In 2202, Gao Yuanyuan finally made a comeback. This time, the temperament goddess Gao Yuanyuan changed the image of the past gentle and gentle, and the strength to interpret the strong woman mother returned with the hot drama "Perfect Partner" in the opening year.
Chen Shan, the heroine with softness in the middle, creates a perfect contrast with Gao Yuanyuan's own image.
Topics such as "atypical mothers", "widowed parenting", and "choice and growth in marriage" have successfully stimulated the public to think about marriage and self.
1. There is more to marriage than just role playing
Ms. Yang Lan believes that marriage is not only love, but also the righteousness of liver and gallbladder, the tacit understanding of not abandoning and the unforgettable kindness.
Therefore, it is more appropriate to say that husband and wife are partners, but rather that they are comrades in each other's lives.
So, what is a comrade-in-arms? It is that you can't just take care of your own battlefield and have no intention of bearing the firepower of the other side's battlefield.
Gold medal securities lawyer Chen Shan, nearly 40 years old, has a happy family and a successful career. As a strong woman in the workplace, she has a strong sense of enterprise, but she has encountered a bottleneck of rising, in order to achieve her career ideals and self-worth, she devotes herself to work, and has no time to take care of family feelings.
Compared with Chen Shan, her husband Sun Lei put more energy into family life and the company of her daughter. In order to support his wife's career, he slowed down the pace of work in state-owned enterprises and took on the responsibility of taking care of the family. The family configuration of strong women and weak men has unconsciously lost its balance in their nearly ten years of married life.
The large order in the hands of the brokerage Lin Qingkun has also tilted the balance that was already overwhelmed. And Lin Qingkun, an elite mall who seems to be perfect to be impeccable. As everyone knows, his family faces the same balance problem.
His wife, Wu Min, has been playing the role of a full-time mother since she was married, and she has devoted all her time and energy to family life, living herself as an appendage of Lin Qingkun.
And "Perfect Partner" is through such two families, two marriages, frankly reflect a common social problem: how to balance family and career?
In order for this proposition to be properly handled, some families choose to solve the problem in the form of a division of labor. The mode of one side outside the main side of the main side is also opened.
But life is life, it's your life that cooks, the life I wash the dishes. Life is a battlefield for two people, and learning to share with each other is the key to victory. Because sometimes, need is more important than love.
In contrast, the characters in the play, strong woman mother VS home daddy, domineering president VS full-time mother. Is this role-play with a clear division of labor really the correct way to get along with the marriage relationship?
Perhaps, there is more to marriage than just role-playing. Perhaps, sometimes it is precisely because of too much adherence to the role they play, so that the balance of the original balance began to tilt more and more.
You hold an umbrella for me to withstand the wind and rain of life, and I will lead you through the mud pit of reality. You shield me from the incoming bullets, and I will keep the warmest embrace for you.
Chen Shan and Lin Qingkun chose careers more, and they worked hard to fight outside, like generals returning from the battlefield. Because in their view, only hard work and successful career are the best embodiment of self-worth, so that the family can live an ideal life.
In their view, taking on responsibilities outside the family and giving their backs to their partners is the most perfect marriage. As everyone knows, in marriage, there is only mutual support, and there is no clear division of labor. Marriage is a restaurant with only two waiters, and mutual service is the secret of long-term business.
2. Perfect Companion or Perfect Self?
Is there really a "perfect partner" in a marriage?
This ta may be a housework expert, a close friend, or even a 100% perfect lover. He can sense your mood changes at the first time, and can find your little habits and small joys from the details. Ta let himself become your solid backing, to maximize the inclusion of you.
In this way, how many people have devoted their lives to finding the soulmate that is highly compatible with them. But just as there are no two identical leaves in the world, the perfect self is more important than the perfect partner.
After all, the best partners, in addition to their mutual support and attachment, are two independent and free souls.
Sun Lei and Wu Min lost themselves in the process for the sake of family harmony.
