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-The mother-in-law will accompany the eldest daughter-in-law to the marriage room, when the younger son is married, the eldest daughter-in-law makes a move, and the mother-in-law is dumbfounded
Early in marriage, it is a test for most women.
She must quickly adapt to life in the in-laws' family - after marriage, the woman's focus has changed from the mother-in-law's family to the in-laws' family, at this time, she must use the fastest time to sort out the relationship with all the people in the in-laws' family, so as not to unconsciously offend people.
It is also necessary to try to maintain a relationship with her husband - the disappearance of the halo effect, so that the two can get along with a more authentic face. During this period, there will inevitably be some disputes, and the woman has to hold back her own violent emotions and try to soothe her husband's emotions so that he can have a heart with himself.
If the test is passed, then there will be another test. And if the test is not passed, then the marriage of the two may face a crisis.
And the most annoying thing for women is to get along with their mother-in-law. As a junior, even if the mother-in-law did not do it right, she was not good at saying anything, but it was really uncomfortable to endure a knife in her heart.
Especially when I met a calculating mother-in-law, it was a miserable day.
For example, Zhang Yan.
When getting married, the mother-in-law calculated the bride price and tried to hope that Zhang Yan would be less. In this regard, Zhang Yan is bored, not that she is stingy, but the house where they are married is out of their parents, how can the mother-in-law be so stingy at the bride price?
At one point, Zhang Yan didn't want to get married, but she couldn't resist Mu Ne's boyfriend's ten sentences a day of "I love you". When they were in love, she wanted to hear this sentence, and it was as difficult as ascending to the heavens, let alone every day.
So she surrendered and decided to marry him. In her opinion, marriage is with her husband, not mother-in-law, and she and her mother-in-law are far away, one in the city and one in the countryside, it is rare to get together, there are any contradictions in the future, and the number of days is also limited.
I have to say that the young Zhang Yan thought the problem was too simple. Before marriage, she and her mother-in-law were separated by two places, but the in-law relationship made them a "family", in this case, the distance between her and her mother-in-law depended on her mother-in-law's mood.
Her old man's mood is good, then the distance between them is intimate - the mother-in-law has moved over; and her old man's mood is not good, then they can still maintain the situation between the two places - the mother-in-law moved away.
For this reason, Zhang Yan was very distressed. She did not want her two-person world to always be disturbed, nor did she want her mother-in-law to always stare at her with the eyes of a hunter staring at her prey, making her feel creepy, and finally under the strong persuasion of her husband, her mother-in-law returned to her hometown. But he left the little uncle here and demanded that the two of them must take good care of them.
Zhang Yan felt that it was inconvenient to get along with the little uncle, so she arranged him in her dowry room. It was a house that Zhang Yan had just graduated from university, and was funded by her parents to buy a house, which was not a big place, but because it was next to a key school district, the house price was rising.
When she first got married, Zhang Yan originally wanted to use this house as a wedding room. But the parents said that the place was too small, and they could not run away with a child in the future, so they bit their teeth and bought her a large one.
The house was originally rented out, and during this time the tenant had a job change and was ready to leave the city, so it was idle. After careful consideration, Zhang Yan decided to arrange for the little uncle to come there and come out of sight.
She really couldn't watch the scene of the little uncle playing games every day, and had gently suggested that he should go out to find a job, even if she knew that the other party had no reaction, the number of times was too much, Zhang Yan didn't bother to say.
But she did not expect that the calculating mother-in-law and the lazy and selfish little uncle had joined forces to give her such a big "surprise".
The mother-in-law actually wanted to decorate her dowry room into the little uncle's wedding room for the little uncle to get married.
When she rushed to the scene, her former warm cottage was already dirty.
Seeing that Zhang Yan's face was livid, her mother-in-law was a little worried, after all, she was cutting first and playing later. But thinking of her elder status, she had the courage to explain to Zhang Yan that she really had no way to do this, otherwise the blind date would not marry her younger son at all.
For Zhang Yan's sentence "That's my house", the mother-in-law smiled faintly, saying that even Zhang Yan was his eldest son, and her house was naturally the same.
Zhang Yan looked at her husband, who said he did not know. Zhang Yan asked her husband how to solve this matter, and the husband gritted his teeth and said that he listened to her, after all, this is her house.
Zhang Yan first asked the construction team to go out, then asked her mother-in-law and little uncle to leave, and said that she would not pursue their unauthorized decoration, but they were not allowed to step into this room again.
The mother-in-law accused her of being "unfilial", the little uncle accused her of being "selfish", and Zhang Yan did not hear it. The future girlfriend left the little uncle because of this matter, for this reason, the mother-in-law cried in front of Zhang Yan every day, and Zhang Yan was overwhelmed and said that if the mother-in-law did this again, she would choose to divorce.
The mother-in-law was dumbfounded, she didn't understand why Zhang Yan didn't follow her script? Why didn't she feel a little guilty, knowing that it was because of her, the younger son's girlfriend, who left?
For the mother-in-law's questions, Zhang Yan said that marrying the little uncle is the responsibility that the mother-in-law should bear. As the eldest sister-in-law, she can pay some money appropriately, but it is far from the point where she wants to give him the dowry room for the little uncle.
Watching her mother-in-law leave in a daze, Zhang Yan did not feel that she had won. Because she knows marriage is a protracted battle. The husband has a scientific view of right and wrong, so he knows that he is doing the right thing, and he has always stood behind him to show support, which leads to the mother-in-law and the little uncle complaining about him.
For this, the husband is very guilty. She didn't know that one day his guilt, to a certain height, would he "sacrifice" her? After all, in a way, she is the outsider in this family.
If he really decides to "sacrifice" himself to become a whole family, how should he choose? Zhang Yan didn't think about it, but she definitely wouldn't compromise. Only because she knows that in marriage, all that is asked for cannot be exchanged for happiness.
Writer Zhang Ailing repeatedly wronged herself in order to pursue love, and her arrogant head was almost low to the dust, only to ask the other party to look at her shy flower.
But in the end, it is still abandonment, accusation, complaint, and indifference.
In that moment, she was sad, desperate, and miserable.
I knew it would be the result of today, but would the girl who was low to the dust change?
Most of this question is not answered.
But as a bystander, Zhang Yan knows very well that she will not give up everything for love. So her divorce was not to scare her mother-in-law, but to herself. If one day, the husband chooses his mother-in-law between himself and his family, then he must not be soft-hearted and resolutely leave.
She could allow her husband to spend money and effort to help his family, but she could not allow him to drag down their small family, especially to ruin the future of their children.
Finally, I want to say that it is all their own flesh and bones, and parents must not ignore the happiness of their eldest son because of their younger son.
END.