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Han Feizi once said: "Husband and wife, there is no grace of flesh and blood." Love is kissing, not loving is alienating. ”
On closer examination, it is.
The love of husband and wife, unlike the love before marriage, is no longer vigorous, but more reflected in the details of chai rice oil and salt.
The more trivial the life, the more it can test the feelings of husband and wife.
The test of the relationship between husband and wife is nothing more than 6 words: chat, eat, sleep.
Can talk together
Good couples, can talk together.
There is a hot search topic on Weibo: "Husband and wife, no more than 10 sentences a day, how to live such a day?" ”
More than 90% of netizens below the topic said: "Unbearable. ”
Indeed, marriage is a long life, if there is no communication and exchange, it is like living alone in a silent world, that kind of loneliness, think about it is terrible.
Fan Sister Wang poured out in the background: After 10 years of marriage, she finally divorced!
In the past few years, every time I happily wanted to talk to my husband, he basically did not respond to her words, either "um" or "oh", or focused on playing games.
Usually, in addition to asking Sister Wang "what to eat today", the husband has almost no extra words, let alone expressing love to Sister Wang, and asking for warmth.
Oniguchi said, "The mouth is the gateway to the heart." ”
Keeping a close eye to your lover means putting your lover outside the door of your heart. How can a couple who don't care last long?
Therefore, when looking for a lover, you must find someone who can talk to you.
Zhou's father and mother in the hit drama "The World of Man" especially like to communicate and chat with each other, especially after a busy day's chores, before going to bed at night, it is their own "night talk" time.
The old couple talked to each other about their own lives and talked about interesting things around them.
When it comes to emotional places, Zhou Dad will empathize with Zhou Ma's difficulties. He would say to Mama Zhou thoughtfully, "You have worked hard. ”
In those simple and simple homely words, there is hidden mutual care and consideration between the two mouths, and they have also achieved their long-term feelings.
Couples who can talk about anything together, marriage will not be cold.
Liu Tong once said: "Comfortable feelings are that you talk about any topic, and the other party can talk about it, not because the other party is knowledgeable, but the other party is interested." ”
I care about what you talk about; what you care about is also the thing I value.
Loving husband and wife, that is, what you say, I like to listen, I am willing to talk, not afraid of tired, not afraid of annoyance.
Can eat together
Good couples can eat together.
Writer Zhang Xiaoxian said: "Love starts at the table and disappears from the table. ”
If you can't eat together, the marriage will come to an end.
Couples who are good at running marriages will integrate love and romance into three meals a day.
When Mr. Cai Lan was asked about the secret of love with his wife at his silver wedding commemoration party, he said: "The key to the two of us being able to rely on each other for so many years is to be able to eat together. ”
Cai Lan and his wife both love food, often shopping together to buy vegetables, and cooking at home together.
Cai Lan once said that once he left home, he would involuntarily think of his wife, especially the dishes she cooked.
Because they can eat together, the two have been in love for a lifetime.
In fact, the so-called can eat together, refers not only to eat, but also to the affection in a vegetable and a dish.
You serve me soup, I pick vegetables for you.
You accommodate me for eating white noodles, and I understand that you love rice.
Don't taste the same, but be mind-to-heart.
Mr. Lin Qingxuan once said: "Romance is to waste time eating slowly, wasting time drinking tea slowly, wasting time walking slowly, wasting time slowly getting old." ”
Spend time on the person who loves you, accompany each other to eat well, in order to live a good life.
Huang Lei and Sun Li, husband and wife in the entertainment industry, have turned eating into the "most romantic thing" in marriage.
Sun Li likes food, in order to make a variety of delicious food for his wife, Huang Lei has turned himself into "Chef Huang", and the marriage between the two has also become a good story in the circle.
In fact, love and eating is a truth, like a dish, you are willing to eat a lifetime; like a person, you are willing to accompany a lifetime.
A good husband and wife relationship, rooted in chai rice oil and salt, bloom in the wind and snow moon.
A loving couple, just in this porridge and a meal, the affection is long.
Can sleep together
Good couples, can sleep together.
As the saying goes: "Between husband and wife, how to sleep is how to love." ”
The marriage of stand-up comedians, Si Wen and Cheng Lu, illustrates this point.
Si Wen once said on the show:
"Who says there is no pure friendship between men and women? My husband and I are. Replace the double bed in the house with a bunk bed, and he will become the brother who sleeps on my top bunk. ”
It didn't take long for the news of their divorce to appear in the media.
Some couples will sleep in separate beds after quarrels, but in fact, they do not have to.
Because it is not just the bed that is divided, but the heart and love.
Fans Xiaoyu husband and wife love, family is happy, her trick to manage the relationship between husband and wife is: "Must not sleep in separate beds." ”
Xiao Yu once quarreled with her husband, the quarrel was very fierce, she was so angry that she wanted to divorce immediately.
Who knows, that night, after her husband entered the bedroom, he took her hand, apologized to her first, and then analyzed with her how the quarrel caused during the day and how the quarrel was so fierce.
After a little bit of analysis, the two agreed to be silent for 5 minutes when there was a dispute in the future.
After so many years, the two sons are becoming more and more affectionate, and the relationship between husband and wife is getting better and better.
The old saying "bedside quarrel, bedside peace", this is not without reason.
The bed is the most important bridge to regulate the contradictions between husband and wife, and the bedside night talk between husband and wife is the most important communication every day. A thoughtful hug can not only warm the other party, but also allow the other party to unload the antagonistic emotions.
Once the bed is divided, the lack of this communication "bridge", the two sides can only in their own space, the more they think the more angry, and then expand the contradiction, the superimposed contradiction will be more and more, and it will be more and more difficult to reconcile.
Loving couples know how to sleep together, even if there is a dispute.
Because the last communication before going to bed is the glue of feelings.
The writer Sanmao said:
"Love, if it is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating, counting money, and sleeping, is not easy to last forever." 」
Married life is not a one-man show, nor is it a simple arithmetic problem of one plus one equals two, but it is necessary to pay sincerely for each other, reduce their own willfulness and inadequacies, and run together on the common track.
A good husband and wife relationship is not necessarily a vigorous confession, but a plain and simple mutual, listening to thunder in the silent place, and seeing the flowers in the colorless place.
Once in a lifetime, may you:
Talk with the loved ones until you are old, eat until you are old, and sleep until you are old. Good times are always short, thank you for reading here, I hope the story between us will continue, Xiaobian is ready to listen here, is your story ready?