Wen | Zhiqiu (Author of Fushu)
"Life is already so difficult, some things should not be debunked."
There is a hot comment on the NetEase cloud: "When we were young, our words did not reach our expectations, and when we grew up, we could not speak insincerely." ”
Time is changing, people are changing, and perhaps this is the only way to grow.
There is always something on the mind, sad and difficult to say.
Don't easily expose an adult's lies, because behind this, there are often heartaches and grievances.
And in the lies of adults, these three sentences are often inseparable: I am fine, see you another day, and I will not do it.
"I'm okay"
Have you ever had a moment like this:
Working alone in the big city, facing the concern of your parents, no matter how you live, your answer is always: "I'm fine, it's fine." ”
Sick and hospitalized, friends are busy sneaking to see you, you comfort: "I'm fine, you go and busy with yours." ”
Others unveil your scars, mouth said don't mind ah, I am joking, you laughed and replied: "It's okay, I didn't pay attention to it." ”
But is it really all right?
When I was a child, I always thought that there was no sadness in the adult world, and when I grew up, I realized that they just wouldn't cry in front of us.
The author of the jane book @ micro-love pick-up, told a personal experience.
Once, she went to the hospital to visit her grandmother, who had just had surgery.
In the hospital room, a girl in the next bed was crying silently.
Listening to her aunt in the same room, she accidentally fell while taking a bath two days ago and caused a broken leg, and her roommate took her to the hospital.
Probably far away from home, do not want to let the family worry, the girl did not tell her parents about this matter, alone here, but in the end still can not hide from the daily condolences of her parents.
In front of the phone, the girl dried her tears, and said in a relaxed tone: "Mom, I am shopping outside with my friends, and now I am particularly noisy and unclear, you send me WeChat!" ”
Perhaps the mother heard the abnormality in her voice, and she then said: "Mom, I'm fine, hang up ha first." ”
After hanging up the phone, the girl couldn't help but shed tears again.
Jane walked over and handed her a pack of tissues and patted her on the shoulder.
The girl tried to control her emotions and said, "I'm fine, thank you." ”
After a while, he cried alone, his smile could be hidden from others, but his tears could not hide from himself.
As there is a saying: "Everyone will have their own sad things, maturity is just good at hiding, vicissitudes are just tears without hurt." ”
In the adult world, there is no easy word, many times, in order not to let the people around us worry, we are always used to people saying that it is okay, turning around and swallowing all the grievances alone.
Because we know that some of the wounds have to go on their own, and some of the wounds have to heal themselves.
"See you another day"
There is such a scene in the TV series "Old Boys":
When practicing the new song, Zhou Zhou was a little absent-minded, and his friend Xiao Han said to him: "Forget it, let's practice it another day." ”
Zhou Zhou listened with some discomfort and asked angrily, "What day is the next day?" You're going to work in the library in two days, can we still make an appointment? ”
Xiao Han was stunned for a moment, in fact, when to practice again, he couldn't say clearly, the so-called change of day was just casual talk.
It can't help but be emotional.
Most of the time, seeing another day is just a polite remark, it does not belong to a future day.
Last year, in order to attend my sister's graduation ceremony, I returned to the city where I used to work.
Thinking that a very good colleague was still working there, he asked her to meet.
She said: "I'm busy these two days, another day, another day when I have time to make an appointment with you." I responded by saying yes.
But until I left her city, we didn't see each other.
After the occasional chat, we said, as always, that we would be free to meet another day.
This has been said countless times, but not once.
We continue to be busy with each other's work and life, planning a future without each other.
There is a line in the movie "Mountains and Rivers": "Everyone can only accompany you for a while, sooner or later they will be separated." ”
Writer Chu Xiao rail also said: "In this life, an encounter, as long as each of them is okay, it is not important to contact or not." So, along the way, I am very grateful that you can come, and I am not sorry that you left. ”
Life comes and goes, the coming and going is not long, although we laugh and say that we will see the other day, but we know that it is a distant future.
At one stage of life, we walk together, and at another stage we part ways because we have different choices.
Some people, it is already very good to meet, the future of this journey, if the same road, continue to work hand in hand; if you have different roads, you can bless each other.
"Not done"
I once saw such a passage on Weibo:
"In my early twenties, I was tired at work, and I collapsed and cried while working overtime at home, and my father saw the pain and said that he wouldn't do it if he wasn't happy, and I would leave my job in a dashing manner.
At that time, I felt that my father was my lifelong backer.
After several tosses, experienced the beatings of society, the indifference of human feelings, and now the work is still tired, and there are often such and such unhappiness, but will not collapse and shed tears.
It is not easy to experience life, and after seeing the white hair of my parents, I understand that I must not only be my own backer, but also be able to rely on my parents. ”
In fact, this is not instigation, but understanding.
When we were young, we were wronged at work, and we could quit our jobs and leave.
As we grow older, we play more and more roles, and the burden on our bodies becomes heavier and heavier, and no matter how many grievances we have, we can only carry them.
When Yu Minhong founded New Oriental, there was no Internet, and the publicity relied on the school's bulletin boards and telephone poles to brush advertisements.
One of his employees was stabbed in a clash with his peers while posting an admissions advertisement.
At that time, Yu Minhong was impatient, and in order to solve the problem of grabbing land, he invited people to drink and pull resources.
At the dinner table, Yu Minhong took the wine glass, toasted one by one, drank a pound and a half of liquor a few times down, and was unconscious on the spot.
After being sent to the hospital for rescue, Yu Minhong collapsed on the hospital bed and cried: "Don't do it, Lao Tzu will never do it again!" ”
But after all, Yu Minhong, who remembered that there were still classes at night, resolutely got up from bed and went to class with his bag as usual.
I can't help but think of an article that burst the circle of friends, "The 896th Day of Wanting to Resign", which portrayed the day of ordinary professionals in the form of cartoons: the fatigue of getting up early, the crowded subway, the endless work, the unclear interpersonal relationships...
We are all people in the comic who want to leave everything behind and quit their jobs, and at the same time, we are also people who continue to work hard after the collapse.
Willfulness requires capital, and the stars and the sea will eventually need tickets.
Saying that it is not dry, while gritting his teeth and insisting on continuing to work, is the norm for adults.
The workplace does not believe in tears, rest when tired, change the mood and continue to set off, I believe that the difficult days will eventually pass.
I have seen such a sentence: "Life is already so difficult, some things should not be debunked." ”
The adult world is half revealed and half hidden.
We are accustomed to using lies to hide our troubles and to show joy on our faces.
A sentence of "I'm okay", hiding the stubborn bravery of adults;
A sentence of "see you another day" makes the parting less sad;
A sentence of "don't do it" expresses an indescribable heartache.
The rest of your life is a long road, may you be serious and hardworking, you can be gentle with life, rejoice in everything you encounter, and be gentle in what you see.
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