Marriage is beautiful, but it will also be mixed with some unpleasant factors.
For example, we feel that the other half we choose can give us the happiness we want, for example, we feel that the role we firmly chose will not live up to our expectations.
We feel that the other half is the one who can shield us from the wind and rain, but we do not think that all the wind and rain in the marriage are brought to us by the other party.
The things we had been looking forward to ended up giving us endless disappointment, and we began to wonder if this marriage was what we wanted.
This has given us a lot of hurtful marriages, how exactly it came to be like this.
In a marriage, a woman who has been hurt is easy to see the 4 cruel truths.
I raised you, the most ridiculous lie in the world
When Song Ningyu in the TV series "Mr. Love" married Gu Yao, he said that he would let her not go out to work, raise her by himself, and raise her for a lifetime.
Gu Yao believed it, so when she graduated, she got married, and as soon as she got married, she chose to be a full-time wife.
But the result?
Song Ningyu betrayed her, and when questioned, he also said with a straight face that Gu Yao was spending his own money, and there was no reason to shout.
It can be seen that no matter how beautiful the oath is, it is just an empty talk.
Samuel once said, "Selfishness and selfless judgment are the Rashomon of everyone." ”
No one can always pay for others, so "I raise you" is the funniest lie.
If you don't grow up, you will be abandoned by marriage
Wu Min and Lin Qingkun in the TV series "Perfect Partner" became housewives after they got married, and she always said, you can go with confidence, the family is handed over to me.
I don't know when it started, Lin Qingkun was very indifferent to Wu Min, she didn't want to care about it when she was pregnant, and she only complained about the miscarriage, wu Min didn't know how marriage could become like this.
Wu Min divorced, became the head of the kindergarten, and slowly came into contact with social affairs, many previously obscure problems, Wu Min also handled it with ease.
When he saw Wu Min again, Lin Qingkun only felt amazed, amazed by Wu Min's transformation, so he began to regret it and wanted to ask for a reunion.
You see, marriage is not static, when you stop the pace of self-growth, the gap between you is getting bigger and bigger, and men will definitely abandon you in the end.
Yang Lan once said: "Women must constantly improve their sense of self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-love in order to lay a solid foundation in the construction of gender relations." ”
There is no eternal marriage, only couples who grow up together, only by constantly improving themselves, women will not lose the initiative in marriage.
In a relationship, financial independence is a woman's greatest strength
The heroine in the TV series "Happiness Duo" was a full-time wife at the beginning, spending her husband's money, and the husband felt that he had paid for the family, and when he talked to his wife, he was also on his toes.
Later, the heroine regained her old profession and began to practice student dancing, and the work said that it was not hard, it was all fake, and the money was not earned much.
However, the heroine just feels that she is making money very steadily.
She no longer needs to live a life of relying on people's sniffles, she does not need to live a life of upward hand, she can spend the money she earns with confidence, even if it is not much, it is also spent steadily.
In a marriage, a woman who has money will have the confidence, and if she does not have money, she will automatically become humble because she needs to ask for it.
Teacher Li Yinhe put forward such a suggestion to modern women: "Encourage women to join the work and have their own independent income, rather than using marriage as a way to settle down in their lives, like buying long-term meal tickets." ”
Don't feel like men will always keep the promise of "I raise you" and rely on themselves at all times.
Yourself is your eternal support.
Your efforts are not necessarily proportional to your returns
Just like Wu Min in the TV series "Perfect Partner", she has paid countless things for this family, and she has done all the things in the family with all her heart, just to let her husband deal with her own affairs without distraction.
However, the husband resented her as a housewife, hated her for having no connotations, ignored her when she was pregnant, but devoted himself to other women.
People always say that when you encounter things, don't be afraid, there is nothing difficult in the world, just be afraid of people with hearts.
However, love is the only thing in this world that has worked hard, and there will be no good results.
We think that if we pay for this family, men will sympathize with their own goodness and will read their own good.
It turns out that what we give without complaint or regret will only get to be disappointed.
Our love adds a layer of filter to men, which will make them forget what they are originally like, and will make them feel that they should enjoy the good of women.
What you can't get is always in turmoil, and those who are favored are fearless, too good for men, and it is the least cost-effective thing.