The so-called reliable people are that everything has an account, everything has a fall, and everything has an echo.
It's just that some people don't understand what responsibility is, and they don't understand what gratitude is, they only feel that other people's efforts are deserved, and even feel that others have not helped themselves, in fact, this is a manifestation of immaturity and selfishness, we should know how to be grateful, know how to reciprocate, and know how to understand the difficulty of others.
The mother hates that iron is not steel, and the daughter works and runs away with people
Xiaoxiao, who lives in Taiyuan, is 34 years old this year, in 2017, she divorced because of her feelings, her daughter was also raised by her, Xiaoxiao was a life teacher in kindergarten on weekdays, because of her busy work, her daughter has always been a mother helping to manage, only on Saturdays and Sundays, Xiaoxiao will take her daughter to eat and drink, cultivate feelings.
Such a day has passed more than two years, xiaoxiao remarried in early 2020, and then gave birth to a daughter, and now life is stable, she wants to take the eldest daughter back to the family for the New Year this year, by the way, let the mother rest, wait until the second day of the New Year to send back to the mother.
But what she did not expect was that she sent a message to her mother, but the mother said that she would not let her see the child, at first Xiaoxiao thought that it might be that the mother had been carrying the child, and suddenly picked up the mother would be a little reluctant, so she did not force it, and after a few days she wanted to talk to her mother about this matter again, but the mother blocked her phone and WeChat.
Seeing her mother's operation like this, Xiaoxiao made a mistake for a while, and her heart ached so much that she shed tears, she wanted to find her mother and ask what was going on, how could she not let herself see her daughter?
Then drive 20 minutes, Xiaoxiao came to the mother's home, but no matter how to knock on the door, the back room did not respond at all, helplessly changed a phone to dial the mother Zhang Aunt's phone, the phone on the other end of the aunt Zhang mentioned the daughter on a stomach of anger, bluntly said that she did not want to see her daughter, now with her granddaughter in a friend's house, the next day back to chat alone.
Early the next morning, as scheduled to see Aunt Zhang, her home is very clean, and the wall is also pasted with the child's learning literacy table, the sofa is placed on the new bag, it is not difficult to see that Aunt Zhang has an attitude towards life, and her granddaughter is also well taken care of by her.
Just sat down, Aunt Zhang said a stomach grievance, the original Aunt Zhang is 58 years old, since the daughter divorced the granddaughter has lived here, now there are three or four years, it can be said that the granddaughter is brought up by her hand, but the granddaughter's health is not good, 8 years old only 38 pounds, there is anorexia, but thin, three days of illness at both ends, no resistance at all.
So Aunt Zhang changes the pattern every day to make food for her granddaughter, also bought a bunch of medicines and toys, and rides an electric car to pick up and drop off children to and from school rain or shine every day.
Another is that the child is older, every day to see others are mothers to pick up, she also wants the mother, see the mother in the cartoon, the child will also chant, where is the mother? How my mother is not as good as the mother in the cartoon, whenever I hear this, Aunt Zhang's heart is not a taste, as she speaks, her eyes are also red.
It's just that Aunt Zhang's words also make people wonder, since you are a little powerless, the child also needs a mother, and now the daughter comes to pick up the child, but Why did Aunt Zhang block the daughter and not let her see it?
Mentioning this stubble, Aunt Zhang is also very helpless, she frankly said that it is not to let her daughter see the child, no matter when the daughter comes, this is her freedom, but there is a problem stuck in the middle of the daughter to say that it does not make sense, which is angry to block the daughter.
The reason was only after learning that when Xiaoxiao proposed to take the child back to her new home for the New Year, Aunt Zhang was also very happy, but before Xiaoxiao, the former son-in-law had already proposed to take the child back to her grandmother's house for the New Year, and Aunt Zhang also promised the former son-in-law, and as a result, Xiaoxiao proposed this matter again, but it was not a conflict.
In Aunt Zhang's view, she had promised the former son-in-law long ago, and now she had to regret it and was really embarrassed to open her mouth, so she told her daughter that she would find a suitable time to talk to the former son-in-law slowly, to see if the child could first go to the daughter's house to live for a period of time, and then go to the former son-in-law's house to live for a period of time, anyway, the New Year is still early, not in a hurry.
However, Xiaoxiao's side was unwilling, and she had to give her an answer on the same day, and she kept calling and sending messages to urge her mother, and said why didn't she inform me, why did you arrange it, and you could represent the child's mother?
