You can never wake up a person who pretends to be asleep, you can never touch someone who doesn't love you. This sentence, I want to give to all women who are "in love with the brain", whether it is a girl who has just entered the society, or a working woman with a certain amount of savings, this sentence is suitable for all women who are easily overwhelmed by love.
Now there are many passages circulating on the Internet, testing the details of the boyfriend and reflecting whether he really loves you through his performance. Although this approach is somewhat difficult for previous generations, it is not without basis. It is said that the wife is one of the three most important women in a man's life, and if he doesn't even know that your great aunt is uncomfortable, he doesn't even know what you don't want to do, and he doesn't even care about your basic preferences, then he must not love you. But in this society, not only is the guidance for women increasing, but also the "friendly advice" for men is also increasing.
One of the outstanding representatives is the Phoenix Man. Phoenix man, refers to the poor family, born in the countryside, after the development of the city, like to behave better than their peers to show that they stand out, from time to time there are relatives from poor families and he is willing to receive, always or often with those who look down on their relatives who are arrogant and look down on their relatives, when the wife and parents quarrel with the man who always stands on the side of his parents. It is roughly a type of person who is in the city, but his ideology and concept are still backward.
A love brain and a phoenix man who is good at acting bump into each other, women can easily mistakenly think that they have found a good man who really loves himself, and men will also feel that they have found someone who can take care of the family and can rely on unlimited demand. The beginning of the love must be love and happiness, but the final ending is mostly not satisfactory.
Therefore, once you recognize the male nature of your husband or boyfriend Phoenix, quickly flee, do not try to change him through your own unilateral efforts, because such a man is difficult to change his selfish nature, he only loves himself.
The night before marriage suddenly proposed the post-marriage AA system, otherwise it would be divorced
Xiao Li and her husband Xiao Zhang have been in the object for two years, and they have reached the age of marriage, but the engagement has been fixed a few years ago, and now it is the final wedding ceremony and certificate. But when he got engaged, he didn't do it, and now Xiao Zhang's family knew that he was going to marry a city girl, and The relatives in Xiao Li's family also knew that Xiao Li had found a young man from the countryside.
The marriage is all booked, the meaning of this wedding is like a mirror in everyone's heart, in fact, the wedding ceremony is like a procedure at the end, anyway, everything that should be known is known, what should not be known has also been heard, how the wedding is done does not matter much, as long as there is no big mistake and no laughter and generosity.
The night before the wedding, Xiao Li lay on the bed in the bedroom, thinking about the government's consideration for the family, the care and filial piety of the family, and full of joy that he had found a good man in the world, both considerate and caring for the family. Thinking about the wedding on the 2nd day, when the time comes with two dark circles is not good, the video is not beautiful, after all, the wedding is the most beautiful time in a woman's life, he does not want to leave regrets for himself.
So even if it is only ten o'clock, usually still playing games, Xiao Li is ready to sleep. Just when I was about to lie down, I found Xiao Zhang standing in the doorway, holding her waist with one hand, holding the door with the other, and looking at her with a serious face. Xiao Li looked confused, so after xiao zhang came to the living room, Xiao Zhang said his intention: AA system after marriage.
Xiao Li was a little confused when he heard this, and immediately expressed his understanding: Xiao Zhang's family is not only his child, his sister is still small and needs to be taken care of, and the expenses in all aspects are also large, reading, eating, wearing, living, and making some relations. He came out of the family alone, struggled for many years to have his current achievements and savings, how much suffering he had suffered, and how many unbearable sneers of ordinary people had to live now. After marriage, all aspects of the cost are not small, but two people can reduce the burden a little by dividing everything equally. Thinking of this, Xiao Li just planned to agree, but did not expect Xiao Zhang to take a step ahead of her.
"If you don't agree, then I can only get out of the marriage."
Divorce? This remark really frightened Xiao Li a lot, just such a thing he was going to divorce himself? "Rest assured, I have no intention of not agreeing."
After marriage, all kinds of calculations are not willing to suffer losses
What if you live with someone who is calculating everywhere, calculating at any time, and afraid of eating a little loss? Xiao Li can be regarded as a real experience of what is called the end of the world, and the hearts of people are separated from the belly.
Before getting married, Xiao Zhang was generous and generous for the body, and it was his temperament that did not care about gains and losses that attracted Xiao Li, so that Xiao Li felt that such an informal man who would do things was worth getting along with. But I didn't expect that after getting married, Xiao Zhang was like a completely changed person.
