I found that in the relationship, many girls have "unfinished complexes". For example, the princess dress that the 8-year-old did not get was worried about decades, the first love that did not bear fruit, and the engagement of the other party suddenly

I found that in the relationship, many girls have "unfinished complexes".

For example, the princess dress that the 8-year-old did not get was worried about decades, the first love that had no results, the engagement party suddenly mentioned that the breakup could not come out, and the other party who had been in love for many years did not mention marriage, and the husband who was very happy in marriage but proposed divorce and other unfinished things.

These things were not resolved at that time, emotions were not expressed, needs were not met, wishes were not fulfilled, so they were full of disappointment, grievances, regrets and unwillingness. These negative emotions have been stuck in the heart for a long time, and in the days to come, the thorns and scratches are painful.

What really makes us feel sad is not the end of the final separation, but the beginning and the end of the matter.

There are 2 most common scenarios:

1. The two sides broke up by default after a long cold war.

Originally you were very in love, but because of a quarrel, the contradiction was not resolved in time, you waited for him to come to you to talk, he also wanted to wait for you to take the initiative to find him, the result was that both sides were blocked in face, they were blocked, there was no active communication, and finally dragged down into a cold war, for a long time, neither of you paid attention to anyone, in a state of default breakup.

You obviously still love him, he also has nostalgia for you, but he can't be together well, and finally even scrawled up, what a pity! After separation, there will be new expectations, if you work hard at that time, make a change is not going to break up, now regret it.

2. I thought I would come to the end, but suddenly separated.

People in love will take marriage as the destination, married people want to go on happily with their partners for a long time, you think you will come to the end, there will be a perfect ending, marriage and children, happiness and love, but the feelings have changed, and even engaged but were broken up, the husband who loved in the past suddenly filed for divorce.

You can't believe why he suddenly proposed to separate, obviously you still love him, but the other party does not want to continue, can only go to the humble compound, the other party is unmoved, resolutely determined to leave you, you have to bear the pain of being broken up and abandoned, on the other hand, you will fall into deep self-blame, you begin to doubt yourself, is it not good for me to do this, constantly guilty, consume yourself. This "sense of incompleteness" in feelings is the most torturous.

All feelings need a full stop.

Whether it's letting go of the other person completely, eventually breaking up, or trying to get back together again, you need to put an end to the relationship.

This period is also what you need to do urgently after your relationship is broken. You need to see this relationship come to this point, what mistakes you have made with each other, what aspects can be adjusted, how to repair this relationship, and learn from it, so that you will not repeat the same mistakes in the next relationship.