As a wife, the most chilling thing is that the parents make cattle and horses for themselves, but the husband does not appreciate it, nor is he grateful, and finally sends his parents away and takes his parents to retire.
After two people get married, the couple should treat both parents equally, rather than enjoying the benefits and benefits brought by the other couple while clearly distinguishing between them, saying that they are not obliged to give each other parents a pension.
Between husband and wife, the separation is too clear, and the estrangement will always be there. Between parents, the separation is too clear, the calculation is too clear, and the estrangement will always be there. Even if you make up for it later, it will not help.
01, parents pay to help bring their children for 10 years
As the saying goes, the mother is born, the grandmother raises, and the grandparents come to appreciate. In Yang Lu's home, the same is true. From childhood to adulthood, the child has always been with her mother's parents. As for the child's titular grandparents, it was just a greeting on the new year's day phone.
Yang Lu and her husband have been married for 11 years, and her parents have helped her bring 10 years of children. During the period, Yang Lu became pregnant and gave birth to a second child, and all her parents ran before and after serving. As for the in-laws, every time they just make a phone call and greet them, there is no following.
Although Yang Lu quarreled with her husband countless times, each time her husband refused on the grounds that his parents were not obliged to bring children to his daughter-in-law. Yang Lu was so aggrieved in her heart that she couldn't do it, but she couldn't make up her mind to divorce her husband.
In addition, her parents had been advising her to forget about it, saying that since they could help, they would not bother her son-in-law's parents. The reasonableness and generosity of her parents made Yang Lu feel particularly guilty and ashamed.
I have been married for so many years, but the number of times I have honored my parents is countless. Every time she asked for money to give to her parents, the parents always refused, saying that they had retirement pay and that their daughter's money was kept for herself.
However, the parents turned around and spent their retirement wages on Yang Lu's two children, and the husband was only grateful for this, but did not take half a point of practical action.
02, the parents have just been sent away, the husband is ready to buy a big house
Seeing that the two children have grown up and studied one after another, and the parents no longer need to worry about it, the husband has begun to be a little restless. All day long to say some cool things, but also overtly and covertly said that the family of 6 people, the house is small, live up to crowded.
The husband said it more times, and the parents really put it in their hearts. Before her husband could open her mouth to drive someone away, her parents offered to go back to their home. Yang Lu was anxious at once, but her husband in turn advised her that her parents-in-law should go back to their own home for the elderly, these years have been hard, and they should rest more, and they don't need to worry about them anymore.
In the end, the parents returned home with their luggage. Although her parents insisted on refusing to take the money, Yang Lu still forced her parents to give them ten thousand yuan. In this way, after the fact, her husband still had an opinion on her, believing that Yang Lu's filial piety to her parents should be treated equally, either both parents gave 10,000 or neither side gave.
The front foot sent away the parents-in-law, and the husband's back foot began to prepare to buy a big house. Yang Lu listened and was overjoyed, thinking that her husband had finally opened his mind. As a result, her husband told her that his parents were old, he bought a big house, and he was ready to let his parents move in together, and he also honored his parents and did his filial piety.
Her husband's decision, Yang Lu should have been happy. Because when her parents were in her own house, she had long thought of buying a big house for the convenience of the family. But the husband disagreed, saying that there is now great economic pressure.
03, husband: your parents have pensions, look for them to borrow 300,000
But who knows, as soon as his parents moved back to their own home, he would be upside down to buy a big house. Yang Lu asked him, where does your down payment for buying a house come from? The husband said with a straight face, you are an only child, your parents have a pension, you borrow 300,000 yuan from them, and then pay it back when we have money.
The brazenness of her husband, Yang Lu saw it again. It's just that she has nothing to say, and her husband is obviously using people to face forward and not backward, and after using her parents, she will be finished. Now she still wants to ask her parents to buy a house for another 300,000 yuan to settle his parents' pension, how can this person's face be so thick?
Yang Lu refused, and asked her husband to return the arrears of the house he now lives in to his parents. 200,000, all borrowed for 11 years, the husband has not mentioned the matter of repaying the money so far.
Every time Yang Lu brought it up, her husband still took care of the left and right to talk about other things, and it was simply not a matter of repaying the money. And her parents felt sorry for her, and every time they heard about the repayment, most of them refused, saying that their money would be left to their daughter and son-in-law sooner or later.
The husband's selfishness and her husband's brazenness completely hurt Yang Lu's heart. She did not dare to mention it to her parents, nor did she dare to complain to her parents, but she just suffered all this in silence. Only now, no matter how soft and hard her husband is, even if she wants to divorce, she will no longer nibble on the old age, and she is even more unwilling to take her in-laws to the pension.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Yang Lu's divorce?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!