XiaoXiao's complaints are uncontrollable, directly sent to the early morning at all, this most of the night Aunt Zhang is even more embarrassed to contact the former son-in-law to communicate, and then see the daughter's incessant complaints and complaints do not make sense, Aunt Zhang was upset to pull her black.
Logically, Xiao Xiao's words are not wrong, after all, she is the guardian of the child, when the grandmother really can not be too much for the child, but this is not a big problem, Xiao Xiao is so anxious to ask the mother to give an answer, even the room for negotiation is wood?
When Xiaoxiao talked about this matter, when he learned that his ex-husband was going to pick up the child and go home for the New Year, he called his ex-husband, and as a result, his ex-husband has not answered the phone, and he is afraid that this matter will not be settled today, so he hurriedly urged his mother.
As for why there is no room for negotiation, after all, finding a suitable time to discuss this matter is not a problem, but on this point, Xiaoxiao is silent, perhaps this is the case.
Seeing the silent daughter, Aunt Zhang is hating iron and steel, she said that she was not at ease to give the child to her daughter, the daughter said that she left the child behind, said that she ran away, in short, she has been so unreliable, saying that the wind is rain, and her face has become faster than the sky.
In 2017, she divorced, it is not easy to see her alone with the child, we will help her take care of the child, but she took it for granted, in 2018, she will come back two days a week to accompany the child, and then simply disappeared.
Part-time work is also here to do two days, there to do two days, part-time work is not her purpose at all, the purpose is to find a partner, and later through inquiry to know, she made a new boyfriend and ran to the south with others, stayed for two months before returning.
Hearing her mother talk about this, Xiaoxiao did not take this stubble at all, but said that no matter where she went, no matter how difficult it was, she would give her mother back the child's maintenance, even if she earned 1,000 yuan, she would also give her mother eight hundred, and even if she didn't leave a penny, she would give it to her mother.
To say that Xiaoxiao's care of the child is your responsibility, which can leave the child and leave, and the child needs not only money, but also your mother's love.
At this time, Aunt Zhang admitted that her daughter would call her back for one or two hundred yuan if she was fine, but she didn't care how much her daughter could earn, she wanted her daughter to be able to take care of the child more, during that time she was anxious and angry, angry that the daughter left the child irresponsible, anxious to worry that her daughter was a person who was not familiar with the land in the field and was wronged.
In this way, Aunt Zhang is a night of insomnia can not sleep, the whole person is physically and mentally exhausted, until January 2019, the daughter finally returned, but what makes Aunt Zhang cold is that it is better not to come back, the daughter did not say that she cultivated feelings with the child, and even the child did not ask more.
At that time, it was almost the New Year, Aunt Zhang thought of cleaning up the house with her daughter, the glass should be wiped, and the couplet should be pasted at that time, but too much, the daughter said that she had found a new object and wanted to leave the home completely.
Aunt Zhang did not say much, said that after the end of the year and then set this matter, but after a few days, the daughter left the child and went directly, ran to the man's house for the New Year, this operation is simply not to put Aunt Zhang to be angry, but afterwards angry, considering that the child wants to mother, in the summer of 2019, Aunt Zhang also sent the child to the daughter, and wanted the mother and daughter to establish some feelings.
The result is that the daughter is too unreliable, the child sent to the past few days to get sick and fever, this fever is three days, let the daughter take the child to the hospital, but the daughter just does not go.
Speaking of this, Xiaoxiao also made an explanation, at that time it was indeed run to the man's home for the New Year, as for whether to consider the daughter, Xiaoxiao did not respond, but she said that her daughter was sick and she also went to the hospital to ask the doctor, the children were fever at night, the day was good, the doctor said that there was no need for infusion, take medicine on the line.
Listen, the mother Aunt Zhang is not angry, the child's situation you do not understand at all, said let you go to the hospital to go to the hospital, the child has a fever is bronchitis, pneumonia, is to infuse, even fever for three days and take medicine, what do you think?
Later, when she saw that the daughter did not send the child to the hospital, Aunt Zhang let the daughter not send the child back, the daughter was not ambiguous, the next day she and the man's taxi to the child to the clinic near the home, and when Aunt Zhang arrived, the daughter did not say that the child was put down and directly left with the man's taxi.
Now looking back on the past, Aunt Zhang is still very angry, people just put the child there and left, the rest is my business, after the fact, the daughter did not even ask if the child's illness was good, it was still raining that day, after the child was infused, but also riding an electric car, and wearing a raincoat, and protecting the child, not to mention how difficult it is.
