My salary is 5,000 a month, my wife has been a housewife for 10 years, yesterday the second old went to kindergarten, my wife paid 6800 yuan in tuition, and I had a fierce quarrel, and I picked up the child at night

My salary is 5,000 a month, my wife has been a housewife for 10 years, yesterday the second old went to kindergarten, my wife paid tuition 6800 yuan, and I had a fierce quarrel, picked up the children at night, the wife did not cook, so that I had to solve the problem, either let my father out of my son's tuition, or let my mother come over with the children.

When my wife and I were just married, she had a salary of 3,000 yuan, my mother urged us to have a baby, my wife said to save money first, my mother said that she had saved enough money, she was old, and her figure was not good to recover, and my mother promised that as long as we had children, she would help bring them.

Then my wife got pregnant, 1 month from the due date, we only had 6,000 yuan in our hands, my wife complained every day, in order to earn more money, I ran to an engineering team in another province for a month, earned more than 10,000, and came back to catch up with my wife to give birth.

Because of the caesarean section, 10,000 quickly spent, the child has not yet been taken out, my mother asked the nurse, boy or girl? The nurse did not answer (no answer is equivalent to the default girl), my mother continued to ask several times, learned that it was a daughter, and the next day my mother took the car back to her hometown.

When my daughter was half a year old, my wife wanted to go to work, my mother did not come, because my sister-in-law gave birth to a second child, although my sister-in-law gave birth to 2 daughters, but my brother had a staff, and my sister-in-law was an employee of a state-owned enterprise, so my parents have been helping my brother with children.

My eldest niece was with my parents when she was a child, and the cost of eating, drinking, and going to school was paid by my father, not only that, but the little money my parents earned by themselves would be stuffed with flowers for my sister-in-law, because my brother and daughter-in-law gave my parents a long face.

And I was just a migrant worker, where there was work to go, living by selling coolies, like the vast majority of people in the countryside, did not give my parents a face, so my wife asked my parents to treat her like my sister-in-law, it was impossible.

Even if the wife gave birth to a son later, the parents were happy for a while or returned to their original state, and the thoughts in their hearts were always the younger son.

My mother came to live here for a few days and would argue with my wife, my mother was not used to my wife's cooking, and my sister-in-law did not make a dish for my mother, it was all my mother who made it for her to eat; my mother was not used to my wife managing my son, sometimes my wife beat the child, my mother was angry and wanted to beat my wife, because my brother gave the child completely to my parents, so my parents had the final say in my brother's child.

Now my brother's eldest daughter has gone to primary school, my father is responsible for pick-up, my mother is responsible for cooking, in addition to the money for the class, the parents are out, the tuition and miscellaneous fees are all out of my father, the snacks and toys are bought by my mother, the little niece from birth to the present is my mother in the belt, my mother is impossible to help us with the child.

My father's most proud thing is to show off the good wine bought by my brother at the dinner table, praise the fruits issued by my sister-in-law's company, and do not forget to add that the boss is almost forty years old, and he has not yet mixed up a famous house, in this case, I let my father pay my son's tuition, and I can't open my mouth.

I understand the grievances in my wife's heart, but the pain in my heart has not dared to tell anyone, I know that men have to work hard, earn money to support the family, complaining is useless, but my wife always quarrels with me, what should I do?

@ Solo Journey: Happy life is similar, and there are difficult scriptures at home.

When you first got married, your wife had a plan for having children, but your mother broke her plan, because the first child became a full-time mother, so after the second child, your wife's full-time mother label could not be torn off.

At present, your wife is full-time with the baby, you earn money to support the family, this situation will continue until the problem of children going to and from school is solved, in contrast, your brother's family, they themselves have a stable job, stable work is the capital that pleases your parents, so your parents are willing to bring up your 2 nieces.

There are two reasons for this situation:

First, the wife's stay-at-home mom stems from a lack of planning.

Just married, your wife plans to save money first and then have a baby, your mother not only spawned but also promised to bring the baby, the result of the birth of the child, your mother returned to her hometown, resulting in your wife becoming a housewife.

It is not that the old man's words are not credible, but that you have not fully considered the conditions for having children, and are too dependent on the outside world, if the mother-in-law promises to take the child, but if the mother-in-law is sick and cannot take it, do you consider this situation?

Therefore, having children is the responsibility of parents, and the elderly in the family can provide some help, and cannot pin all their hopes on the elderly. If you save money first and then have a baby, then you can give your wife a buffer period, whether to ask the nanny to take the baby or be a full-time mother yourself, with the preliminary preparation, the situation will not be too bad.

Before marriage, there must be a foundation for love, feelings will be more reliable, before having children, there must be financial savings, the family will be more harmonious, if you are not prepared to get married and have children in a hurry, the days to come will be stressful.

Second, the gap between the two small families is large, reflecting the eccentricity of parents.

Your parents have a big gap in their treatment of their 2 sons, and even if your family has a successful child, they still can't change their parents' hearts.

Parents are particularly fond of their younger brother's family with decent jobs, 2 nieces grew up around their grandparents, and their brothers and daughters-in-law's careers are not hindered.

The Matthew effect shows that the good side will get better and better, and the bad side will get worse.

The life of the younger brother's family is getting better and better, but you feel that life is getting more and more difficult, you are facing the hardships of the husband to earn money to support the family, the anxiety that the wife can not work and take care of the baby, the care and education of the 2 children.

Your situation is much worse than that of your brother and daughter-in-law, and it is reasonable to say that your parents should help you more, rather than the younger brother's family with stable life, the reason is that parents treat their 2 sons differently, which is commonly known as eccentricity.

True love is unconditional, but your parents' love hurts whoever earns face for themselves.

This goes back to the childhood of you and your brother, the younger brother earned face for the parents, so the parents loved the younger brother more than you, the more encouraged the younger brother, the better the performance, and the more you were treated with cold treatment, the worse the performance.

In adulthood, similar situations are repeated. If your parents really love their 2 sons, then now parents can help their sons to build hands, so that your life will not be too difficult.

For your current situation, my advice is to do your best to earn more money, improve the family's financial situation, and at the same time help your wife to manage the children, so that the wife's affected body and mind can be relaxed, so that the wife will calmly face the real situation, accept the situation and slowly improve her life.