The end of love is marriage, and the starting point of marriage is the house.
If there is no house, I believe that many girls will lack a sense of security about marriage, but with a house, there will be some troubles, such as who is the name of the house?
How many feelings, because of the house and fall apart, but also let us understand that feelings are not enough to drink water, but also need to be implemented to chai rice oil and salt.
But everything has a degree, if you lose the boundaries, pay too much attention to your own needs, it is likely to be called "gold worshipper", just like the following girl, originally had a good relationship with her boyfriend, but because of a request, let the man's family disgusted, then, what does she want?
1, the marriage room of more than 3 million, girls out of 200,000 to add their own name
Xiao Qi and her boyfriend Wang Lei are free in love, and the two have a very good relationship, to the point of talking about marriage.
Wang Lei's two brothers, the eldest brother is not married, but it does not affect him, in order to help Wang Lei start a family, his parents took out their savings to help him buy a set of more than 3 million yuan of marriage house, the name is Wang Lei.
In contrast, the economic conditions of Xiao Qi's family are not very good, although it is an only child, but her parents are ordinary workers, and the income is divided from living expenses, and there is nothing left.
Perhaps for this reason, Xiao Qi's heart is inferior, she is worried that if the man's family can't look at herself, she will have no status in the in-laws' family, for this reason, she has confirmed her feelings with Wang Lei many times, Wang Lei is a cheerful boy, saying that he will love her wholeheartedly, how others think without paying attention to it.
In order to stabilize her position, Xiao Qi consulted with her mother-in-law, her parents are willing to take out all their savings of 200,000, only to ask to add their own name to the real estate certificate, in this regard, Wang Lei's mother refused: "Our family does not lack this money, 200,000 you can buy a car, you can also write your own name, there is no need to toss." ”
But Xiaoqi insisted, because her mother told her that women had better have their own property, so that life can have confidence, otherwise once the feelings change, you may not have a place to live.
Xiao Qi felt that her mother's words were reasonable, so she insisted on her own proposition, saying that although 200,000 is not much, it is already all that her family can take out, and if the man's family accepts herself, she should respect her feelings, so that she has a sense of security about marriage.
The wedding date of the two has been set, making such a thing that Wang Lei does not understand, but the house was bought by his parents, he can only listen to his mother's meaning, under the advice of the mediator, they found a way, that is, they can add the girl's name, but for the benefit of both parties, they can agree in advance according to the proportion of ownership of the property according to the agreement.
This method is still very reasonable, and it has been recognized by the mother-in-law, and the matter of adding a name has been successfully resolved.
2, refuse the eldest brother to live at home, the reason is difficult to say
Just when everyone was relieved, Xiao Qi made another request, refusing Wang Lei's eldest brother to live in the marriage room.
The mother-in-law immediately became angry and said to Xiao Qi: "Are you mistaken, the house I bought at my expense, and there are enough rooms, why don't you let my eldest son live?" ”
It turned out that the place where Wang Lei's eldest brother worked was relatively close to Xiao Qi's marriage room, so he discussed living there for a year with Wang Lei, and after a year of work adjustment, he moved away, not possession, but boarding.
Considering that they are all family, the eldest brother has not started a family, and his parents will not come to live, Wang Lei quickly agreed, thinking that the brothers should take care of each other, but Xiao Qi resolutely opposed, so that Wang Lei did not understand, he asked Xiao Qi: "You say where is my brother bad, the wedding banquet is all the big brother paid for, as well as the decoration of the house, he also took 100,000, it is reasonable, he wants to live for a year is not too much." ”
Xiao Qi sat on the side, is not willing to say, let Wang Lei and his mother scratch their heads in a hurry, the emotional teacher on the side suggested that everyone calm their emotions, she enlightened Xiao Qi: "People for things that are difficult to say, often feel that it is against the norm, do you see something that makes you feel difficult to accept? ”
Under the questioning of everyone, Xiao Qi finally spoke: "The eldest brother rushed in when I was taking a bath." ”
"Impossible! You don't talk nonsense. Wang Lei and his mother spoke in unison.
The moderator asked a key question: "Why don't you lock the door?" ”
Xiao Qi explained that that day she went to Wang Lei's house to see the decoration renderings, just when it rained, her mother-in-law left her to live, and the door lock of his bathroom was broken, and as a result, that kind of thing happened.
It seems that Xiao Qi did not lie, but will there be other hidden secrets in this matter?
The host speculated that perhaps the eldest brother wanted to go to the bathroom, he did not know that Xiao Qi was inside, and habitually pushed the door directly to enter, which caused a misunderstanding.
Xiao Qi did not object, perhaps she also needs to think, can not rely on one thing to characterize the other party, but she needs a process, that is, it is difficult to accept that the eldest brother lives in her own home.
3, keep the measure, there will be less trouble
After watching this, I don't know what you think, I saw that Xiao Qi's reaction state was really nervous.
On the one hand, she is worried that she is not recognized by her in-laws, and she feels that her family conditions are not good, and this inferiority in her bones makes her cautious about everything.
Just like An Lingrong in "The Biography of Zhen Huan", she gave Zhen Huan a piece of cloth, and as a result, Zhen Huan gave the cloth to Huanbi, which was originally a small thing, but she was grumpy, in fact, she did not mind the cloth, but that she was not respected.
Similarly, Xiao Qi tries to use emergencies to determine her family status, she does not want her eldest brother to live at home, in order to exercise the rights of the hostess, so she will say over and over again: "As a hostess, do I have a say?" ”
Of course, there is a voice, but a person is respected, not how many rights they have, but whether they can think differently.
If she can understand the mood of her in-laws, she may be able to find a more suitable way to get along, rather than simply coldly rejecting.
On the other hand, she was too eager to prove herself.
Xiao Qi must add her name to the house book, I believe she is not for possession, but to tell her parents that she can get a foothold in her in-laws' house.
Some girls have strong self-esteem, they desire that the man is better than themselves, and they are worried that if they are too good to control, they will make the marriage have hidden risks.
So she will try to grasp something, for herself, but also for her parents, can have a sense of peace of mind about the future.
In fact, sometimes the name of the house we care about does not give us a sense of security, but a psychological comfort.
There is a saying that goes: "If the skin does not exist, the hair will be attached." ”
The core of marital happiness is emotional stability, if there is no love between the two people, only endless quarrels, even if you are given a house, you will not be at ease.
Therefore, Xiao Qi is a bit desperate, in order to have a sense of security, she has not yet done a wedding, and she has quarreled with her in-laws to the point of mediation.
Originally, the mother-in-law was very optimistic about her, thinking that she was a girl who was actively working hard, and seeing her aggressive, she could not help but have ideas and the psychology of giving up.
Fortunately, Wang Lei still loves her, promised to talk to the eldest brother well, if it is a misunderstanding, it will be lifted, if there is really a problem, he will also protect Xiao Qi, his frankness, revealing a responsibility.
If Xiao Qi has something to discuss with Wang Lei, I believe it will avoid many problems, and sometimes the more you don't say what you think in your heart, the easier it is to cause misunderstanding.
Running a family is not the same as love, when you are in love, you can let your boyfriend guess your own thoughts, and in the family, it is best to be honest with each other, and it is easier for everyone to get along harmoniously.
Give it a thumbs up and go! Do you think the house bought by the in-laws should add the name of the daughter-in-law?