I have to say that Xiaoxiao's mother is really irresponsible, didn't your boyfriend persuade you to stay and take care of the child at that time? Xiaoxiao said that people didn't say anything, they said that the child was left to my mother to take care of, and he thought the same thing, so he left.
This of course looks really infuriating, no wonder Aunt Zhang said that you are not reliable, it is simply too unreliable, and then Aunt Zhang said again, although the daughter is not reliable, but the former son-in-law can be much more reliable than her, after the child fell ill, the former son-in-law has been caring for the child.
Speaking Aunt Zhang took out the mobile phone to turn out the former son-in-law's WeChat chat records, it turned out that Aunt Zhang did not understand the process of appointment and registration, all of which were patiently taught to her by the former son-in-law, and the former son-in-law also drove directly to pick up the child to go to the big hospital, infusion, hospitalization are the former son-in-law is accompanied, the daughter is never asked.
Then Aunt Zhang also dialed the phone of the former son-in-law, mentioned the child's illness, he was also very angry, the former son-in-law confessed that the child's health is not good, frequent pneumonia, sick should be taken seriously, can not delay, the last time was pneumonia hospitalized.
Speaking of the ex-wife, he is even more frank that the ex-wife simply has no ability to raise children, the child can be said to have been brought up by the grandmother, he also wants to take back the custody of the child, but considering that the old man and the child have feelings, so he does not want to make the relationship too stiff, and now that the ex-wife remarries and has children, the custody of the child will be fought for after he will try to win it.
After the former son-in-law hung up the phone, Aunt Zhang once again accused her daughter, she was not grateful for helping her with the child, and said that I dominated the child as my own girl, to ask her whether she agreed, the child's father did not agree, this can be said, she is thinking.
Hearing her mother's accusations, Xiaoxiao was still a little unconvinced, bluntly saying that she did not come back to take the child, that is, she could not accept the mother's way of speaking, in short, the mother always poured cold water, she was outside this year, the most difficult and difficult time, she did not say to help me.
Before the words are finished, everyone present can't listen to it, why does your mother help you, they have helped you with children for so many years, if you don't help you, can you find a boyfriend everywhere? Can you run here and there every day? People must learn to be content, learn to be grateful, can't help you, and help an enemy to come.
And Aunt Zhang also said that she has to manage the children, how can she still help you? Ming told you that the child is handed over to her father and does not dare to hand it over to you, you are not reliable at all, how can people rest assured.
It may be that no one has ever heard these words, Xiaoxiao also burst into tears in an instant, she also realized her mistake, and finally after persuasion, the child still needs a mother after all, and living with the mother is definitely better for growth, and this family affection cannot be missing.
Aunt Zhang also eased up, in fact, she was worried that her granddaughter was not in good health, and she needed to be careful if she took care of her, and she was not assured that her daughter would take care of the child, but she was also willing to let her daughter try, and then she told her daughter about the child's learning, and she did not think that the daughter did not even know the software that the child learned, the class group.
After a while of guidance, the daughter figured out the situation, and she also told her mother that she would first take the child back to live for a few days, let the mother see the effect, let the mother rest assured, and then slowly overdo it herself with the child.
In this way, the unreliable mother finally took back the child, as to whether it will be brought well in the future, it is unknown, but in the current situation, since Xiaoxiao remarried and has a child, this child is still more appropriate to follow the ex-husband, after all, the ex-husband is still relatively reliable.
Few people understand the helplessness of the elderly
Many young people always have an illusion that their parents' efforts are deserved, and their own enjoyment is also deserved, but they do not know that in fact, the elderly are also very helpless.
Parents manage more, and children feel that their parents are very annoyed, and there are too many things to manage. No matter what, when you say that you are difficult, your parents have not thought of helping themselves, what do you say the elderly should do? How to do it is reasonable, how to do it will fall into resentment.
In fact, parents should experience the grace of parents, but also should assume the responsibility of being a parent, parents have the ability to help themselves, then they must give back to their parents with a grateful heart, parents are not able to help themselves, but they can take care of themselves, that is the greatest help to themselves.
For Xiaoxiao, perhaps her mother helped her too much, so that she lost herself, thinking that she was working hard herself, fortunately, after hearing some accusations, she finally faced her own problems, it turned out that she was nothing, she could see herself clearly, and she could learn to grow.
What do you think about that? Everyone is welcome to express their opinions and give different voices, thank you.