Wen | Xiaoxiao (Author of Fushu)
Instead of being sober in everything, it is better to be confused occasionally in order to live more comfortably.
Rockefeller said, "People who are smart are fools, and people who know how to pretend to be stupid are really smart." ”
People do not have to be too shrewd in life, too shrewd not only bother themselves, but also embarrass others.
As the saying goes, when the water is clear, there is no fish, and when people are aware, there is no vain.
Being too real will lose more.
Don't bother
Ni Ping's grandmother has always been Ni Ping's most respected person, and Ni Ping once told a story about her grandmother's past in her book.
In the early years, my grandmother had a very good relationship with the neighbor's family in the rural area, and she did not help the neighbor's family on weekdays. In the early days of liberation, he even helped hide cloth.
In the early 1970s, for the sake of their children's future, neighbors took the initiative to expose the fact that their grandmother had hidden cloth for their family.
At that time, Grandma's lips were purple with anger, and everyone thought that the two families had formed a beam and would not have any more contact in the future.
But before long, the fruit in the yard was ripe, and Grandma picked a basket of big and red fruits as in previous years, and asked the children of the family to send them to the neighbors, as if nothing had happened.
Grandma also often said: "Others make mistakes and think less about them, and think more about their own mistakes." It is not difficult for others, and don't live with yourself. ”
Ni Ping and Grandma
When she was young, Ni Ping did not understand her grandmother very much, thinking that she was "too stupid and too kind" to be. But as he grew older and more experienced, he gradually understood the true meaning of his grandmother's words.
Not caring is the wisdom of dealing with the world.
When my mother was very young, my grandfather was gone, and the family lived a particularly hard life and was often bullied. When they become adults, no one bullies them anymore.
However, every time I chatted with my mother, my mother would always say that the villagers had helped their family and never mentioned that others bullied them.
Whenever someone mentioned the events of that year, her mother would always laugh and say: "Forget to forget, forget early, don't be too calculating, let the past things pass." ”
I think Ni Ping's grandmother and my mother are really smart people.
The French Enlightenment thinker Voltaire said: "What makes people tired is not the distant mountains, but a grain of sand in the shoes." ”
People live a lifetime, and the reason why they live very tired is mostly because they have too much to think about.
"Cai Gen Tan" has a saying: "Sleep eight feet at night, two liters a day, why bother." ”
In life, it is inevitable to encounter unsatisfactory things, be more tolerant, calm your mind, and look down on it.
There is a way that the heart is one inch wide and the clouds open the moon, and the step back is high in the sea and the sky.
Only by letting go of the faults of others can we truly untie our own knots. Instead of fighting for it, it is better to let it go.
Many times, the source of people's happiness comes from our hearts, less calculations, less troubles, and happiness.
If the heart is indifferent, there is happiness in it.
No entanglement
In life, we often argue with others in order to fight for a breath, and as a result, we lose more.
As the saying goes, kill a thousand enemies and inflict eight hundred self-inflicted wounds.
A few days ago, my cousin rode an electric car to work and accidentally rubbed a vegetable basket that a big mother put on the side of the road.
The aunt immediately broke out and scolded, and did not ask her cousin to pay 300 yuan.
The cousin felt that it was the big mother who was at a loss, should not set up a stall on the side of the road, and could only give her 100 at most, but she was angry and argued with the big mother.
The more the two quarreled, the more intense, and the aunt even slapped her cousin.
In the end, the police were alarmed, and the aunt was forced to apologize to her cousin and was warned for setting up a stall on the side of the road.
The cousin seemed to win, but in fact she was delayed for a morning, and was deducted half a day's salary and attendance award.
Many times, with unreasonable people, hard to touch can only break the head and bleed.
Instead of getting entangled with this kind of person, it is better to take the initiative to take some losses, save your time and energy, and do more important things.
Once, Di Renjie and Di Chun were out on an errand, and when they arrived at the meal, they came to a small shop to eat.
They waited for a long time before they saw that there was room for them. The two of them sat down busily, and Di Chun saw that the guys in the shop were too busy to come, so he took matters into his own hands to clean up the dishes on the table.
After a while, a beggar came to them and accused: "I haven't finished eating, why did you dump my food?" ”
Di Chun was speechless and offered to help the beggar buy another piece of food. Who knew that the beggar did not agree, but demanded to compensate himself for one or two pieces of silver.
One or two pieces of silver could buy several tables of meals at that time, and Di Chun was very angry and argued with the beggars.
When Di Renjie saw this, he quickly smiled and asked Di Chun to give one or two pieces of silver to the beggar.
Di Chun was very puzzled, and felt that the beggar should not be cheapened, but Di Renjie said that if he missed the right thing for this matter, he would not be able to draw it.
There is a saying that goes: "The general has a sword and does not cut down flies; the general rushes the road, and does not chase the rabbit." ”
Life is short and you don't have to waste it on rotten people.
When you meet scum people, you can hide, and when you encounter bad things, you can avoid them. Not being entangled is the great wisdom of life.
Ignore it, it seems cowardly to suffer losses, but in fact, it is a timely stop loss.
Truly intelligent people do not care about the gains and losses of a city and a pool, but understand that it is a blessing to suffer losses.
Not to say broken
Netizen @manman shared an experience of his own.
When Man Man just graduated, he shared a house with friends, commuted to work together, cooked together, watched TV together, went shopping together, and got along very well.
Later, a full of long-distance boyfriends came to work in her city.
She thought about it for a long time and finally decided to move out with her boyfriend.
But within a month, she discovered that her boyfriend had an ambiguous relationship with another girl.
She was furious and moved out after a big fight with her boyfriend.
Sad and tired, she came to her friend's residence, and the moment she met her friend, all the grievances and guilt turned into tears and poured down.
Without waiting for her to speak, the friend took her luggage and said:
"Knowing that I've been bored lately, you're coming back to stay with me, aren't you?"
After so many years, whenever she thought about it, she felt an incomparable warmth in her heart.
She was very grateful to her friend for accepting her when she was helpless and didn't say a word.
Seeing through the unspoken is a kind of respect and a kind of kindness.
There are always some people who like to be clever and always want to break others with a word.
But I don't know that many times, when others are sad and sad, they are most afraid of being mentioned or questioned.
And a really smart person will not pierce the sore spots of others.
There is a popular saying on the Internet: "Knowing not to ask is cultivation, and seeing through without saying is wisdom." ”
When others are embarrassed, knowing how to pretend to be stupid and not say broken is the practice of a smart person.
Bai Yansong once said: "There are two basic points in life, one is the dashing point, and the other is the confusion point." ”
People live a lifetime, sober is easy, confused is difficult. Life is rarely confused, and it is even more expensive to be confused.
Confusion is not stupidity, but transparency and freedom.
Interact with people, be tolerant, and don't worry;
When encountering rotten people, suffer a little loss, do not have to be entangled;
See through the things, pretend to be stupid, needless to say broken.
Zhuangzi once said: "Great wisdom is like foolishness, and great cleverness is like clumsiness." ”
For everything in the world, a little confusion is the highest realm.
For the rest of your life, may you and I live as superficially confused, penetrating in heart, and wise as foolish people.
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