Wen | Snail Grid (Rich Book Author)
In the second half of life, may you not owe others, be worthy of yourself, and cultivate a good feng shui.
As the old saying goes, "One life, two fortunes, three feng shui." ”
Fate is made by heaven, fortune is at your disposal, and only feng shui is the energy that circulates around you all the time.
When people reach middle age, their own good luck is cultivated by themselves, and the good feng shui on their bodies is also cultivated by themselves for many years.
After entering middle age, the better the relationship with the people around you, the more peaceful life, the more laughter and laughter, and the greater the sense of happiness.
Therefore, in the rest of life, the more virtuous people are, the more kind they are, the more temperamental people are, the quieter they are, the more tolerant people are, and the happier they live.
Be kind to people and cultivate virtuous feng shui
Shakespeare said, "A good heart equals gold." ”
Indeed, to be kind to others is to accumulate blessings for oneself.
See such a story on Zhihu. A young girl was changing trains at a bus stop and met a grandfather who was also waiting for the bus.
Grandpa was thinly dressed, and the girl asked Grandpa where he was going, only to learn that the last train that Grandpa was going to take was gone. So he suggested that grandpa take the 540 bus with her.
But Grandpa's reaction is that he only has one dollar on him, and the elderly who have no car trips only pay one dollar, but the 540 road can't do it.
So, the girl decided to swipe the card for Grandpa to take a ride and let Grandpa go home early, Grandpa wanted to give her the only dollar on his body, she refused.
After getting into the car, Grandpa looked at the girl from time to time, still rummaging through the pockets of his old clothes, and finally turned over a piece of candy and handed it to the girl.
Romain Roland said, "Goodness is not a learning, but an act. ”
There is a very popular video on the Internet, an old father calling his children in a public place, asking them not to worry about themselves and eat well. Turning his head, he ate the steamed bun with tears in his eyes.
The young man next to him silently bought food for the old man, advised the old man to take good care of himself, and left.
True goodness is everywhere, and in these warm little acts, there is a person's lowest goodwill.
Kindness doesn't have to be a big fanfare, and small things that moisturize silent things can also convey warmth.
People often talk about "don't do it with small kindness", but there are very few people who are really willing to help in small places.
Being kind to others is the root of the depths of human virtue, and it is also the most worthy place for a person to practice.
Doing good deeds can make people happy, and it can also make more people feel warm.
Don't blame in case of trouble, raise the family's feng shui
Tagore said: "It is easiest to blame others, it is the hardest to know yourself, and love is the greatest." ”
There is a couple in "Perfect Partner", the husband Lin Qingkun is always busy at work, and his wife Wu Min has a great opinion of him.
Early in marriage, two people have a detailed division of responsibilities for the family. Lin Qingkun is responsible for working outside, while Wu Min gives up her career and is fully responsible for taking care of the family.
Later, Wu Min was dissatisfied with Lin Qingkun's neglect of her family because she was busy with work. The child suffered from food poisoning, and Wu Min blamed Lin Qingkun for only caring about work and having no family in his heart.
When Lin Qingkun miscarried Wu Min, not only did she have no comfort, but she also publicly blamed her in the hospital, how she was so careless.
The disappointment that Wu Min accumulated often made her hysterical, and Lin Qingkun not only did not feel empathy, but also scolded Wu Min for not being able to touch the cold water, and even the door could not be opened.
Wu Min's resentment in her heart grew, and she blamed Lin Qingkun, who could not see her own efforts for the family in her eyes, and took everything she did for granted.
Two people blame each other when things go wrong, one feels not understood, one feels inconsiderate.
Ma Yun said: "Don't easily blame others, because we don't have enough wisdom to know the joys and sorrows of others, and truly understand the bitterness and bitterness of others." Everyone has a different position, the environment is different, and it is difficult to understand the feelings of others.
From another perspective, you will find that you are not the only protagonist of this world, everyone experiences a different story. Life is impermanent, everyone will have tears, there will be sadness, learn to appreciate and compassion, learn to be kind to others. ”
Mutual blame between partners will not be exchanged for a change in life, but can only make the family more chilled.
Among the closest people, accusations are regarded as a common thing, and the family members who are blamed will also be hurt the most.
Words of accusation are always like a sharp blade, causing the family to lose harmony and the temperature of the past.
When people reach middle age, their families do not blame each other, their words are tolerant, and they understand each other, so that their families can be peaceful and happy as promised.
When people reach middle age, there are old people on the top, there are small ones on the bottom, trivial disputes, and do not blame each other when things happen, in order to repair the family feng shui barrier.
It is easy not to be angry, and it is good to raise healthy feng shui
Tolstoy said, "Anger is harmful to others, but when angry, the one who suffers the most is himself." ”
Writer Xiaolin talked about the process of Ergu getting a cerebral thrombosis, which surprised us.
Her second aunt is a straight man, notoriously popular and warm-hearted.
In order to increase the number of new books read, Xiaolin forwarded the written novels to the circle of friends for publicity, and her second aunt saw it, and when she played mahjong, she boasted that her eldest niece was a big writer.
I couldn't hide my pride in my words, and I also shared Xiaolin's circle of friends with everyone to see, and Xiaolin was out of breath.
Neighbor Ma You didn't like it when he listened, and felt that the second aunt just loved to show off, and talked with a gun and a thorn.
Playing mahjong, sniffing melon seeds, saying that people who climb the grid now, but any dog who eats a big cake and writes can also be called a writer, and he has not graduated from primary school.
Xiao Lin's second aunt was not happy to hear it, in her heart the eldest niece was a very good writer, listening to this Ma You's words, the anger came up, and Ma You argued.
In the process of arguing, I don't know who overturned the mahjong table, and the second sister was also angry and fell to the ground, and everyone was busy.
Xiao Lin's second aunt was so competitive with people that her cerebral thrombosis attacked, and the gain was not worth the loss.
The philosopher Immanuel Kant said, "To be angry is to punish oneself for the mistakes of others." ”
In the face of small things, I can't control my temper, and when I get angry, I can't control it.
Everything always wants to win or lose, and in the end it is like beating yourself with someone else's mistake.
Because of small mistakes, they can't hurt others, punish their own bodies, and suffer the consequences when they are sick.
The more middle-aged people are, the more they can know that health is the first priority, and everything else is a floating cloud.
It is easy not to get angry when you encounter things, and you don't care about other people's statements and opinions, you must think openly and see openly.
The greater the amount of qi, the broader the world in the chest, and the quieter life.
Peace of mind, do not argue about everything, do not care, in order to live a transparent and comfortable life.
Gibran said, "A great man has two hearts: one heart bleeds, and one heart is tolerant." ”
Middle-aged people do not seek to live greatly, but to live transparently. The vicissitudes of the years have passed, and the sufferings of the world are well known.
There are old people on the top to raise, and there are small ones to raise, do not dare to cry pain, do not dare to say tired. What can be done is not to go against the heart in small things, and not to shirk responsibility in big things.
Looking back, what people need more in middle age is to let go, clean up the surrounding relationships, and live a good life.
After middle age, when things happen, be kind to people, cultivate their own virtuous feng shui, and live a peaceful life.
In the face of partner tolerance and understanding, do not blame, raise the family's feng shui, and live a warm and peaceful life.
When encountering people and things, it is easy not to be angry, everything is looked down upon, there is no dispute with the world, and a healthy body is preserved, so that there is a beautiful rest of life.
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