Wen | Yuzhou (Author of Fushu)
I have seen such a small story:
Two construction workers were moving bricks on the construction site, and someone asked what they were doing? One person said he was moving bricks, one person said he was building a beautiful house.
After 10 years, the person who answered that he was moving bricks was still moving bricks, but another person became a good architect.
Two people have the same starting point and the same experience, but the results of life are diametrically opposite. It's not that brick movers don't have the ability to change, they don't want to change.
The real enemy is oneself, and the greatest obstacle is thought and action.
Can't let go of the past
In a person's life, he will experience a lot of suffering, and if he can't let go of the past and lives in painful memories, he can't start a new life.
Some people and some things let him pass in the past, which can seal him in the memory and turn him into a driving force for future growth.
But you must not immerse yourself in it and cannot extricate yourself.
Balzac said: "In the great winds and waves of life, we often learn from the captain, throwing away the bulky cargo in the storm to reduce the weight of the ship. ”
When the wind and waves are calm, carrying the weight forward is the harvest. When the storm is raging, it is impossible to put down the burden but it will be fatal.
Actress Tong Liya played the role of a humble person in her marriage to Chen Sicheng.
Tong Liya, who was originally white-skinned and beautiful and versatile, suffered a lot in her marriage, but patience and tolerance did not change Chen Sicheng's sincerity, and finally the romantic story of the prince and princess ended in tragedy.
After the divorce, Tong Liya did not immerse herself in pain and could not extricate herself, but decisively put down the past and put into work with a more positive attitude.
He has participated in the film and television works "Langya List of Wind Rising Long Forest" and "Living Together in Time", etc., all the way to the "big heroine".
In 2020, Tong Liya also appeared on the stage of the CCTV Spring Festival Gala as a host.
A red dress, a show of talent, let all the audience's eyes shine, people praised and applauded Tong Liya for knowing how to put down the heavy past and start a wonderful life again.
Mr. Li Zhongying said: "It is not terrible to endure pain, but it is terrible to get rid of pain. How many more years do you plan to live, and do you have to carry this burden until you die? ”
Indeed, people will experience countless setbacks and ups and downs in their lives, and if they cannot let go of all the unsatisfactory past, they will carry the weight forward for a lifetime.
Sometimes we feel tired because we have too much stuff in our backpack when we go forward. You don't have to worry about everything, learn to be indifferent, in order to be relaxed and happy.
Life is full of tastes, there are bittersweet and sweet, the world is varied, there are difficulties and easys.
Whether the feelings are frustrated or the cause is destroyed, the past will end it, put down the burden, regroup and start again.
Let go of the past, move forward easily, and have the opportunity to turn around gorgeously and achieve a perfect counterattack.
Can't think of the moment
Wang Yangming said: "The world is ashamed of not being the first, and I am ashamed of not being the first to move." ”
It means that the world is ashamed of not winning the exam, and I am ashamed of not winning the exam and being discouraged.
Everyone wants their life to be as calm as water and smooth. However, life is not a smooth road, but a path full of thorns.
Some people encounter difficulties and give up on themselves, and some people encounter setbacks but can swim against the current.
As soon as the American blockbuster "Superman" was released, it became popular all over the world, and Christopher, the actor of Superman, became popular, and the scenery of life was infinite for a while.
But not long after, Christopher fell off his horse in a fierce equestrian competition and was paraplegic. Life has since fallen from the top to the bottom.
With the encouragement and companionship of his wife, Christopher soon perked up from the trough of his life.
He began to concentrate on directing, experimented with writing in his spare time, and later raised funds for people with disabilities in society.
Christopher faced disaster, embraced, bravely faced, and created countless highlight moments in a wheelchair. If he had been immersed in pain and could not extricate himself, there would not have been a wonderful presentation again and again.
I have seen such a saying: if you miss the flowering period, you will harvest rain; if you miss the rainy season, you will encounter a rainbow.
