Intensive reading mother: In the eyes of the child, the father is an indispensable role, is the child's strong dependence and support, become a father with temperature, let the child grow up happily in love and warmth.
Author:Jiang Nan (Parents Intensive Reading Author)
There is a video on Weibo:
In Le'an, Jiangxi, Zhan Jianfei is the father of two children, and he swears that where the child is, he will be where he is, and will not let the child become a left-behind child again.
Zhan Jianfei was also a left-behind child, his mother was not around when he was very young, and he lived with his grandparents until he was 14 years old, and he deeply felt the loneliness of longing to get the love of his parents but not getting it.
After getting married and having children, Zhan Jianfei decided to return to the family and take on the responsibilities of being a father.
In the video, Zhan Jianfei took his daughter in the amusement park, accompanied by her daughter to play ocean ball, slide, swing, daughter snuggled in her father's arms, a big smile through her happiness and happiness.
Netizens praised Zhan Jianfei's choice.
People who have experienced the cold winter will cherish the warmth of spring even more, and the warm childhood memories brought by Zhan Jianfei to their daughters will always accompany her to grow up.
The Internet said: "The greatest love of parents should be that whenever they think of their parents, their hearts will be full of strength, they will feel warm, and thus have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties." ”
Dad is the child's life forward, to be a father with temperature, let the child feel warm in daily life, so that home becomes a warm harbor.
A dad with a temperature is the luckiest thing in the family.
Father with temperature, family harmony and happiness
"Little Sun" is one of the representative works of Mr. Lin Liang, a master of Chinese modern and contemporary children's literature, which records his family life with his three daughters with childlike fun, overflowing with preciousness and happiness, making us feel that this is a father with temperature.
In Mr. Lin Liang's pen, every day at dusk, it is a golden reunion.
Because Dad's scramble had begun, his ears had become accustomed to listening to three at the same time, sometimes four people talking at the same time, knowing three at the same time, sometimes four people talking.
At this time, he would answer the first person's question, stroke the second person's hair with one hand, pick up the third little person with the other hand, and smile with the fourth person with his eyes.
What a warm dad who takes good care of everyone in the family.
Mr. Lin Liang also recorded his little painting friend, the eldest daughter who did not go to kindergarten, holding a small crayon to make paper, and her first dazzling multicolored sesame map received his unprecedented praise.
At that time, Mr. Lin Liang was at home with a child, and his daughter propositioned, "You paint me a mother to dry clothes", "You paint me a picture I eat", he painted, and the daughter looked at his hand with an adoring eyes, looking into his eyes.
Dad became the god in her eyes.
A painting of the father can be exchanged for the daughter not to be fed, a painting can be exchanged for the daughter to go to bed by herself, and she becomes very well-behaved and obedient.
After reading "Little Sun", we will find that the words and phrases we are familiar with are so wonderful and full of meaning, and the bits and pieces of our ordinary life are so poetic and full of fun, like a small sun, which warms our hearts.
The former Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky said: "The child's heart is sensitive, it is open to accept all that is good." ”
A father with temperature will take himself as an example, use his wisdom and patience to guide the child, encourage the child, praise the child, and turn every tea, rice, oil and salt day into art, family harmony, and happiness.
Father without temperature, the family is dull and dull
In "Perfect Partner", Lin Qingkun and his son's mode of getting along was commented by netizens: hardcore!
The so-called "hardcore" is very hard, without a little temperature meaning.
In the morning, the son went to his bedroom and asked, "Daddy, can you send me to school?" ”
When he learned that he was going to school at eight o'clock, he opened his mouth sleepily and said, "Then why did you call me now?" ”
It perfectly presents the scene where we wake up our children every morning, but the relationship between the characters seems to be misplaced.
After the swimming lesson, Lin Qingkun handed his son a bottle of mineral water, the son could not unscrew it, Shunshi handed him the mineral water, and said: "Daddy, can I unscrew it for me?" ”
He leaned against the car door, looked at his son and said, "Screw yourself." ”
The son explained that he had run out of swimming and really couldn't turn it on.
Lin Qingkun furrowed his brows, "Don't drink it if you can't unscrew it."