After getting married, Xiao Zhang and Xiao Li bought the dishes they wanted to eat according to the AA system, and the things they wanted to buy were done by themselves, which could not only maintain their freedom, but also avoid conflicts because of financial expenditures. But over time, Xiao Li found that the dishes that her husband bought were some meat dishes and few fresh vegetables, and the air conditioner he bought was also how comfortable he could use himself, but Xiao Li would say that the waste of electricity was going to be turned off as soon as he used his husband, obviously he gave half the money, why are those things like him alone?
Those are not counted, the most excessive is that Xiao Zhang even has to AA the toilet paper at home, usually the guests at home, if it is his own friend, he said that those who are his friends should give money alone, and if it is his friend, then ask one person to divide half equally. Where is this still the AA that was clear in the first place? This is clearly a double standard.
When her mother fell ill and wanted to raise money, she asked her father-in-law to sell the house for hospitalization expenses
Xiao Zhang Chinese New Year's Eve, his parents are not small, they are more than sixty, they have suffered in the countryside for a lifetime, there are many problems left on their bodies, and small illnesses and small pains are three days and two ends to find the door.
Usually colds, rheumatism and other homely small problems are fine, buy some medicine, spend a little money can be solved. Things are small, Xiao Zhang is not good enough to say something to Xiao Li. Only some time ago, Xiao Zhang's mother suddenly fell ill and was admitted to the hospital, even to the point of surgery. This is tantamount to a thunderbolt on a sunny day for Xiao Zhang, who usually even has to eat and cook a piece of two pieces.
After holding back for a few days, Xiao Zhang still opened his mouth with Xiao Li and asked Xiao Li to go to his mother's house to ask his parents for money to fill the payment gap in the hospital.
Xiao Li had doubts in his heart, shouldn't his mother-in-law be sick and tell himself that he was a wife? Why did he tell him like a formality, but it was a solemn medicine to tell his parents.
Therefore, Xiao Li did not explicitly agree to him, but he did not refuse, just a vigorous sloppy fool. Half an hour passed, Xiao Li finally found a way to let Xiao Zhang go to the kitchen to do things, Xiao Zhang now has to ask for people, even if he is used to being a grandfather, he now has to wash his hands and make soup.
As soon as Xiao Zhang left, Xiao Li immediately took his mobile phone and looked through those bank text messages, which showed that the latest expenditure was yesterday, and there was not as much money as he said, just hung up a number, and there were tens of thousands of dollars left in the card.
Xiao Li was very angry after reading it, and on the spot, he called Xiao Zhang and asked, "You said that you had no money to treat your mother's illness, where did the money in the card come from?" Where did it come from? You said you wanted to be nice to me, but if you can't do it, you can't do it, and now you actually hit my parents with your ideas. They are not thin to you, where are you sorry, you have to calculate them so much? Don't say no, even if there is, I will not give you money to this selfish white-eyed wolf. ”
Xiao Zhang saw that Xiao Li was angry, and immediately became anxious, "At the beginning, AA was what we said ok, even if it was my mother who was sick, but the expenditure should also be evenly shared, I know that you have no money at home, but you want to say that your father has no money, then I don't believe it." Even if they don't, then don't they still have a house, and if you sell the house, you have to get your share. ”
Xiao Li was angry, and directly slapped him over, "I yawn, you white-eyed wolf, my mother how much suffering they have suffered to have the current life." Want to take away, what do you rely on, I tell you, don't even think about it, impossible, divorce! ”
No matter how good it is, it is an illusion, and to see the most real appearance of a person, we must start from the details
There's a tongue twister: You see the world that others want you to see. This sentence vividly shows the most real relationship between a person and the world, and what people see is all kinds of things created by others, from a flower to the whole world.
It is precisely because the world seen by the human eye is so false, so more often it is necessary to judge whether a person has such and such qualities, not only by what he sees, let alone by imagination to speculate, more often still from small things to seek truth from facts to observe and draw conclusions.
Xiao Li is like this, if at the beginning according to Xiao Zhang's double standard summary of buying vegetables and using air conditioning, he was found to be selfish and hypocritical, then there would be no such fierce quarrels and contradictions as in the back. Sometimes women are like this, not to the Yellow River heart does not die, to the Yellow River does not die, do not completely recognize what kind of situation that person is, will not be completely dead hearted, but often things to that time also reached the point of irreparability.
Similarly, Xiao Zhang also has some reasons, in fact, for most people, gentle and mature personality is a normal psychological phenomenon, and the fickleness of the grumpy personality is a mild psychological distortion. The Phoenix male psychological distortion is not distorted, mainly to see his usual performance, personality and attitude towards life, but this is not absolute, mainly depends on family education and the environment of growth. Not all Phoenix men have psychological problems, but they are not absolutely without problems. At this point, I hope that all women will be aware of it and keep a clear distance from some problem men.
Today's topic
If you were Xiao Li, how would you face such a calculating husband?