There are too many uncertainties in life, no one's life is always only at the peak, we can enjoy the openness of the peak, we must be able to withstand the narrowness of the trough.
If you encounter problems, you always can't think straight, drill the tip of the bull's horn, and the road of life will become more and more difficult.
The flowers bloom from the sun, and the people finally go forward. No matter what kind of adversity we are in, we must think openly, do not give up hope for the future, and must firmly believe that time will often leave the best things at the end.
Can't jump out of the comfort zone
A comfortable environment will always make people sleepy, comfortable work, but also let people have no desire to struggle.
Once people live an overly comfortable life, they are not far from being eliminated, bankrupt, and in an economic crisis.
On the contrary, the uncomfortable environment will make people have the desire to struggle. The more comfortable people live in their own small circle, the more uncomfortable they may face in society.
Because life will not always be with the wind and rain, occasionally there will be storms.
People who are mixed in too comfortable circles have to get by every day, and when a monk strikes a day's clock, they have no ability to take accidents and risks at all.
The famous "Stockholm syndrome" refers to a symptom that exists between intimate lovers and is also a deformed relationship.
For example, the more a man abuses a woman and tries his best to torture a woman, the more the woman not only does not hate the man, but the more she loves him, the more she depends on him.
People who can't jump out of the comfort zone in life are also like abused women, who have Stockholm syndrome, and would rather endure all kinds of torture in life and be stabbed all over the body, rather than break through themselves and give it a go.
The weak find reasons for themselves, and the strong find discomfort for themselves.
People who are difficult to come out of the comfort zone are often weak people in life, because the real strong people always find discomfort for themselves, such as anti-human learning, breakthroughs, challenges and so on.
Comfort zones are good, but they're not enough to get a foothold in a vagarious society. Only by bravely jumping out of the comfort zone can we inspire morale, strive towards a higher goal, and achieve greater achievements.
You can't do what you say, and you can do what you do
The Book of Rites and the Middle Way says, "Words must be done, and deeds must be fruitful." ”
It means that to be a person, you must be consistent with your words and deeds, and you must do what you say.
It is a very easy thing to say, it can be said to be grandiose, the sky is full of flowers, and if the results of the saying are not investigated, there are many people who say it well. But it is extremely difficult to say that it can be done.
The value of a person's life does not depend on how well he speaks, but on whether he can do what he says and whether he can produce results.
American Crocker has had many new and interesting ideas since he was a child, and people often call him "Danny Sleepwalker".
He traveled in all directions, lobbying everywhere for his strange ideas and opinions, but was often ridiculed and ridiculed.
Later, Crocker began to reflect, realizing that the problem was that he said too much and did too little.
If we talk about it on paper all the time and fail to implement it in actual action, it will give people a feeling of being ambitious and unrealistic.
Crocker decided to do everything well and conquer the people around him with his achievements.
He no longer had whimsy and ran around, but lived in Chicago, seriously worked as a salesman for the "Lili brand" paper cup, and did it for 20 years.
20 years later, Crocker started a business and invested in the establishment of "McDonald's", becoming an industry giant in the fast food industry. His bizarre ideas many years ago proved their feasibility with action.
If Crocker had not understood the principle of "believing in what he says, and doing what he does will bear fruit", it is estimated that he is probably still a useless dreamer.
People who only say and don't do are utopians, and all the beauty is a mirage;
People who talk more and do less are dreamers and will always be on the road to pursuing their dreams;
Those who do what they say are activists and will inevitably reap good results.
Write at the end:
Everyone wants to be successful, but life is long, and there are nine times out of ten that things are not satisfactory.
We should not blindly live in the pain of the past and cannot extricate ourselves, do not be devastated by sudden accidents, do not be too stable in the comfort zone, let alone do more and do less, resulting in a lifetime of inaction.
We must let go of the past and move forward easily; accept everything in life and strive to cope with it freely; constantly set new goals and achieve new breakthroughs; put ideas into action, prove ourselves with results, and conquer the world.
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