meter school district house, of course, the surrounding facilities and environment can not be compared with before, but can save a lot of money every month.
When her mother learned of this, she was very angry, and her mother said to Yaqin, "You sold the house, why didn't you tell your family?" Your brother is about to graduate from college, and if you don't want that house, tell us and leave it to your brother. ”
"Mom, that house is very good, we also sold a lot of money, but isn't my brother not ready to come back after graduating from college?" To develop in the field, I didn't think about this at all. ”
"I see that you don't have us in your heart, you know that the house is very good, if you tell us, we will stay, your brother said to stay in the field, but my father and I are reluctant to let him come back, if we buy him a wedding house here, can he not come back?" 」
"Mom, I really didn't expect it, don't be angry!"
"I asked you to subsidize your mother's family after marriage, you don't care, the sale of the house did not tell me and your father, you did not treat us as a family at all, OK, from now on, you live your life, me and your father will be without your daughter." 」
03. Murdered by his mother
Yaqin thought to herself, her mother misunderstood herself, and her anger was only temporary, but she didn't expect that it wasn't long before she found herself kicked out of the family group by her mother, which had her own cousins and cousins, as well as uncles and aunts, and she was kicked out of the group at once, which would make them think that they did not want to interact with them.
Yaqin wanted her mother to pull herself back in, but her mother said that she had no mother's family in her heart, and whether she entered the group or not was the same, even her parents and brother didn't care, so why should she care about the group of relatives?
Later, when the New Year's Festival, the family gathered, the mother did not inform the Yaqin couple to participate, even grandma's 80th birthday, Yaqin did not know, once, she met her cousin in the mall, the cousin asked Yating " You really changed, after marriage are not willing to communicate with us, Grandma did not go back after the 80th birthday, do you know how sad Grandma was at that time? You grew up with your grandmother, and no matter how busy you are at work, you have to take time to go back. ”
Listening to what her cousin said, Yaqin was stunned, she did not know about her grandmother's 80th birthday, when the cousin left angrily, saying that she did not want to come and go, and could not come and go.
At that time, Yaqin knew that whenever relatives got together for dinner, or when the family wanted to do something, her mother used the excuse that Yaqin was busy at work and could not come, and there was no need to inform her, causing relatives to feel that Yaqin was unwilling to interact with them.
Yaqin did not listen to her mother's words, secretly subsidized her mother's family after marriage, her mother spent three years to let Yaqin rebel and leave, Yaqin still attaches great importance to family affection in her bones, she has no intention of not wanting to communicate with relatives, but her mother deliberately smeared Yaqin in front of relatives, causing relatives to feel that Yaqin changed after marriage, became vain, and looked down on them, so over time, Yaqin could not communicate with relatives on her mother's side.
In the face of her mother, who gave her life and raised herself, Yaqin really didn't know why she wanted to smear her daughter like this, not to let herself interact with her mother's relatives, was she completely kicking herself out of that family? How could a mother be so cruel?
Under normal circumstances, parents think that even if their children cannot accompany them in the future, they also hope that their children will live well, but some parents do not think so, especially those parents who prefer sons to daughters, they feel that their daughters have a good life, they should pay for their families, filial piety to their parents, help their brothers or brothers, but if the daughter does not take the initiative in these things, then she is not qualified to live a good life, she should live a miserable life.
How many girls have been ruined by their own parents? Parents slander their daughters in front of their relatives, so that relatives feel that their daughters do not recognize the six relatives, indifferent to the extreme, but in fact, the daughter is not what they say, only because the daughter does not take care of them, subsidize the mother's family, help the brother and brother as they expect, so they will be dissatisfied with the daughter.
Hurting her daughter to the betrayal of the family, and even making it impossible for her to communicate with her relatives on the mother's side, such parents are simply too cruel to their daughters, what did the daughter do to make them treat their daughters like this? There are really parents in the world who can't see their daughters doing well, because their daughters don't meet their requirements.
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