In order to better assume the responsibility within the family, Sun Lei began to play the role of "family cook" and "home daddy", for the trivial matters of life, he did not work overtime, often arrived late and left early, which made him more and more distant from the glory of his former career after marriage. For the sake of his family, he lived himself as a salted fish.
Wu Min is also the same, at the age of twenty, she met her husband Lin Qingkun. In order to accompany him to study in the United States, she gave up the good college life. The next step is to wait for him to graduate and return to China, get married and have children, become a stay-at-home mother, and his life is confined to the kitchen and day and night, and this dragon marriage will arrange her clearly.
Maybe sometimes we all get the wrong direction of our efforts, and we give everything we can to treat a person, and we will not hesitate to give in and compromise until we lose ourselves. We mistakenly think that this will lead to a perfect relationship and equal treatment, but we forget that feelings are built from attraction.
Stop because of each other's excellence and beauty, and choose to be together because of each other's specialness. In a sense, what we need is a mirror that can look at ourselves. With this "mirror", you can always remind yourself of your shortcomings, and then better work together to complete the rest of the journey.
But I don't know when we started, we gradually lost in intimate relationships. I began to get used to one-sided giving, began to stop feeling important, and began to only follow the pace of the other party. Think of everything and love what you love.
So, to be the perfect partner, or to be the perfect self? Which is more important?
Many times, we misjudge the relationship between the two. In fact, the perfect self is one of the important factors for us to become a perfect partner.
As the plot progresses to the later stages, the marriage of the two couples is gradually unbalanced, and their true selves and growth changes begin to emerge. Humility becomes independence, and strength turns into tenderness.
Each of these characters has grown and changed in marriage. Chen Shan was still stubborn and gentle, but she added a sense of calmness to her body. Lin Qingkun faded away the cold and hard, and there was more delicate fireworks. Sun Lei and Wu Min, on the other hand, have found their true selves.
3. There are exams for growing up hidden in marriage
There is growth hidden in marriage, and only those who have experienced it can understand the true meaning.
Sun Lei, influenced by Chen Shan, began to look back at his ideals and current situation, and then began to try to make changes. He is no longer arrogant and self-effacing, and he no longer uses himself to make way for others. He began to work hard and actively strive for better presentation opportunities.
Wu Min's growth lies in the fact that she finally got rid of the identity of a full-time mother and found a career that she suited and loved. She was no longer a subordinate of Lin Qingkun, but instead opened a custody class, incorporating her own expertise in life.
Such a change allowed her to perceive the meaning of life and the value of independence.
There are always some perceptions that whisper to you in their wonderful way, hiding in special experiences.
In addition, "The Perfect Companion" also reveals clues about homeschooling in detail. Chen Shan and Sun Lei grew up in two different styles of families, and the different environments they grew up in and the education they received made them have different performances in terms of their personalities and perspectives on handling problems.
As the mother of the chicken blood trainer, Chen Shan was taught to be fearless in the face of life, and to face difficulties even more when encountering difficulties. Chen Shan was raised by chicken blood all the way, developed a stubborn and tenacious character, and grew into a strong woman in the workplace step by step.
On the other hand, Sun Lei received the opposite of Chen Shan's family education, and compared with Chen Shan's chicken blood growth history, he appeared to be more salted fish. When work changes and they have to find another livelihood, parents are more concerned about whether the new job requires overtime, and they will take physical health as an important criterion for work.
But because of this, Chen Shan is more determined and confident than Sun Lei, and Sun Lei is more knowledgeable than Chen Shan. Therefore, family education is also a crucial issue for parents. Proper chicken baby, learn to praise and reward in a timely manner, in order to effectively balance the child's heart.
"Perfect Partner" uses two families and four characters with very different identities and personalities as the carrier to explore the way of marriage, thus clearly showing the value and growth of marriage. It also uses real social phenomena as the best channel to explore many practical issues.
It's not easy to fall in love, it's even harder to get along.
Probably there is only one kind of marital heroism in this world, that is, after recognizing the truth of marriage, it still does not hesitate to love and courage, and continues to walk with hope.
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