Seeing that his son could not open the cap no matter how hard he tried, he reached over and took the mineral water, unscrewed the lid and handed it to his son, continuing:
"You're a boy, so not only do you exercise your physical strength, you also exercise your willpower."
However, when Lin Qingkun saw that his ten-year-old son lived in the custody class, did not have his own space, and did not even have a decent bed, he found Wu Min and asked her to go and find a new house, and he helped buy it.
Wu Zhihong once said that his father's love is a little warm, but only a little warm. Their kindness often trumps that of their mother, but the children often do not feel his presence.
A dad who is not felt is usually accompanied by a mom who is often disappointed, like Lin Qingkun and Wu Min.
Lin Qingkun's original intention was to improve the place where his son lived, to improve his son's sensitivity and vulnerability, Wu Min was disappointed that what his son needed was not material, but the companionship and warmth of his father.
A child who does not feel the warmth of his father must be vulnerable and insecure, and a family that does not feel the warmth of his father will be boring and dull.
Become a dad with a temperature
Psychologist Gerdy once said: "The appearance of the father is a unique existence, which has a special power to cultivate children." ”
Compared with the delicacy of mom, dad is synonymous with strength, bravery and self-confidence.
In the relationship with the child, the father subtly affects the child's behavior, and at the same time, he must also let the child feel the love and temperature from the father in the relationship.
The most important qualities of being a warm father are threefold:
1. Have a childlike heart
In the article "Father and Son Become Brothers for Many Years", it is written that fathers love children, like children, love to play with children, and play with children.
In the spring, he led a group of children to fly kites in the wheat field, flying his own dyed silk centipede, the thread was the old strings of the huqin, strong and light, and the children ran and jumped in the field, and their bodies and minds were happy.
He will also make all kinds of lamps, use small watermelons, remove melons, and carve out very fine patterns on the melon skin to make watermelon lamps. The children lit candles in the lamp and walked the streets, and the children of the neighbors came to see it, very envious.
Wang Zengqi said: "As a father, you should try to keep a little childlike heart. ”
With a childlike heart, it will be interesting, and it will make children like to play with their fathers.
A father with temperature should try to maintain a little childlike heart, understand the child, feel the joy of the game with the child, get along and communicate with the child like a friend, and establish a good parent-child relationship.
2, optimistic, to bring a good mood to the child
A farmer who hired a plumber.
The plumber's luck was bad, first the tire of the car burst, then the electric drill broke, and finally the classic car that drove it fell into the nest.
After finishing work, his employer drove him home.
Standing in the doorway, the obscure plumber was silent for a while, then stretched out his hands and stroked the branches of a small tree in front of the door.
When the door opened, the plumber smiled, hugged the two children tightly, and gave the wife who greeted him a loud kiss.
The employer could not contain his curiosity and asked, "Is there any intention in your actions at the door?" ”
The plumber replied cheerfully, "Yes, this is my 'trouble tree.'" I hung them on a tree and let God take care of them, and I'll take them out tomorrow. Strangely enough, when I went to the tree the next day, most of the 'troubles' were gone. ”
The troubles are gone, replaced by a good mood.
The People's Daily said that in this world, there is no absolute good luck, but we can choose a good attitude. Because of optimism, every step of life can be a beautiful landscape.
A father with temperature, no matter how bad things he encounters outside, must bring a good mood to his children and let his children have good expectations for the future.
3. Support the child to be himself
When he was a child, Lei Jun liked to play with disassembly radios and television sets.
At that time, these appliances were very expensive, but his father encouraged him very much and spent a lot of money to buy him those things.
In the process of disassembly, not only cultivated Lei Jun's interest in radio, but also importantly, he gained the driving force and learning ability to constantly explore.
When he started his business at the age of 40, he chose the field of smartphones, which led to the birth of Xiaomi.
Yang Dai had seriously considered what he "should" learn.
Father said that there is nothing to be done, what you like the most, just learn.
Every child belongs to themselves, they are not pieces of wood, processed and assembled according to their parents' ideals, they have their own potential, only need a suitable environment, can grow rapidly.
A warm dad, respecting the child's potential and interests, supporting them to do what they like, and becoming themselves in the process of constantly exploring and learning.
In the eyes of children, dad is an indispensable role, is a strong support and support for children, become a father with temperature, let children grow up happily in love and warmth.
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